The relationship between people is seasonal

Taiji wrote in his book, "Human Loss" :

We are always caught off guard when we meet, and parting is planned for a long time. We should get used to the hot and cold around us, and we should also see those who are drifting away.

Adult relationships are more fragile than we think.

No friend can escape the vicissitudes of reality;

Then love the partner, will eventually face the test of life.

At the beginning, everyone makes a lasting vow.

Can end, but tacit choice from each other's life disappeared, even a good farewell, all feel is a kind of bother.

Relationships between people are seasonal.

No matter who it is, they can only accompany you for one ride.

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Some people, walk away

Twenty years ago, along with the streets "accompany you to see the meteor shower" singing, four boys into the hearts of countless people.

Meteor Garden became a hit, making F4 one of the most popular boy bands in Asia.

In the days that followed, the four toured, attended events and gave interviews together, and were inseparable.

In front of the stage and behind the scenes, they are tacit brothers, sharing the glory and misery brought by fame and wealth, but also witnessing each other's youth and growth.

However, only two or three years later, the four announced that the group disbanded, their own solo.

Since then, they have rarely been in the spotlight together or contacted each other privately.

Vic Chou devoted himself to the film industry; Wu Jianhao formed a new singing and dancing group;

Yan Chengxu plays the leading role in idol dramas; Zhu Xiaotian in the experience of ups and downs, choose to study and retire.

Not long ago, Wu Jianhao took part in the recording of the variety show "Friends, Please listen well", was asked by the host why the group disbanded.

He pondered for a long time, and seemed unable to find an answer, but explained vaguely:

"It could be that everyone has different choices about the future."

Writer Liu Tong said:

Those who you thought were very good friends, those who you thought would always go along with the people, do not know when in the road lost.

From the youth of no words do not talk, to grow up have nothing to say.

Maintain a friendship needs to be careful, and end a friendship, sometimes just a casual.

At every stage of life, we meet some people, because of similar goals, we go together.

However, when the focus of life shifts in different directions, some people choose to return to their families, while others continue to struggle with their careers.

When our lives no longer intersect, common topics become less and less.

Maybe occasionally, we will think of each other, just click the chat box, after a few small talk, find that we do not know what to talk about.

Slowly, once a good friend, became a long time in the address book has not opened the contact.

Friends, is so separated, not who did something wrong, just experience is different, they are not willing to pretend to be familiar.

When I grew up, I understood that sentence:

"Breaking up groups is a normal part of life. We are not an exception."

Those who have a heart to heart with us, one day will have to part ways in the passage of time.

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Some love to talk about the light

In the TV drama "Settling Down", wife Gong Beibei and husband Liu Sili quarrel on the way to see the house.

Gong Beibei complained that Liu Sili would only ask three questions when he came home from work every day:

How is your son in kindergarten today? Is parents' blood pressure normal? Do you have enough change for groceries? Other than that, they didn't communicate.

Looking back on her married life, Gong Beibei is full of grievances.

She took care of her two sons by herself, and her husband never did anything, not even changing a diaper.

She has to take care of her husband as well as her children.

Once, she went to buy breakfast for her husband after the night shift. Instead of being grateful, he complained that the churros were cold and asked her to change them.

She got up early and worked late for the family, just hoping to hear a thoughtful word from her husband, but she never got it.

Upon hearing this, Liu Sili was not impressed. Instead, she thought Gong was being unreasonable and asked, "Isn't this the way middle-aged people get married?"

Disappointed, Gong Beibei filed for divorce.

There is a hot topic on the Internet, "What will life be like for middle-aged couples?"

Some people say that a marriage has entered a flat phase, the passion has faded, only a field of feathers;

Some people say that life is just getting by, not talking to each other, on the children to survive;

Some people say that both sides like to boil on the fire, want to leave but can not leave, thought and had a bad.

How many marriages, at the beginning, the two sides hold hands, make vows to grow old together;

But before long, you and I become strangers, say a word has become a luxury, want a comfort can not be responded.

No cheating, no betrayal, just because you are no longer willing to take the time to listen to my happiness, I no longer have the patience to understand your hard work.

Once intimate how happy, the reality of alienation is more chilling.

The man who promised to spend his life together, but at the crossroads of life, each ran.

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The relationship between people is seasonal

Writer Yi-Shu said:

Fate of the journey, everyone's performance time is stipulated, the time to leave, how unwilling, also have to leave.

When I was young, I dreamed of meeting forever; After growing up, just understand what is forever.

The so-called forever, is to use a lifetime of time, go further and further.

Life, is in a long journey, while meeting, goodbye.

Years of the train, someone gets on, someone arrives at the station.

You have to slowly learn to accept that there are too many people, walking away; There are too many feelings, talking about the light.

The relationship between people is seasonal, most people, can only walk with you for a period.

Between relatives, is each other to see the back of the fading away.

Even if blood is thicker than water, one day we have to accept separation. If we want to see each other, we have to cross rivers and mountains, and we have to piece together some time.

Between partners, is a compromise of both sides.

Even if you have been deeply attached to each other, one day you will understand that romance is short-lived, and that real marriages rely on mutual consultation. In the end, life has to be managed carefully.

Between friends, is you and I understand the equivalent exchange.

Once thought indestructible dependence on the relationship, one day will be aware, when you are of no use to others, the boat of friendship said to turn over.

When the person with you wants to leave, even if you don't give up, also want to smile and wave goodbye, there will be weak water for the sea, no acacia sent Wushan.

Your relationship with anyone has an expiration date.

Like flowers sometimes, wither is inevitable; Season flow, not for who stay.

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The best way for adults to get along:

Come to cherish, go relieved.

Adult feelings, both in each other, but also have different circumstances; There are unexpected encounters, and there are no results.

Be together is lucky, but regret is often.

Although there are regrets, but calm to accept, this is the feeling of decency.

People to middle age, experienced parting, tasted regret, only gradually understand, enduring as the universe is a kind of good hope, gathering and scattering is the daily life.

Although many people did not accompany you to the end, they have warmed you and me for a period of time, it is still precious.

Liang Shiqiu wrote in his essay Farewell:

"You go, I don't send you, you come, no matter how much wind and rain, I want to pick you up."

Adults get along with the best way, is to come to cherish, go relieved, do your best, let nature take its course.

People around you, cherish it, don't leave regret; Separated people, put down coercion, silent blessing.

Don't let the people who love you sad, don't be sad for the people who don't deserve, close and distant, not owe.

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