The Power of the Pen

The power of the pen is actually more dangerous than a word that slips from someone mouth. Yeah, anyone can use the excuse that they were in the moment of passion when those words slipped. However, when pen meets paper, there is a clear thought and the communicated message, positive or negative; should have factored some consideration before presenting.

I think everyone should practice the art of writing to their significant others from time to time during the relationship. Words on paper presents various opportunities of expression in a safe way. Life will bring many situations that will challenge the couple and I think without some kind of plan written out, there is a chance for failure.

Writing helps with accountability! Put your words on paper and let your promises be set in stone. Men have problems remember things! Yes, I said men have problems remembering. Should it be a formal written contract? Maybe not, but a solid reminder that you plan to do good by your special partner. We often get caught in the cycle of life and the next thing we know, six months later of paying bills and just surviving and not living life.

Even if keeping a journal and going back to your journal to reference what you promised your partner, is better than just speaking empty words. Use a combination of journaling and even writing to your partner from time to time. We live in a electronic world where we can program our laptops and tablets to type what we say. Written form of communication to your partner can provide so much clarity to the relationship and it opens dialog to clear up any misunderstandings that may surface.

Written expression is something that you cannot master overnight. It takes consistency and at least 30 minutes to gather your thoughts on paper and present them to your partner. I challenge you to just start with something small. Send your partner an email asking about their day, or just tell them how you feel about a topic or event and ask for their input. Now stay away from texting communication like this. Texting should only be used for short messages like "I'm five minutes late" the simple things in my opinion. Some of us today hide behind texting (save that for another short story).

Just start writing and see how your partner responds. Try to make it a part of your routine and increase or decrease how you see fit. Take some time to write on a frequency that is comfortable, but don't use it as a weapon. Written communication between special partners should never be used at a "gotcha" moment. Retreat to those words for better understanding and for relationship building.

I highly recommend it if there are problems in the relationship and counseling is not a remote possibility. Even though mental counselling should be a part of growth, but I will save that for another story. Words to paper (or screen) helps with communication and will support the relationship with growth. It is the bridge to clear thought and a better connection by helping your significant other with understanding of you.

Most women don't have a problem with written communication or journaling. We have lived in a society that has place a shame on what men and women should do over the years, but times are coming around to where it is ok for men to express themselves (it always was ok).

Most importantly, if you take the time to write to your partner, consideration for your partner will come natural and self expression will be like second nature. It is worth a try because all this other stuff is not working. Lets get together and bridge love the way it is supposed to be.