The fear stems from

When a person has fear, it often comes from two factors: one is the fear of the unknown, and the other is the fear caused by long-term oppression. A person will always encounter things in life that they can not do anything about, fear and fear are inevitable.

The fear of the unknown is more about the fear of bringing harm to oneself and therefore feeling fear. In interaction with nature, people are from unfamiliar to familiar, from passive to active, this fear and fear will slowly dissipate with time and understanding of things until it becomes normal.

The fear and dread from long-term oppression come more from the living environment of the family of origin. Dogs that live in wolves for a long time will become wild from docile; tigers that are kept in zoos for a long time will slowly lose the ability to catch their prey. The environment nurtures people, and the environment changes people.

Growing up in a family where the father is often angry, and oppressed by the father's hot temper for a long time, the adult will project that fear and dread of the father into an authority role similar to the father's, such as the leader. He will then demonize the authority of the leader, believing that the leader can control his life.

If it is a girl and her energy is relatively low, then in the workplace if she is unfortunate enough to meet a boss who often harasses her, she is likely to choose to put up with it and suffer everything in silence, just like in her family, or even keep being played by her lecherous boss until her life is ruined.

Many children grow up under the wing of a strong father or mother, and grow up to be cowering, obsequious, and have to ask their parents for advice on everything, becoming "bad boys" and "momboys" in the eyes of others, and once their parents are not around or have left. The first thing you need to do is to ask your parents for advice.

Each child is born with plasticity, can become a flower, can become a tree, can become a lake, can become a mountain. Parents can guide, but not completely for the child to make the decision, each child has its sun in the heart, and aspire to the star.

If parents forcefully ask the child this can not that can not, the child's pursuit of psychological will slowly be worn out, in the end, do not know what they want, and do not know how to resist, the parents decided to become their own decision. When you get to the workplace, you become a puppet, the leader how to do not dare to resist.

People who have been oppressed by their families for too long will be oppressed in the workplace and will be bullied when they enter society. Perhaps some people will resist, but at this time the resistance will often go from one extreme to another, from the original silently bearing everything, into the destruction of everything, including his own.

When a child does something wrong for the first time, parents who are reasonable and tell the child what the consequences of doing so will be, and the child can gradually understand their mistakes. If parents do not take it seriously, the child will continue to make mistakes, thinking that it does not matter, anyway, parents will not do anything to themselves.

If the parents do not ask questions, directly a single or mixed double, the child will be afraid and fearful. If the parents reprimand or beat them every time they make a little mistake or are not perfect enough next, the child will be afraid to do anything and will remain so as an adult.

Just like a frog that keeps jumping to the wellhead, if the first time only one meter from the wellhead, the second time or one meter, the next are not more than one meter, then the latter frog will set a maximum value for themselves, thinking that the height of their jump from the wellhead is there a meter, and will never again power up.

Over time, in the habit of making, the frog will jump lower and lower, until finally creeping at the bottom of the well, thinking that it will not jump, losing the ability to jump. Not frogs can not jump, but long-term psychological oppression leads to frogs mistakenly believing that they jump low and will not jump.

The same is true for people, once the oppression and the unknown, do not lead to fear and fear for a long time, long-term in the unknown and fear of the environment will make people lose the original should have judgment, let the fear and fear haunt them, thus forgetting their original can change the status quo and then compromise to the environment.

The impact of a family of origin on children, often because of the long-term suppression of children, so that children forget the world's diversity and variability, will only follow the trajectory of the movement of the family of origin to plan their lives, following the trajectory of the past, even if the walk down the abyss, will not change direction.