I guess you could say that I was feeling quite excited about this date. We have been texting for quite a while and we seemed to be hitting it off pretty well. So when he invited me to go hiking and see the fall foliage, I was pretty pumped. I got ready and put on my best looking pair of work out pants, the ones that made my booty look very nice, and a cute black t-shirt and my new grey and black sneakers. I pulled my hair up into a tight ponytail and grabbed my black Nike drawstring bag, I was ready.
On this particular date, my birthday had just passed and my fiancé and I were celebrating. He took me into Norman, Oklahoma to eat Red Lobster, shop, and just have fun. We had gotten into town right about the time that Red Lobster opened, so that was awesome. I hate being in crowded restaurants. So we are seated and I ordered, for the first time in my life, lobster and shrimp. I had never had a whole lobster before so I was excited! The waiter then took our menus and we were left to sit in romantic lighting, talking and stuffing our faces with delicious biscuits. I picked up the alcohol pamphlet they leave at your table and I was really studying when our waiter came, and he asked us if we wanted an alcoholic beverage to go with our dinner. I'm all like "eh, why not?" And I guess I forgot what I ordered...I have no idea why in the world I would do such a thing, but I did it. I ordered a freaking mudslide; chocolate liqueur and kaluha. It looked so yummy on the paper...but I was wrong. So, so dumb.
So everyone has that one story about either a person they went on a date with or even dated. You know, where that person is super awkward or odd. There’s just something off about them that you can’t put your finger on. Well that’s how I felt when I first met, let’s call him, Al. He was cute, in a quirky weird kind of way, but I was attracted to that. We first met in high school, freshman year. Al was pretty popular, while I, on the other kept to a much smaller group of friends. So how he even noticed me is beyond my understanding. So we met, became friends, and eventually started dating. A normal progression right? I remember thinking during our friendship phase how good of a boyfriend he would be.
It was winter time. Cold and dreary. I was 19 years old and twice over a new mother. I had found out my boyfriend of four years had been cheating on me with his sister's best friend. I had thought he was out working many nights when, in fact, they were sleeping together and staying in his car those nights. I was devastated. My youngest was just a few months old.
#MyWorstDate A cute guy struck up a conversation with me while we were climbing the bouldering routes at the gym. Good beginning, right? Yeah, that’s where the story peaks.
This Is What You Came For
I've always been put off by the idea of dating, I'm more of a "love at first sight" kind of person. My friends and family often poked fun at this, believing me overly selective. They thought if a guy seemed nice and was reasonably attractive, that I should,"stop being such a snob and give him a chance." Let me be clear, I wasn't a gold digger or excessively shallow type, but I didn't want to waste time with anyone with whom I didn't share that special spark! I suppose my friend's lectures eventually wore me down though, priming me for the events I'm about to share.
It all started with the Bumble era. Although I had been single for almost 7 years, I was living my best life. Then, society was like “You’re single? Oh, honey, you’re not happy” and I was like “Omg, you’re right, I’m going to be 30 in a couple years and I want to have a husband to like subsidize the rent and kill spiders and stuff.” Ya know, all the normal things that millennial girls dream about. So, there I was, downloading this new app called “Bumble,” which my friend called “the classy Tinder.” I would come to learn that no such oxymoron exists.
I made it to 31. One year older and another year wiser. I was out enjoying drinks with my younger sister, and after many laughs and shots she suggested that I join a popular dating app that millions of people use. She stated that she knows couples who have met through the site and some have even gotten married. I was unsure about it. After reading countless stories of dates going wrong, I dismissed her sentiment. As 2018 approached I thought of all the countless things I want to carry out in the coming year. One of those accomplishments is to discover love and happiness.
*names have been changed in this story*
Have you ever been encouraged to go on a blind date? Maybe you were merely pressured to join an online dating site, because you friends felt as though you were alone on the weekends while your children were spending their weekends with their father.