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  • Taylor Hagemann
    Published 15 days ago
    Don’t Move In With Him, Stupid!
Written By Taylor Hagemann

    Don’t Move In With Him, Stupid! Written By Taylor Hagemann

    Sorry for the abrasive title but oh boy, this ones gonna be messy! I want you to know, I’m not directly calling anyone “stupid” besides myself. Today I am going to (try) and dig deep into why you shouldn’t live with a significant other until you’re both ready. You might think that living together would be fun, right? WRONG. Throw that idea away because eighty percent of the time you will ultimately break up. Actually, probably more than eighty percent of the time, I was just trying to be nice. I am writing this for people who are dating so if you’re married this does not pertain to you directly. This is one hundred percent an opinion piece, and yes, I am trying to scare you. Living with a boyfriend or girlfriend sucks.
  • map
    Published 15 days ago
    Detoxing a man I never dated from my life

    Detoxing a man I never dated from my life

    Man, we have heard women complain about them for a longer time. We have listened to it in movies, in TV series, in conversations with friends and family members. And though the brain of a man is different from a woman's, I feel that what we are complaining about is the person we are having or considering a relationship with.
  • Jide Okonjo
    Published 16 days ago
    7 Best Answers to Trending Argument, 'JIDE/ANITA'
  • Jide Okonjo
    Published 16 days ago
    Storytime: The Day I Realized My Boyfriend Was Broke.
  • Kui Mwai
    Published 16 days ago
    Are you overprotecting your relationship?

    Are you overprotecting your relationship?

    I asked myself this post’s titular question last week when I found myself at odds with two friends about the frequency in which they asked about my relationship. The first quarrel was initiated by a routine “catch me up” conversation via text with a dear friend of mine. We exchanged brief updates regarding the status of our sanity, work, and friends. I then asked her about her love life, in which she giddily revealed that her relationship had recently reached new heights. I was thrilled for her and expressed my congratulations with copious amounts of heart emojis, exclamation marks, and gifs of cartoons swooning.
  • JaneC Powell
    Published 16 days ago
    Long-Term Couples Who Choose To Live Apart: Why Do You Do It?

    Long-Term Couples Who Choose To Live Apart: Why Do You Do It?

    Most conventional thought surrounding known couples, either dating or married, in the general environment is that they should be living together in the same context, under the same roof with the person that is claimed to be your better half or your lover. It becomes a different case to know that some people are married but living apart while some are just being a couple without being married. In civilized societies, it is seen as usual for these unmarried couples to cohabit together even without marriage, especially when in a long-termed relationship. To most people, they see it as there is a problem somewhere in the mix, but an insider question will be, why do they do it?
  • Christina Doroghazi
    Published 16 days ago
    Love is ineffable

    Love is ineffable

    Love is strange, it can be compared to so many things in life. On the top of my head, the best of example I can think of is - love is like flipping a coin, you know that moment where you’re not supposed to hope for a certain outcome while the coin is in the air because that defeats the purpose of a coin flip? Well, you do, and in love, of course, you hope that it will be ever-lasting and beautiful, however, it’s 50/50 either the love (or the coin) will turn into an outcome that you’ve hoped for or it will be the exact opposite there cannot be a third alternative. You think love should be simple right? If the person already fell in love with you then why is it allowed for that person to fall out of love with you for the same reason they fell in love? How does that make any fucking sense? The definition of love is “an intense feeling of deep affection.” But what does that mean? So let us define affection and break it down “a gentle feeling of fondness or liking.” so basically it is an intense feeling towards a certain person, well how much stranger can it get, yet we trust and rely on such things, things we cannot study nor see or even hear, it is strange indeed. We do not know exactly how love can be broken down, it is simply a feeling, like how you feel hungry, yet we get heartaches and our heart beats faster when we are surrounded by love just what a feeling can do to our physical state. In theory, love is supposed to be the best feeling in the world, like a spring day where you’re somehow surrounded by flowers, daisies. It's silly because daisy’s aren’t even the best flowers yet it is the most common theme people think of when they think of love, not even roses which are an actual symbol of love in our society. Even so, love is almost always categorized with heartbreak, the most excruciating feeling in the world, why? Why do we put love (good) and heartbreak (bad) into the same category? I believe it is because people do not know what love is, aforementioned love is a feeling of deep affection towards someone, well you can love your parents and your friends, therefore you cannot ever truly be sure that the love you share with a certain someone is the true maximum “love” you can feel. We will never be 100% sure, love is forever and ever going to be a void humans will try to fill until well, the void will never be filled because love is supposed to be beautiful and spontaneous and magical, so by finding the true science behind love and filling that void is instead, a murder of something that once was unexplainable and beautiful. What do you do when you feel love, or something that can be defined as love yet there is so much uncertainty and the factors in it and the possibilities and etc. What are you supposed to do, how are you supposed to exceed the expectation of what love is supposed to be, or even more, what are you supposed to do if you truly do not know what love is for you? Are you inevitably going to walk on this earth alone forever, is love a necessity for happiness? Even so in the end, what would life be if we stopped searching for one thing we are most uncertain about, without love, constantly chasing after a feeling. And without something so trivial we would be lost, we are ready to experience heartaches and tears if we could just be in that moment with someone, if we could just live in that singular moment it is almost as if all the pain in the world is worth it because it pushes us to change to evolve and expand because a breakup makes you wanna become better for that person but what you don't realise that you become better for the next person, and the cycle repeats inevitably.
  • Shane
    Published 16 days ago
    Breathe..It's Not as Deep as You Think

    Breathe..It's Not as Deep as You Think

    Reliving past experiences can be daunting but necessary for growth. So I'm going travel back in time and tell you about when I decided to take a risk and live in the moment. Being spontaneous was never my strong suit as well as taking the time to smell the roses. After my divorce, I decided to live a little and dive back into the dating scene. I never dated outside of my race for reasons that made logical sense to me. Being an African-American woman, dating someone of your own race seemed like the ideal thing to do. Plus, I didn't want to feel like a sell-out for crossing into certain territories. Despite my unease with the possible pursuit of someone who wasn't Black I decided to try it. For once, I wanted to be spontaneous.
  • Allyssa L.
    Published 19 days ago
    5 Ways To Get The Most Out Of Your Online Dating Experience

    5 Ways To Get The Most Out Of Your Online Dating Experience

    In the fast-moving, technology centered-world we live in, online dating has increasingly become the rule rather than the exception in the quest for finding love. We all know that love is a battlefield. Still, the constant barrage of societal expectations has only increased the pressure for singles to find and develop romantic attachments. It is debatable as to whether or not "swipe culture" has done more harm than good, but, as with all things, there are both pros and cons to online dating. While I don't claim to have a magic equation that will get you instantly "booed up," I have compiled a list of five practical ways for you to get the most out of your online dating experience and, hopefully, win at #relationshipgoals.
  • Chelsea Nelthropp
    Published 19 days ago
    You Decide! Date Idea

    You Decide! Date Idea

    Sometimes, it’s hard to decide what you and your significant other want to do for a date.
  • Chelsea Nelthropp
    Published 19 days ago
    4 FUN Date Ideas for when you are feeling those Quarantine Blues!

    4 FUN Date Ideas for when you are feeling those Quarantine Blues!

    I don't know about you guys, but I've been stuck inside for weeks and its really starting to show.
  • Ms. Terri
    Published 19 days ago
    Emotional Rollercoaster Ride

    Emotional Rollercoaster Ride

    Emotional Affair: "A relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse that affects the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the relationship.”