Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
By: Marlene Affeld Romantic relationships are one of life’s greatest sources of joy, happiness, and satisfaction, yet they can also be a source of incredible pain, sadness, and regret.
First of all, let me state that I love being a mom, and there is nothing better in the world than my sweet baby. However, I can tell you that nothing quite prepares you for being a new mom. None of the stories your family and friends tell you, none of the literature you read...none of it prepares you for the reality of being brand-spanking-new to parenthood.
Growing up people always said things to me, such as "Girl you got issues" or "There is something really wrong with that girl." Whether I was joking and being silly or being serious. Now after while this starts to take a toll on your development and character. Because you start to wonder, well is there something wrong with me? You'll find yourself afraid to say anything to anyone about anything regarding any situation. Soon you hear yourself saying "I got issues" or "Don't mind me I'm crazy, I need help."
I just got back from an online date and had to share it with you… I don’t even know where to start! I had had a lovely day and was looking forward to having a glass of wine and catching up on a few TV shows before having an early night. Before I knew it my phone was ringing. Without looking I answered it, figuring it would be a friend wanting to pop over for dinner or a drink, that was a mistake. It was someone who I had been talking to online and because I have been having issues with my internet connection (thanks NBN) we had exchanged numbers to make it easier. I had been feeling bad about sending one message every few days, especially after I saw a news segment about how “benching” is now a common thing and I didn’t want him to get the wrong idea. The messaging had been terrible the entire time we had spoken, imagine trying to read this entire post without any grammar and you’ll have rough idea of what it was like! Anyway I agreed to meet him at a local shopping centre for a coffee and that is where my “interesting” evening began.
I am a millennial woman. I am a feminist. I have been allowed the chance to attend school and continue my education in college and eventually grad school. I am allowed freedom of choice in all decisions in my life, from who I date, where I go to school, and where I currently live. I have been allowed some of the greatest freedoms available to women in all of history. So why do so many people judge me when I say I want to be a stay-at-home mom one day?
My family is very homogenous. They're Catholic's who go to Church every week. They love to watch football and baseball. They are all very extroverted and enjoy going to parties and seeing all of their friends for hours on end.
It’s better to have a $30 wedding and a million dollar marriage than to have a million-dollar wedding and a $30 marriage. We see this all the time. Famous and wealthy people spend astronomical amounts of money to have fabulous wedding ceremonies but then the marriage only lasts a few months or at the most a few years. On the other hand, we see people go to the courthouse and/or the Justice of the Peace and end up being married for a lifetime. How is this so? Marriage is not about money. You can have all the money in the world, but if the two individuals are not compatible and mature, having much wealth won’t even matter. As the adage says, “Marriage is for grown folks” or should I say “mature” folks.
Has love become your idol? Idolatry in relationships is very subtle. You don't know that you have that person up as a idol until everything they do affects your well-being and emotions to the point where it feels like bondage. You can't even follow your dreams because their opinion(s) matter more than your drive to follow after your passion. You're more focused on pleasing them and changing for them rather than focusing on you and growing within yourself. You'll never reach or really know what your purpose is in life if they're an idol (if you don't know what you've been placed on this Earth to do yet). That's why there are so many people that you hear about in relationships where you may think "Why is he/she in that relationship? ....and the person that they're with treats them with disrespect or doesn't value and treat them according to their worth?" They stay because they may feel staying with that person is more important than leaving and finding happiness. We attach ourselves to people due to our own insecurities and emotional hurts so we look to them to fill our voids instead of allowing the Creator to fill those voids for us.
In the video above Dear Sybersue talks about women needing to change things up with dating in the millennium. If it's not working well then maybe it's time for the ladies to ask the men out!
“Once I get home and take off my pants, that’s it. I’m not putting them back on until the morning. Sometimes I don’t even make it to my room before I take them off.”“If I agree to do something more than a day ahead of time, there is a 90% chance I will cancel.”“I don’t want to go outside. There are people there.”
Hi I'm Yannick and guess what? I'm transgender. That's right. I am a transgender woman. One thing about my transition is that, although I live as a woman, I have yet to have surgeries and I have yet to start hormone replacement therapy, also known as HRT.
I do not have a monopoly on suffering. But at seventeen, I've seen my fair share of it. However, this is no sob story, nor is it my entire story. Instead, this is just another chapter of my life---unfortunately, a rather mournful (but life-lesson ridden) chapter.