Marriage: Stay Hitched or Ditch
On a seemingly ordinary Saturday afternoon, I sat on my front stoop for some much needed alone time, i.e. cigarette break. While bathing in the new fall breeze I found myself reflecting on the ups, downs, and turnarounds of my LTR. My other half and I had been recently and frequently engaged in periodic debates, some more pleasant than others, ranging from who gets to pay this month's utility bill to citing all 1,001 reasons why I think whole wheat pasta was manufactured solely for alien life forms born without taste buds. To dispel possible rumors and under the radar bar room mumbles I can and will shout from the highest dirt mound in Leakin Park that my mate is pretty perfect in the biblical sense (Was that good honey?). Even still, when traveling on the epically adventurous road of Together-Forever, one can find himself pondering the meaning of it all while making frequent pit stops to the friendly neighborhood Target. What pushes us to this wave Q&A? Maybe it’s the daily compromises we make to either please or appease our partners that ignite this way of thinking. I can’t quite put my finger on it but weekly brawls surrounding the rights of the undead on Vampire Diaries could spark an analysis or two. And the burning question becomes, is being single better?
So a friend or family member has an invisible chronic illness and all you seem to do is upset them? It feels like you're constantly walking on eggshells and you can't do anything right. Well here's some things you probably shouldn't say if you want to improve that relationship:
Heartbreak is a bitch. We have all had our hearts broken. Have you ever had your heart broken in a way that makes you so angry, all you can think about is seeking revenge on your ex-boyfriend? Maybe he cheated on you, and that single friend of his, whom you only met a few times, was looking extremely cute the last time you saw him at a party, and you are thinking about giving him a call? Maybe your ex broke up with you in a cruel way, so you feel the need to blast all his secrets all over your Facebook or Twitter, or whatever social media account you have the most of his friends and family on.
Starting with a poorly-drawn stereotypical depiction of male/female communication styles is just an icebreaker, I promise. As always, I want to share personal and clinical experience to shed light on real-life issues many of us have encountered. I used men and women in this example, but it certainly isn't as black and white as some people still believe. Strong and conscious communication can be applied across the board and transcends gender, sexual orientation, and cultural norms.
When it comes to people who have made minimal impact to you in your life, even extended periods of time spent together can't make you want to keep in touch or make you reach out to them. You're more than content to let them go on about their lives without ever knowing if you're even still alive.
No matter what sexuality you might be, introducing your partner to your parents can be weird. You never know how it is going to turn out; it could be weird and awkward or it could all go off without a hitch. You have no idea how either party will react, and this fear of the unknown can make everyone involved a little bit nervous. And it can make it a little more nerve-wracking if your partner is the same gender as you, and if your parents are not as cool about things as you would like, the introductions can be a little bit intimidating. But there are ways to get through the introductions and make life just a little bit easier.
My mum once told me, you cannot change another person, you can only change how you handle them or the situations you face. And this, by principle, is something I live by. Okay, so we've all had that one friend (or maybe more) who is adored by everyone, she's usually tall, thin, gets on with the lads, funny, confident, and basically everything you feel you are not. But you love her, she's your best friend, and even though your personalities are kinda polar opposites, it works. Alright... It doesn't always work, you fight from time to time, either she's being flaky, or you feel left out, and in the end, you realise you were both wrong, and you makeup, and the world is a better place again.
Every day we wake up and are faced with choices. Every choice that we make has an outcome. Life is a lot like, a choose your own adventure book. When we make a choice our life takes us in different directions. If we decide to not make a choice, that is a choice in its self. Not deciding has its own set of consequences, but I will go into that a little bit later, without getting too far ahead of myself.
This my first blog post so..I guess you could call me a BLOG VIRGIN (shocked expression). Oh, the shame….laugh.
I am a Freelance Jewelry Artist, Entrepreneur, Wife, Fur-baby Mommy and unfortunate Retail Worker. I am a woman who wears many hats, I guess you could say. I am a day dreamer and night thinker, I strive for a better tomorrow and don’t believe in failure.
One of the worst things to go through in life is a break-up. You can be in a relationship with someone whom you believed to be "the one" and they suddenly turn around and rip your heart out of your chest. You are left feeling weak in the knees for all the wrong reasons when you were once feeling weak in the knees for all the right reasons.
Do you remember the time in primary school, secondary or even college? The time when you felt like every morning you have to go to a Big Brother's house where everyone will be looking at you, judging, waiting for you to slip so they could eliminate you? Where everything was a reason for someone to take a piss out of you. The way you dress, music you like, your grades being too low or too high. Being a girl, hanging out with mainly boys in secondary school made you a slut, and it didn't matter whether you slept with every single one of them or were a virgin, you were still a slut. Being a boy and hanging out with girls either made a sex god or a wuss, it all depended on what other "sins" you've committed, gods forbid you had great grades and read a lot of books. Everything seemed to be a reason to spread rumours, call you names, laugh at you, shun you and even if you did do something great nobody ever cared.
Many Americans fear losing health insurance as a result of the recent House vote to make drastic changes to the current Affordable Care Act. The Senate will vote on this bill next with likely challenges. There is a long list of pre-existing conditions for individuals included in this bill, which would lead to high expenses or a total loss of insurance for many Americans.