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Sis... You Are Getting Played

8 Signs That He's Playing You

By M JPublished 7 years ago 5 min read
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You guys have been dating for a while now and you start feeling that it could be something more than just sporadic dates. Everything is going great, then all of a sudden you notice small changes that are becoming questionable. As women, we want to know what's up and what's going on before we move any further, get our hopes up, or have our hearts broken. A man losing interest has nothing to do with your worth... he just may be a jerk for not being upfront and honest. I have compiled a list of dead on giveaways that he's just not into you.

He Never Wants to Go Out

Has he been dodging a romantic night out for 2? A guy that is losing interest or isn't as into you as you are to him will never want to go out... in public. He will never offer to take you out and when you suggest it he will counter with coming over to "chill," watch a movie at home, or sit in the car. This is one of the first indicators that he's losing interest and that you should back away very soon!

He Never Replies to Messages/Calls or Waits Until the Next Morning to Respond

This has to be the most irritating thing a man can and does do. If you start looking through your thread and notice that you are the only one saying "good morning," "wyd," or "imy," then Houston, we may have a problem. If the only responses that you seem to be getting are "I fell asleep," "I'm busy," or the infamous "k," then you may need to look for more suitor. Like the old saying goes, "you find time for what you want" so with that being said if a man wants you he'll put in time and effort. If you’re his "boo," "bae," or "woman," then he'd be expecting your calls and texts, not avoid them.

You Have Never Met His Family or Friends

If he doesn't want to bring you around people that mean the most to him, then he's not interested in moving forward or getting serious with you. Introducing someone to your family is something that most men do when they are looking forward to a committed relationship. If you see other women on Facebook tagged in your guy’s family gathering pics then you have to know what's going on.

He Tries to Change You... Not for the Better but for Him

If you notice that he's nitpicking or very critical of what you do, your personality, your dreams, your body, or anything that makes you you, then he doesn't know how good of a catch you really are. Unless he's trying to encourage you to do better, his critiques are not needed because you the things that you value about yourself are the same things that the person that loves you will value.

You Guys Have More Sex than Conversation

If the only time he has available to see you is after midnight, then you guys aren't an item, you guys are "friends with only sexual benefits." No woman wants that in replace of a relationship and the more that you allow it, the longer it will go this way. When you are getting to know someone with the hopes of having a relationship, your conversations should and will not only be about SEX. If you find that the intellectual discussions that you once had have diminished then you are on the right track of becoming a "bootycall." A man that wants you would want to know everything about your heart, soul, and mind... not just what's between your legs.

You Are Confused About Your Position

If you have to ask constantly what you guys are, then chances are you aren't anything important to him. It's time for a reality check! A man that is interested in you will not leave you wondering and unsure. Trust your inner instinct and realize that if you were what he wants he'd show you and if not then keep it pushing... you don't need that drama in your life.

He Lies About Little Things

Regardless of what some cowards say, if he lies about any and everything, especially things you already know the answers to, then he doesn't care about your feelings. He only cares about himself and sucking you dry, getting any and everything he wants from you. A person that remotely cares about you and who you are to them won't lie to you so if you're constantly catching him in his fabricated truths it's not to move on to bigger and better fish.

He Flat Out Tells You

If he blatantly tells you that he doesn't want you, that you're not the only one, or he only wants to be friends (for the past 6 months) then my dear you have to wake up. Sometimes our delusional side kicks in and we feel that because he says something and does the opposite that we are able to choose which answer suits us better. If he says "you are not my girlfriend" that is just that, it is what it is. It does not mean that you have to stick around to change his mind, that he doesn't know what he's talking about, or that he wasn't serious. Let it go, suck it up, and move on; you're better off without him.

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