Settling might be what You Needed

Ok, I might be the unpopular one for this piece, but someone had to tell it like it is! This is not for an age limit, or age specific group; this goes for all ages because life is too short. I often hear people saying that they will not settle for anything. Everyone wants the "turn-key" project person, ready to go as if they are brand new. "BANANAS"! Now let's take out the top one percent, because I address the everyday common person. Unfortunately, I see a bunch of common people (no pun), holding out and waiting for that "one-percenter" to sweep them off their feet. Some of us rather work on a degree and get in debt, with the chances of a corporation letting us go years after dedicated employment or pass us over for promotion; than to build a future and a business with a potential loved one.

Yeah, I get it! No one wants to get hurt or used! Get over it and learn from the past and move on already. Listen, if you are not in that one percent or trying to spend a lifetime getting to the higher echelon, chances are that ignoring the one person that could have help with a soul purpose in life, could have passed by. Now I see many people (especially women) in their late 40s and early 50s, without a mate, saying "could've, should've" wondering why they cannot find a potential mate. One of the main problems is that most of us been taught by a society that told us that teamwork is not the way. We've been told to take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else; instead of finding someone who values those same things in life and see if there's a starting point to build something. This economic system is not set up for us to succeed by ourselves. Look at the shelves in the supermarket. The price at the pump. A pandemic that nearly wiped us out financially. The list goes on. Time is not on our side if most of us stop working at 65 and with life expectancy, it's said that the average person will need at least 1.4 million to live until their mid to late 80s. With markets crashing and pandemics happening, if you are not in the top one percent, the options are slim. I'm living by myself as a parent that shares custody with my three kids and the math on house bills to income is constantly a challenge. Not saying to get with anyone to help on the bills but get with someone who has the same goals financially. Start a business together so a legacy can start, and the transferring of wealth is past on and not bad habits.

Yet, we sit here and pass up good potential people and fail to pool our thoughts and resources, which keeps us from starting a business that can set us financially free. Yes, date "potential" and build. Much better than dating a person who appears to have it all together and turns their back when the chips are down. Many of us want that person who has it all together. I was dating someone, and she told me that her man has to have the following:

1. A home of his own (which is reasonable) 2. His own car and having more than one vehicle would be better (in a city like NY or CHI, that's debatable) 3. A job making 100k or more (she wanted a 1% earner; nation average is way less than that) instead of a man with a legitimate plan of starting a business. One works, the other build on a business. Some folk call it, teamwork makes the dream work! The list went on and on about intangible things that had nothing to with creating a solid structure and recession-proof legacy that two people can enjoy during their golden years and pass on to their next generation. This woman wanted her man to have this already and she was willing to wait for this type of man, instead of helping a man achieve these things. Sad to say that her top three desires could be eliminated at the drop of a bad situation. Not to wish anything bad on any situation, but I rather have someone that would consider my character and integrity. Those things matter in trying times and the material things will come and go.

She thought she had all the time in the world to hold out and wait for this person to bump into at the supermarket, then to build a future with the countless men that she was passing up on various dinner dates. A great deal of people "make it" on their own with a good job and maybe some money in the bank. What happen to those who constantly hold out and wait for that person of their dreams to come along and look up and life has pass them by? The moments that could have been shared are now gone because the social media page is filled with pictures of maybe a few friends, but in the thoughts, could have been with a loved one. Now, all this time has elapsed and the person that was passed up year ago, could have been that person that helped with a legacy ready to pass down to a next generation.

Stop passing good people by and start building on something that can be great!