Polyamorous in a Monogamous Relationship
Being Polyamorous While in a Monogamous Relationship
Let's just start this off by saying I'm not one of those polygamist's that believe in marrying 5 people and living in some sort of weird cult world. This isn't Sister Wives; I believe that, like all mammals, our biology tells us to create as many children with as many people as possible in order to create more life. Mammals are made to have sex and have babies. I am not trying to say there is no other purpose to our life, I just mean on a strictly biological level that's what our bodies want to do.
The actual term for this is "polyamorous." It means that you believe that as long as both partners are on the same page, having sexual relations with more than one person is okay. Some people call this an "open relationship" and others think it is disgusting and wrong. Well, let's all be adults. We all live our lives differently and each of us do things that other people would judge us on. So instead grow up and accept that some people do things differently than you.
People have different needs to keep them satisfied in life. A lot of people are not happy and fully satisfied in a monogamous relationship (maybe that's why so many people cheat????). There are also people, like me, who are bisexual and are not completely satisfied with one person, one gender.
The hard part is finding a partner who agrees and is okay with it. My partner (a male) knows how I feel about relationships and that I am polyamorous. However he is very monogamous, and upon entering our relationship I agreed to remain monogamous... which I honestly thought would be easier than it is. I love my partner, he is 100% the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, have more kids with and die old with. I just am not sexually satisfied in a monogamous relationship... which is also not something that is easy to say to your partner.
Don't get me wrong, we do our best. I absolutely love having sex with my partner. He is amazing. I just have always been someone who has sex with multiple people... even if my other partners didn't know it. Yeah I know, you're judging. I cheat, I'll admit it. But since being in my current relationship I have stayed 100% loyal (yay for me!). I am doing my best to keep it that way as well. My boyfriend knows that it's hard for me so he also does his best to keep me interested sexually.
All in all... it's not really the easiest but if you love your partner enough then looking out for their happiness is important as well.