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Ways to Date Online Safely

By Raj VardhmanPublished 4 years ago 3 min read
Photo by Pratik Gupta on Unsplash

Online dating offers us a way to connect with others, even in a COVID world. It’s a simple way to meet people. You could meet a hookup or the love of your life. You have a wide range of choices, but it’s essential to approach the situation carefully.

According to online dating data online dating results in around 100 murders and 16,000 abductions annually. In this post, we’ll look at ways to date online safely.

Check the Profile Carefully

Read the profile carefully. Check the wording for red flags. Does the person come across as jealous or controlling? Do they complain about their ex? Is everything about what they want? There’s a difference between confidence and cockiness.

Check the photos. Run an image search to see if the picture comes up on different sites. Some scammers steal photos from real people online. If they’re a legitimate person, they’re likely to have profiles on various social media platforms.

Keep the Emotions out of It

It’s easy to fall in love online if you’re looking for a soul mate. Don’t put that kind of pressure on another person. They might not be able to live up to your expectations. Keep it cool and wait until you get to know them better. Try not to fall for them until you’ve met them a few times in person.

Don’t Take Things Too Personally

That might sound like strange advice considering that you want to be in a relationship. It’s advice that’ll keep you sane. The internet is a lot like a school playground. The kids here can be mean. Some people are damaged and may lash out at you. That’s got more to do with their issues than yours.

Others simply won’t be interested. That’s fine too. You don’t like everyone you meet either. Some might message for a while to be polite and then ghost you. Others thrive on creating drama.

You can’t control how they behave, but you can control your reaction. Ignore the drama queens and mean kids. If someone ghosts you, message them once and then move one. Sending nasty messages won’t change anything.

Be Honest on Your Profile

We want to attract the best mate, so it’s tempting to embellish our profiles. Enhancements are fine but don’t lie. You might say that you love belly-dancing, for example. Posting a ten-year-old picture of you belly-dancing isn’t.

Being honest is crucial if you want the relationship to go further. You’ll get caught out if you don’t look like your picture or feign interest in hobbies you can’t stand. When the person you’re communicating with finds out, they’ll feel betrayed. They’ll also wonder if you lied about something else.

Be Careful About Arranging a Meeting

At some stage, you’ll want to meet in person. That’s the next logical step. It’s essential to build an online relationship for a while first. Doing so gives you a better chance of catching them out with any mistakes.

Don’t lend them any money or send gifts before you’ve met them. Even once you’ve met, giving them money should be off the table for some time.

When meeting them, go to a public place. Consider meeting for coffee during the day and keep alcohol out of it. Get there a little early and make friends with the staff. Explain that you’re meeting someone for the first time and enlist them to look out for you.

After your date arrives, don’t leave your food or drinks unattended. Never go to a second location or let them give you a lift. It would be best to meet them a few times before you spend some alone time with them.

Final Notes

Approach online dating as an investment in your future. Spend as much time researching as you would if you were buying a home, and don’t fall in love with the first option you see. Exercise caution at all times to keep yourself safe.


About the Creator

Raj Vardhman

Self-made white hat SEO expert and Wordpress virtuoso—passionate about developing new SEO strategies with nominal budgets on Wordpress. Raj loves designing, traveling, photography, fabulous food, and even better conversation.

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