My Long Hard Road Out Of Hell
My experience in a relationship straight from Hell.
What we had can only be described as a whirlwind romance. He came into my life right when I needed a man the most and I fell madly in love with him. He seemed to be everything I was looking for in a man. He was in the US Marine Corps, which I absolutely loved because hey what's better than a man in uniform right? He was funny, he was sweet, he was smart, he was protective, he was adorable as all get out, he loved the same music and movies that I loved. He had read a lot of the same books, and he was totally into comic books and anime, and he was super affectionate. He was like a dream come true.
That dream became a nightmare within the first three months of our relationship. Allow me to explain.
He and I had been friends for quite a number of years before we even decided to date. I knew that he had been through a really tough time due to his ex-wife taking herself and the kids to Australia. It wasn't until later on that I learned that she didn't just up and take the kids anywhere, as a matter of fact, he told her to do so.
I also found out that during the first six months of our relationship while he was Skyping with his "kids" he was really using that time (which I was not allowed anywhere near the room he would lock himself into until after the 2-3 hour sessions) to actually participate in mutual masturbation with her and tell her how badly he wanted to fuck her and how much he missed her and wanted to be with her. He didn't even tell me about it, she and his mother did. He tried to lie his way out of it but I kinda figured he would because what man is going to admit to cheating on the woman who is supporting them?
After I thought that the drama had finally passed from this situation (he promised to discontinue his behavior with his ex) it became one thing after another. The second issue our relationship had to endure was his ex threatening to not allow him any time with his children if he did not agree to get rid of me and become her "property" again. She even went as far as to call me names and threaten me. Needless to say, I flipped out on her and that ended that.
The third thing we ended up having to endure was his need for attention from females other than me. He actually went as far as to re-open one of his former Facebook accounts to try and pick up girls. When he was busted for this, he again denied it despite the proof being waved in front of him. He swore he had no part in the account being opened and that he wasn't really messaging other girls and sending naked pics to them. I reported the account to Facebook,(which seemed to irritate him) and it was closed down. That ended that.
Then let's see there was his mother constantly sticking her nose in where it did not belong and making snide comments about me which I was not allowed to even defend myself against. She kept trying to convince him that I was wrong for him and he needed to remain living with her because he could not make it out on his own without her. She even went as far as to say that the only woman he'd ever need in his life was her. This psycho was Hell bent on her son and I not being together. She kept telling him that he wasn't ready for a relationship and that he probably never would be. I tell you I have NEVER in all of my years in this world met a mother who acted as jealous of me as this woman did.
She also acted all psycho when one of her other sons started dating. He ignored her shit though cause he recognized it for what it was.
One of the very last things she managed to pull out of her ass was the fact that I refused to deal with her insane bullshit and I refused to stop my life in order to Skype with her when she demanded attention (she found the stupidest damn reasons to hold "family" Skype sessions I tell ya what).
This woman is so absurd that instead of worrying about her son finding a job so he wouldn't fall behind on his child support and end up in jail, she was more worried about who he was fucking. Good job ma!
The last straw was after his birthday when his mom flipped out because I called out his siblings for their laziness on Facebook and she got wind of it from one of the brothers whom I had trusted enough to actually add as a friend on Facebook (I later deleted him and blocked the entire family minus the father because I actually like him). She actually went off calling me names and threatening me through my now ex-boyfriend. Needless to say, I got pissed at the fact that I could not defend myself because I was not allowed to and that he would not defend me against her or anyone in his family. I was more than furious. He and I argued most of the night into the next morning. We decided to separate and cool off and decide later on where we stood and what to do from there.
Needless to say, we decided to stick it out a while longer because, well, I guess you could say I was stupidly optimistic. I thought that after four years being together our relationship had to mean something to him.
The following month went great. He seemed happy, which made me happy. He seemed to be back to the man whom I had fallen in love with.
The following month he woke up one morning with a hair across his ass spewing all kinds of hateful shit and even becoming physically abusive with me and that was when I decided I had had enough. That was the last straw. The point of no return. I was done!
He and I have split but we have decided to remain friends. Nothing will ever be the same between us as they were once upon a time, but at least now I can move on and find REAL love. At the end of this relationship I purchased a ring for myself (it is a promise ring). It signifies a promise I made to myself to NEVER allow anyone (be it a man or his friends or his family) to ever treat me the way he had treated me. I feel that this was a learning experience because now I know what I'm willing to tolerate from a man and what I refuse to ever have to deal with again.
As a result of this relationship I now have MAJOR trust issues, severe anxiety, depression, and insomnia. I hope to one day overcome these issues but I honestly don't know if I ever will.
This was my story