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My Boyfriend Walked Out On Me (How To Reconnect With An Ex After A Bad Break Up)

There's nothing worse than having to say my boyfriend walked out on me. This happens with tons of relationships and it's really disheartening. It actually happened to me, and it took me a while to figure out how to reconnect with an ex after a bad break up... since I thought I was doing everything right. Boy was I wrong!

By Kayla EdenPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
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My Boyfriend Walked Out On Me (How To Reconnect With An Ex After A Bad Break Up)
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Well, it's a pretty unhappy place to be when you've been left on the curb and it wasn't even you who wanted that. And what's going to make it worse is dwelling on it. But you'll have to think it over if you want a second shot together. If he doesn't mean that much to you, then you probably wouldn't be here asking why your ex boyfriend dumped you.

You might as well look at him first. Face the facts that some men just don't know a woman from a fire hydrant and they'll always be a little clueless. Other guys just can't handle commitment. Some guys make a great short-term fling, but a lousy long-term. And so on. You might also ask yourself if he's really worth having back at this point - if he has character flaws that came between you in the first place, they're only going to get worse and worse as time goes by.

In asking why your ex boyfriend dumped you, you should not give too much weight to what he said the reason is. He might not have wanted to hurt your feelings or he may not have been able to express the real reason to you, so he used a stock, pat line like "We outgrew each other." Yes, thinking about this is guaranteed to drive you a little crazy, but if you find something glaring that you know is what the problem is and it's something you're also in denial about, all the web articles in the world can't help you.

Were you too clingy, possessive, or jealous? This can wear down a relationship over time, just because a man gets tired of having an argument every day about the same thing. Being too clingy is a sign of low self-esteem and jealousy is a sign of insecurity. You'll have to deal with these issues on your own, before you worry about whether you're back with your ex boyfriend.

Or perhaps you were nagging, demanding, and hostile? That turns a man off even faster. It's true that some men expect to provide for their woman's comfort, but some guys get burned out with a woman they think of as being hard to afford.

While you're asking why your ex boyfriend dumped you, you could also consider whether you were attractive to him. Now, we're all born with certain looks and traits, and that's all we get so we have to deal with them. But even then, TV makeover shows have shown us by now that there's a lot you can do with what you have. Remember, it isn't so much a matter of what you were born with, as much as whether you take good care of yourself. Think in terms of being healthy and having good hygiene, and the beauty will come out on its own.

A Surprising Method to Get Him Back

"My boyfriend walked out on me, now what?" That is always said by a woman who is feeling a mixture of confusion and panic. We all know that relationships aren't always ideal. Problems arise, conflicts crop up and you work together to resolve them. When one person suddenly decides they no longer want to try, it's devastating to the other. What exactly are you supposed to do with all that love and devotion you're feeling? You can't just pack it up and expect to move on and meet someone else. No. You have to follow your heart and do what's right for you. Even though right now it feels like you've been tossed aside, don't let that deter you from what you know is your future. If you love him, you owe it to yourself to try and get him back.

Before you launch into an all out plan to get your man back consider why he walked out. Obviously, something within the relationship wasn't working for him anymore. Did you two have an argument right before he dumped you? Have you been squabbling over some issue for the past few weeks? Or has your relationship slowly changed from that of a hot, passionate couple to best friends or roommates? Something definitely changed enough that your boyfriend no longer felt being in a relationship with you was what he wanted or needed. Be honest with yourself and the situation as you think about why that is.

Once you've determined what happened to cause the relationship to crash and burn, your job is to fix it. You have one chance to do this. If you don't handle things just the right way you run the risk of pushing him so far away emotionally that the relationship won't be in a position to be saved.

Here's the step-by-step on what you need to do now. Apologize first for your actions before the break up. None of us are perfect and even though you were the one who was dumped, things weren't all rosy between you two. Show your ex what a mature and responsible woman you are by saying you're sorry. Take a page from the male play book and keep this very to the point. Just apologize and drop it.

They say that living well is the best revenge and it's also a fantastic way to get a man back. The next step in your plan to reunite with him is to make yourself the top priority. He's expecting you to devote your life to trying to get him back. Don't play into that. Instead, leave the relationship behind you temporarily and instead spoil yourself. Go out and do the things you love. Get your hair done, plan for a manicure or spend some time with family.

By holding your head up high and showing your ex that you can survive without him, you'll actually be attracting him back. He doesn't want to have to face the fact that you can and will make it without him. He'll want to show you just how much you really do need him and that's what will drive him to want you back.

These are the first steps in a proven strategy to get your ex back? It doesn't stop here, though. What you do next is crucial to get your ex back. Don't throw away your chances by not knowing what to do next. To read the shocking revelation that holds the final key to get your ex back visit: Ex Back Guide

If you would like to learn more about the psychology behind breaking up, and if you feel that you need a step-by-step plan for winning your ex back, then head to Ultimate System to Get Your Ex Back Fast

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