Marrying Young for the Right Reasons

Hey there, I've been pondering the question regarding to marriage for quite some time now. I know what you all may be thinking, if you're writing about marrying young, you must be a teenager. Nope, I'm actually 26 years old. That doesn't make a difference in many eyes, I am fairly young. However, I've been in a loving committed relationship for the past six years. Six years may not sound like a long time, but, to our generation we might as well been married for 35 years already (lol). I've known my Fiance for the past seven years. The first year we were getting to know one another, playing cat and mouse to be honest, and becoming friends. We shortly realized we were falling for each other, and we made our relationship official in 2013. Fast forward to December 2016 we started talking about marriage, and not because our peers and loved ones were pressuring us (even though they were earlier in our relationship) but because we love each other and want to build and grow together.

I've noticed that with our generation a lot of people don't have marriage as a "Goal" or priority in their lives like our parents did when they were our age. People in their 20's or even 30's in our generation are focusing on growing as an individual and building a legacy for themselves, in order to then make a union with a significant other who is equally as established as they are. Now that is never a bad , but, what if you meet a person early in your life before you're established and negate that experience for yourself because it's not in your life plans? I know not everyone's experience is the same, some people go through heartbreaks and difficult encounters in order to find the diamond in the rough. The bumps in the road could be the cause for having marriage in the backburner, which is relatable.

From a young age our parents have told us you can be whatever you want if you put your mind to it. I speak for myself but, I don't think our first thought was to be someone's husband or wife. Our thoughts went towards occupations and experiences we wanted to have in the future but we never imaged another human being by our side. As we started getting older into our high school years we started thinking about our crush, girlfriend or boyfriend as the love of our life. You envision that person in your life forever, but then like most of us it doesn't work out and you meet more people you THINK are "the love of your life" (let's call those the rough drafts); which lead you to become exhausted of putting your heart out there and keep receiving the same results. Let me guess your friends told you "Do you boo!" and "You're the only one you need... that person ain't shit!", and your friends were trying to be supportive and help you survive life on your own. It's great that you know how to hold your own and build yourself up so you're successful all thanks to yourself. However, humans all crave love and connection from one another. We all deserve to be happy and learn to love ourselves and our differences in order to become ready such a huge commitment.