Marriage in my eyes

(a) Marriage, in fact, is a canoe sailing in the sea, how fragile can be how fragile.

Can - life safe sailing marriage ship, is a very strong master; But even if again strong, want to a lifetime in a calm driving boat of marriage, also is impossible, because the climate of "the sea" (environment), is the human can not to charge, we can do, is according to the different climate and two sailors' condition, to adjust the boat strategy - but any ship, Have a common point: must need two people together, the boat can be normal driving, lack - not!

(2) As two sailors of the ship of marriage, we should cherish and love the common boat that we rely on to survive.

Even if one partner feels tired and tired, our other partner should understand and give her (him) the appropriate time to recover. To meet Ken inclusive you, give you time to recover the partner, it is - a lucky thing, after we get the basic modification, should know appreciate her (him), and as soon as possible, redouble our efforts into the "battle", just enjoying each other's tolerance, let love dearly, and I do not know each other's monologue work is extremely selfish. The other is not superman, she (he) will be tired, also tired! As a result of weariness on both sides, the little boat was left to drift on its own -- in good weather it lasted a few days; Bad luck, encountered waves, reefs, in addition to capsize, seems to have no other

Compromise in marriage is wisdom rather than humility.

With the addition of a new crew (children) to the little boat, our two sailors had heavier responsibilities and more difficult tasks. At this point, whether the two people treat the new crew in the same way, will become an important reason whether the boat can maintain balance or not. We should learn to compromise and not be stubborn. The key to navigating a marriage is communication. Either side thinks it is their own way, will lead to the boat out of balance, without rescue, capsize is only a matter of time.

(4) Be prepared for trouble. We must have a sense of crisis at any time. Only when we encounter storms can we feel calm.

When the "weather" is good and the "wind and waves" are small, our two sailors are naturally at ease. They don't have to spend much effort in rowing, but they can also enjoy the wind and moon at leisure. (At this time, I advise my sisters to take the time to recharge their batteries, increase their market competitiveness, do a rainy day, so that they can adapt to any change of circumstances). When the wind and the rain came, the two sailors had to keep their cool and face it together. If you can keep on going, don't give up. Really have to stop the ship to give up, should also be calm, strive for two people good gather good separation, more think for each other - think - after all, we have been because of "love" just boarded the same boat! By being considerate of the other, we may all get away with it -- the impulse or selfish act of abandoning ship on one side will encourage the other to do the same. As a result, most of the boats are broken, the sailors are hurt, and the innocent crew is hurt!

(5) Digression

I often think, a person's demeanor and temperament, is not in calm times can reflect; Really meet the wind and rain, but also to maintain calm, calm, not embarrassed, not hysterical, that is the real demeanor and temperament!

I want to say -- sisters, we can lose the marriage, lose the career, but don't lose their own wind, degree! Maybe a lot of people will say that I "stand up to talk of course not too backache!" . But I think that whenever we have this belief, when the storm really comes down on us, we have the possibility to be gracious; If you don't even have this belief at ordinary times, there is no possibility to maintain poise. Isn't it?