Love Lessons

I know you've heard this before:

Me...I have to analyze this to test its worthiness and truthfulness. I am assuming we can safely say that lifetime is the family we have been brought into and pro-created, right?

Seasonal people are there to get us through a particular "season" of our lives...childhood, teenage years, college, neighbors and friends we make along the way of lives, teachers that we either loved or hated, pastors/preachers, bosses, colleagues, old age. I'm thinking (sadly) some spouses/significant others, too...because "forever" means different lengths of time and commitment to different people...unfortunately, this can be "tricky" and trying to measure this variable can be a lesson in and of itself.

Reasons people...chance encounters? Crushes? Want- to-be relationships, Doctors/Nurses? Therapists? And this gets me a bit confused, because the seasons and reasons could be a mix, as well as the reasons and lifetimes. So, I remain in a conundrum. Maybe this is why I haven't known exactly "what to do???" as the quote suggests?

I do know that I don't like losing people for any reason. Especially if it were meant or promised to be a lifetime. I fight hard against that. It's easier to let go of seasonal people, at least. And I seldom form bonds with the reason people, but at times have been caught off guard with my fondness for them. I'm sure most humans can relate as I do, too.

We slip in and out of the life of other humans. DNA is a constant, unbreakable link, whether we like it or not, accept it or reject it. It forces us to "deal with it" the best way we can. And sometimes, the people in our bank of genes would have been preferred by us or them to just be a season or reason. In today's world, it is an acceptable mantra to call lifetimes a toxin if the relationships aren't "easy," create a boundary (wall,) and pretend they've been a bad season...never looking for a reason. (Preface: this isn't regarding true abuse or neglect, of which the only healthy choice is, in fact, a solid boundary.)

My questions are these: are closed doors truly a healthy option? Is it a lazy way out? Is it cowardly? Is stuffing displeasure or pretending not to care going to work for you in the long run? If there are lessons to be learned, are you shorting yourself from them? Will karma bring them about in other ways just so you will get that lesson???

Me, I try to concentrate on the lifetimes. If I'm guilty of shutting people out, it's the seasons and reasons. Call it introversion or call it being a wee bit schizoid, I find it hard to spend time and energy on people outside of my realm/basket. And, I probably miss out on lessons.

I plan on making a concerted effort in my future to make more out of my season people. I've retired now, so no more excuses. I've had enough karma bites to the rear end, already.

Finally, one of my mother's favorite sayings was and I have found it to be true, as well:

Loving people, no matter for a lifetime, reason, or season will cost you. The price is time, energy, emotion. It's damn hard work at times. And even if there is no instant reward or gratification for you, remember that "it isn't all about you !!!" Maybe it was your purpose for being in that time and space and relationship. Maybe it was for another's well-being. That is what adult humans should do for each other.

I think, when Garth Brooks sang it, he was on the right track and I hope you don't miss out on any dances in your lifetime for any reason or any season!