Love Is Not A Life Pact

Some people make the mistake of thinking love doesn’t leave.They think love is a life pact.They think love is a guarantee for crass behavior.People think once you love them, no matter what they do, you’ll always be there.By some kind of invisible law.You’re bound to stay.Through their bullshit repeated mistakes and whatnots.Ifind it weird that love, to some people is like a binding rope...and I think this is what is fundamentally wrong with love as it has been for a long time.

Love for me is not a prison.Love should mean freedom.Love should be liberating.Love should be a breath of fresh air.You shouldn’t have to ask yourself if you love someone, you should ask yourself why you didn’t love them sooner.But what’s really important is this:Love is not love all by itself.For love to be love, it must come with discipline.For love to be love, it must come with respect.For love to be love, it must carry a fierce level of loyalty.Love doesn’t give excuses for inactions.

Love acts.Love is competitive.If you and your lover aren’t outdoing each other in kindness, compassion and service, then what are you doing?A part that is often not talked about is being hurt.Love is easily hurt.Love has feelings and sensibilities for the object of its desire than it ordinarily has for others.This means that no one can offend your love interest like you can.Words they can easily brush off from other people, if you say it, they won’t be able to brush off as easily.Your words affect those who love you.Watch what you say to them.Love relies heavily on words and compliments.Let not a day go by without bathing your love with compliments.Not just with your mouth, compliment them with your eyes; let the way you stare at them convey a very deep, beautiful and soul-birthed attraction.Let your smile communicate compliments to them.Compliment them with your touch (sometimes non sexual touches can be the most turn-ons ever.)Be blown away each time you see them.Love is always blown away.Love is a hype-house.If you don’t hype your love interest, who will?Remember you’re their rock, you’re their mirror, you’re their source of confidence and strength.Strengthen them the best you can every day before they leave for work.Tell them how you cannot live without them, help straighten out their collars, brush the hair off their shoulders; clean the excess makeup off their brows.Whip out your phone and take photos of them while still hyping them to high heavens behind the camera.I am not even asking you to lie

Sincerely, you should be gassed up by whoever you fall in love with.If you feel your love interest doesn’t dress well or doesn’t have good clothes or good hair or good shoes, then it’s your fault.It tells poorly of you that your baby doesn’t look like a million bucks.Love is about rocking outfits.Whoever told you that matching outfits is outdated?It doesn’t have to be exactly the same shift.How about reversing colors?How about matching wristwatches?Sneakers?Just have something to twin with whenever you’re both going out.Love isn’t boring.Friendships aren’t even boring.Whatever is boring is what people refuse to work at.The secret of love are the basics: respect, loyalty, humility andintimacy.Don’t look at me like that.Yes, SEX is one of the most basic pillars of romantic love.Get these basics right and the rest will fall in place like leaves in autumn.

Oh!We haven’t even talked about love, personal egos and sacrifices.So much to talk about.I hate talking about love because only like 1% of the populace actually understands it and are willing to abide by its tenets.The reality is everyone wants to be loved right but no one is willing to put in the work to actually love.