Life, the need to think differently

Put your heart in your mouth, and you will win the hearts of people. If you treat others badly yourself, how can you ask them to treat you well?

After all, in addition to your parents, which have unconditional tolerance of your people, their own capricious over the head, you can not blame others without mercy.

When you blame others for "how he did this", may wish to think differently, and think about where they have done wrong.

Knowing how to think differently, read the "human heart and", and understand how to deal with people, is the real way to deal with the world.

1. "For your own good" is the trouble

I have a friend, who just graduated and found a makeup company to work, the salary is not high, but the victory can learn something.

The leadership of sister Huan as said in the interview gave him enough opportunities to learn, every day there is endless new work.

At first, he was full of motivation, in addition to his daily work, he would also hold professional books after work every day to study constantly.

However, after working for a while, he found that although Sister Huan always said "I am doing it for your good", what she said was not the same as what she did.

He then tried to learn, but only in the miscellaneous part, wanting to contact the more difficult, the other party always said "it is not useful to learn, sister is for your good, listen to sister arrangement is."

As a result, half a year has passed, and his private operation of the number is doing well, but he still did not have access to more and had no choice but to leave.

Afterward, I asked him: "Do you think she is "good" in the name of harming you?"

He laughed and said, "No, it's just that she wanted to set me up in a way that she thought was good, not what I wanted, and that's why there was a disagreement. She's not a bad person, she's just 'self-righteous'."

It's true, sometimes you think "good" is not necessarily what others want, think it's "for your good", in fact, in the eyes of others is troubling.

Therefore, to learn to think differently, understand what others think, to avoid unnecessary embarrassment, otherwise it is easy to do bad things with good intentions.

2. "Think differently" is tolerance

Some time ago, the delivery boy "retaliation" so many people feel no need to "tolerate" their rudeness, to defend their rights.

Some delivery boys are indeed very classless and irresponsible, but this is only a small part, and can not be generalized, a stick to knock over a boatload of people.

Some people make mistakes, not intentionally, just by accident.

Once, I ordered a store of milk tea, and received the goods but found that a cup of milk tea spilled half, undeniably, then a little angry, but see each other's true feelings, I forgive.

The delivery boy looked at me uneasily and said apologetically, "The first time I sent inexperienced, milk tea did not put well spilled, the money I pay you OK, please do not give me a bad review."

At that moment, I felt as if I had seen myself scolded for doing something wrong when I first graduated and looked at the milk tea in the other party's hand, the emotion of anger was suddenly gone, and I thought it was no big deal.

I said, "Give me the milk tea, it's okay, you don't have to pay for it, I bought it cheap with a coupon, forget it this time, next time pay attention."

But he still felt very sorry, kept telling me that he was sorry and wanted to pay me back, and if it wasn't for the next order to be delivered, it felt like he would have continued.

Afterward, I sent a text message to him and said: "milk tea spilled, not only is your problem, more importantly, the business did not pack well, not your fault, next time pay attention to the good, cheer!"

In fact, instead of saying that I am tolerant of him, I would rather say that I am "myself", and put myself in the shoes of "him", I also hope that when I encounter difficulties, someone can understand me.

After all, it's not easy to do any job, it's inevitable to make mistakes at the beginning, and giving others tolerance is not giving yourself.

Perhaps there is no empathy, but there are transpositions: workers inevitably have difficulties, a point of tolerance, a point of goodwill.

Learn to think differently, understand others, and treat others well, to make the world a better place.

3.

In "To Kill a Mockingbird", it is mentioned that "you can never really understand a person unless you put on his shoes and walk around like him."

Most of the time, our inability to understand mainly stems from not thinking differently.

As long as their interests are involved, it is difficult to be objective.

For example, in an emotional variety show, the female guest cried about her ex-husband divorcing herself after she was discharged from the hospital.

If you don't know the full picture, you'll think your ex-husband is a scumbag, but you don't know that the marriage between the two originated from the woman's concealment of her medical history, and if she was a scumbag, her ex-husband might have said divorce when she was sick and wouldn't have taken care of her until she was discharged.

It's just that the lady feels abandoned from her point of view, but she doesn't think about how hiding her medical history before marriage is not cheating on her ex-husband.

The first thing you can do is put your heart in the right place and blame others.

Know how to think differently, to know where they did not do well.

No one is perfect, no gold is perfect.

Only knowing the mistakes can be corrected, to continue to become better.