Let’s meet for Coffee

Now this dating scene is just trash! I know, from a man’s perspective, no man wants a “plate-licker” (a woman out for a free meal). There is no way around finding out who you’re with, until you are with them! Situations will dictate the type of person you are with. Just hope the person matches to “show” they are putting prior to the situation.

I have one solid question! Men, what is taking so long to ask a woman out? Coffee, donuts, do something with a woman to initiate interest! How long do we expect women to hold to “place-holder” conversations such as “good morning, beautiful” texts?

Women are no longer prescribing to the delayed BS and men need to piss or get off the pot as my mother use to say! Now Tyler said to be happy with a man paying the light bill. I’m not agreeing with that statement in any part. However, I am going to say that turning down some dates to guys that may not be as attractive because he’s under 6 ft tall, it’s time to adjust some standards.

Settling and adjusting are two different things! Yes, dating someone with no ambition is out of the question, and dating someone who are just satisfied with who they are is not a problem. To each is own!

If a man ask a woman out, then what is the crime in going on a simple coffee date? Men, start to initiate and cut out the text. Women shouldn’t have to invite men over for dinner and if you are a women doing such, please stop! You are messing up dating data!

Alison, a dating guru, say it should be your goal to get in front of each other as quickly as humanly possible! For starters, stop wasting time and figure out if there is some chemistry between the two.

The day of the “ride and die” chick is over (thanks DMX and other brothers that put women through the ringer). Today, women need something to show for their efforts and not to end up with a fatherless child!

What happened to guys asking women out? Has social media placed too much fear into showing a woman feelings? All is takes is one coffee date! If she can’t show appreciation in the simplest gesture and event, then chances are, she is not worth the time!

A coffee date is an easy out for all parties involved. Let’s look at all the things that could be a “positive-wrong” as I like to call it. There’s not a vibe between the two! Well, at most, that’s $30 lost! If you are spending more than $30 at the coffee house, then there is high possibility a reevaluation needs to take place. The time spent at a coffee house could be under 30 minutes, vs 45 to an hour a the dinner table of a restaurant. Ending the date is much easier and there cannot be an awkward moment of waiting on the check! The coffee house date can turn into something more, or it could cut off with a mutual understanding that a vibe is not there!

Here is a general example of a coffee date, going well with a open-ended question. “Hey, do you have a curfew?” This is my casual invitation to continue the evening! If she replies that she can’t, there is a strong possibility that she’s not interested, or maybe have other things to do. Now an example of a coffee date not working out, just simply ending the evening with a “thanks for coming out”.

The response should never require an explanation for not continuing the evening, no matter the response. The key is getting away from hiding behind text messages. Closing, here is a simple rule of thumb that should be followed when there is no invitation.

1. If it’s not in a week’s time, leave it alone! This is in most cases. Most people don’t work seven days a week, all year around. Not even adjusters and nurses! Allow that man a solid 9 days to extend an invitation for coffee. Long distance, has different rules!

2. Remember point number 1!