Ladies and Gentlemen, Are you Looking for Your Muse?

Ladies, you want a king? Embody these attributes

1. Less competition, more collaboration

He wants a woman who isn’t domineering and controlling, a woman who is not alpha, a woman whose feminine brilliance melts him and provokes his desire to serve and honor her, a woman who wants to “command/control” will lose the soul of her man. She must not compete with him.

2. Loyalty

He wants a woman who guards her man’s reputation. He wants a partner, not a high school gossiper. He wants a queen that would rather die than commit adultery. A queen who never compares him to other men and is ruthlessly loyal with her fantasy life and social media scrolling.

3. Respect

He wants to know he is wanted and respected. His woman’s validation is a nuclear force. Her emasculation is his kryptonite. She shows respect through her honorable submission, verbal affirmation, eye contact, correcting him in private with gentleness, she speaks her mind, reveals her heart, but also encourages his leadership ability.

4. Sex

He wants to feel mutual pursuit. He wants her to initiate sex ten times more often than she realizes. Watch as he rises to her invitation. He longs for her to verbally express her desire for him. He doesn’t want to feel tolerated. He doesn’t want pity sex. Pity sex erodes his desire. He wants her full presence, creativity and fire.

5. He doesn’t want leftovers

He wants a woman who strategically saves energy for him, who does not allow children, job or friends to supplant her desire for him. He wants his woman to prioritize their connection. He must not be put on the back burner. He must not be taken for granted or he will drift and she will misunderstand why.

6. Money

She must have self-control and understand that her money habits will either forge trust or erode trust. Is she protecting the home or putting the bank account in jeopardy? Her financial expectations must be grounded in reality rather than keeping up with the neighbors.

7. Appearance

She must take care of herself (exercise, hygiene/mental/health/spiritual vitality). She must never forget men are visual and desire a woman who wants to show her man how beautiful she really is. Men love it when his woman flaunts her feminine beauty to him alone. Posting selfies of yourself erodes his respect and trust in you.

8. Encouragement

She needs to be his place of rest from the battle. He is battling as a protector, provider, and presider. He shouldn’t have to battle his woman. He wants her fire, kindness, encouragement and feminine energy. He wants her to validate his primary masculine insecurity- that he does in fact, “have what it takes” …that he is “enough”.

Men, you want a queen, embody these standards

1. Bold/assertive energy

Women are turned off by passivity and hesitance. They want decisive and action-oriented men who say what they think. They want men of substance, rather than men they have to mother.

2. Chivalry

A combination of high honor, courage, and courtesy. They still want to be treated like queens by a courageous strong man. They still want to have doors opened for them, to be escorted to their cars, to be praised in public and private.

3. Strength

They still want their men to have the ability to protect them. They want to feel he can swoop them off their feet and carry them to bed. They want to feel his masculine strength. They want a man who can say no to her or anyone else when necessary.

4. Order

They want their man to lead and establish order where chaos exists (in the home, the neighborhood, finances, church, and country). They want their man to make hard decisions, to go first, a man who isn’t reluctant and isn’t afraid to purge the evil from the ranks. Build a solid foundation, have a solid sense of direction, then find the right woman to amplify, magnify and propel you forward.

5. Benefit of the doubt

They want a man who will truly listen to her suggestions and is receptive to the wise advice of his queen. She wants to be trusted, respected, cherished, and not merely tolerated. She wants him to believe in her.

6. Adventure

She wants to be part of the mission (she doesn’t want to be the mission). She wants calculated risk over a stale routine. She wants to feel alive (if he has not provided security she wants this first).

7. Self-control.

They want a man who isn’t ruled by his anger or any other vice. They want a man who has harnessed his aggression and channels it toward productive means. A man who controls his tongue, his drinking, his childhood fantasies. They want a man who is yielded to high moral standards and reveres God.