If a man cheats on you once, can or should he be redeemed?

When you first meet someone and fall in love, you feel like you've found your soul mate. You come home from work, and he's there waiting for you after dinner with a bottle of wine. You feel so connected to the person — they know what makes you laugh and they know which little things make you mad. You never felt this way before, but now that you've experienced it, you wouldn't have it any other way. But then one day he comes home late, and he's acting nervous. It doesn't sit right with you. You ask him if he's been honest with you. He says no, but promises to be faithful from now on and begs for another chance." Can he be redeemed?"

When you first meet someone and fall in love, you feel like you've found your soul mate.

When you first meet someone and fall in love, it is easy to feel like you've found your soul mate. You feel like you've found someone who understands you and sees the real person that others don't see. You think that this person gets the best of who you are and will always be honest with you.

You probably feel like this person is a good match for your life: they have interests similar to yours or share values about family, friends, or faith. They seem like a good fit into your social circles as well as into your personal space because they're warm and caring people who make people around them happy when they enter the room; they show interest in learning more about other people through conversation instead of just talking at them all night long without listening; when they touch another person's arm lightly while making eye contact with them during conversation (not awkwardly), it makes everyone else want one too!

You come home from work, and he's there waiting for you after dinner with a bottle of wine.

You come home from work, and he's there waiting for you after dinner with a bottle of wine. He's thoughtful and romantic, the best husband. You start kissing, then he starts groping; when you pull away, he asks if everything is okay.

"I'm just worried about how much alcohol you've had," you say apologetically.

He laughs as if it were a joke—and maybe it was—but then says in all seriousness: "Don't worry about me."

You feel so connected to the person — they know what makes you laugh and they know which little things make you mad.

You feel so connected to the person — they know what makes you laugh and they know which little things make you mad. They understand your quirks and preferences, like how you like your coffee made or what movie genres you like. You've been together for so long that it feels like the two of you are on the same page about everything: whether it be future plans, travel destinations or even work problems.

You never felt this way before, but now that you've experienced it, you wouldn't have it any other way.

When you find yourself in the throes of love, it can be hard to imagine that it will ever end. You are so sure that this is the person with whom you want to spend your life and share all your hopes, dreams and experiences with. No one else comes close as far as you’re concerned.

But what happens when things don’t work out? When your partner cheats on you or does something else that causes a rift in your relationship? Can or should two people who were once so deeply in love ever come back from such a betrayal?

It depends on where each person is at mentally and emotionally when they decide whether or not they want to try again. And sometimes, just because someone has done something bad doesn’t mean they won't change.

But then one day he comes home late, and he's acting nervous.

But then one day he comes home late, and he's acting nervous. You ask him where he's been, and he doesn't want to tell you. He says something vague about having been somewhere on business that was important but not urgent enough to mention earlier.

You're suspicious, of course—but it could just be that your relationship isn't as open as you'd like it to be. Maybe your partner has some things they don't feel comfortable telling you yet?

It doesn't sit right with you.

It's not that you want to be in an unhappy relationship. It's that you want to be happy, and if your partner is the one who makes it possible for you to be happy, then they're worth fighting for.

If this is your situation (and I'm sure it is), then I have some good news: you can make it work!

First, let me ask this question: how do you know if he cheated on me just once? Or twice? Even five times? The answer might surprise you: sometimes cheaters don't know themselves. It's like having an addiction - a powerful urge that overpowers their sense of right and wrong. But even so...

You ask him if he's been honest with you.

You ask him if he's been honest with you. You ask him if he has been faithful to you in the past. You ask him if he has been faithful to other people in the past. You ask him if he has been faithful to himself in the past.

If your partner denies these questions, it means that he is either lying or not giving himself enough credit for his dishonesty and infidelity, which means that both of you need more time alone together before you decide whether or not this relationship can work out.

He says no, but promises to be faithful from now on and begs for another chance.

You want to believe him, but you can't know if he is lying or not. And who can blame you? You've been lied to so many times before. If only there was some way to tell when someone was being honest.

The truth is that there is no way to tell if someone is lying or not. But there are ways for a person who has been cheated on (or feels like they have been cheated on) to determine whether or not their partner should be given another chance. Here are some signs that he's not being truthful:

• He says no, but promises to be faithful from now on and begs for another chance
• He tries too hard for your forgiveness
• He doesn't listen when others say it's okay for him to move on with his life

Can he be redeemed? Should he be?

In your case, I would find it hard to believe that he has changed. If he had changed, he would have done so before now. Men with a history of cheating are more likely than not to cheat again in the future; therefore, if he has already cheated once (and is willing to admit it), then there's a good chance that he will do it again.

If this man is willing to change and work on himself in order for you to be happy together—or at least not have doubts about his character—then perhaps things can be salvaged between the two of you. However, if this isn't something your partner wants or seems capable of doing, then it might be time for both parties involved to let go and move on with their lives separately.

You can forgive someone once or twice but not repeatedly.

• You can forgive someone once or twice, but not repeatedly.
• You can't forgive someone who keeps making the same mistake.

Conclusion

A man who cheats on his partner once or twice is not necessarily an unreliable person. However, if he continues to do it despite your forgiveness and trust, then this should be a red flag for you to move on.