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I'm Still So Attracted To My Ex (I Still Find My Ex Attractive)

by Michael Hamilton 3 months ago in breakups
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If you find yourself saying, I'm still so attracted to my ex and yet you have this feeling that you ex does not feel the same way, then that surely is a difficult situation. To begin with, you can't really be sure that your ex is no longer in love with you. If you're saying I still find my ex attractive then you'll want to read every word of this article.

I'm Still So Attracted To My Ex (I Still Find My Ex Attractive)
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If you are finding yourself saying, "I'm still so attracted to my ex" then you are also probably thinking that getting through each day is an incredible task. Breakups are bad times and getting through the subsequent days can feel like torture. This is especially true when the break up was not your idea. But crying and chanting, "I am still in love with my ex" is not going to help you move forward with your life.

There's always the possibility of a reunion with your ex, and it might be worth trying. Of course, there's no promise that it will work, but at least trying will tell you that you gave it your best efforts. You can't go through the rest of your life saying, "I'm still in love with my ex. I wonder if we could have gotten back together?" It would haunt you.

Giving it a shot will also inform your ex that you still want to be together with them. A sincere act, at the right moment, might just be the trick to make them realize that they miss you, too. It's entirely possible that they might be saying, "I'm still in love with my ex," too!

However, if infidelity was in the picture at all, the break up might be permanent. It will be harder, especially if you're the one who strayed, to orchestrate a reunion, and it may be the hardest thing you've ever had to do.

If the infidelity was on their part, but you're still thinking, "I'm still in love with my ex," then you've got a difficult decision to make. Do you really want someone in your life who has proven a potentiality for cheating? Can you rebuild trust with this person? Those are issues you must think on long and hard before jumping into another relationship with this person.

Just because you can say, "I'm still in love with my ex" at all does not ensure that old patterns and habits won't re-emerge when you are back together. What are you going to do to make sure these things don't happen again? This is an important issue for you and one that must be answered, because if you don't find suitable solutions, you are simply headed for more heartache.

Being in love is the easy part. Having a solid, working relationship is the hard part. All the promises of making changes might be enough to get you back together, but keeping to a promise to change things will be the real work.

Whether or not the trust returns easily, if you want to stop saying, "I'm still in love with my ex" then you've got to behave "as if"-as if everything is the way it needs to be. Trust will eventually return for both of you. Demonstrate that things are better with your actions, not just your words.

Of course, you need to say the right things, too. But actions, as they say, really do speak louder than words. If you really do still love them and want them back in your life, you'll facilitate the necessary changes. And the more it seems to be working, the easier it will get for both of you.

But you have to be able to tell if it's going to work or not. Can you actually go through with it? Can they? Don't make promises neither one of you can keep. If there's any doubt or concern, then saying, "I'm still in love with my ex" is just not enough to make it work. Fast fixes won't do it. A real commitment to change must happen.

How to Get Back Your Ex - A Surefire 3-Step Plan

It might seem strange that I'm telling you now isn't the time to be making decisions about how to get back your ex, because your first instinct is to try and get your ex back as soon as you can. You'll be worried they might find someone else or that they'll fall out of love with you.

However, it's important to put those thoughts to one side and focus your attention on an action plan that will have your ex begging for you to come back.

So, instead of rushing in like a bull at a gate, step back, let go and give yourself time by following this 3-step plan to get back your ex...

Step 1 - Stop Everything

Give yourself a day or two to think things through and to calm your thoughts. Preferably, go away for a couple of days. Book yourself into a hotel, away from friends and family.

The last thing you want at this time is advice from others, however well-meaning they are. This is your life and you need to make your own decisions.

Don't use this time to feel sorry for yourself. Use it to simply gather your thoughts, accept the situation and start to create an action plan to win back your ex.

Use the time to gather your thoughts and prepare for the comments and thoughts of friends and family. They'll all want to help and they'll all have a view as to what you should do.

How are you going to handle them?

What are you going to say?

Think through your answers, but whatever you do, don't enter into conversations that bad-mouth your ex and don't let others do it in front of you. Find ways to change the subject. Find your way to deal with things.

Step 2 - Stay Away From Your Ex... For Now

This is very important. Chasing after your ex immediately after a break-up will cause more harm than good and will probably drive them away for ever.

Your emotions and your ex's emotions will be all over the place and contact at this time will simply lead to arguments and will reinforce in your ex's mind why you separated in the first place.

You both need space and time to come to terms with your thoughts and emotions at this very difficult time, so don't be tempted to contact them. Instead, move on to step 3...

Step 3 - Create An Action Plan

This step vital to your success! Random actions like sending presents, calling on impulse or turning up out of the blue will almost certainly lead to failure.

So, avoid the temptation to dive in and do something straight away.

Remember step 1?

It's important to let go and calm yourself before you do anything.

OK, back to step 3...

To get back your ex, you'll need to attract them back to you.

You'll need to create a plan that will make them fall in love with you all over again...

A plan that'll show your ex things will be different when you get back together...

A plan that'll convince your ex you can be together for ever.

At this point you're creating curiosity, attraction, passion and love from your ex. Think of it as winning them over for the first time. If you can get your ex to feel those sort of emotions, they'll overpower anything that's been felt in the past.

Think carefully about how your relationship was and how you'd like it to be. Above all else, focus on how you want your relationship to be... feel it. Close your eyes and feel your ex in your arms... feel the love between you.

Now, work on ideas to attract your ex back... write them down.

It's at this point that you'll probably need some advice. Take your time... don't rush into ideas given by others or that you read. Think everything through.

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