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I Dumped My Boyfriend Now He's Ignoring Me (I Broke Up With My Boyfriend Now He's Ignoring Me)

If you're saying I dumped my boyfriend now he's ignoring me, then you're probably thinking that it's going to be nearly impossible to get him back. However it is possible, though it may take a little bit of work. It hurts to have to say I broke up with my boyfriend now he's ignoring me doesn't it?

By Kelly LaceyPublished 2 years ago Updated 2 years ago 7 min read
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Did you end the relationship with your ex? Do you feel like you made a mistake when you did end the relationship with your ex? If this is the case then there is no need to worry as you can still fix things if you play things properly. If you do want to get back together with an ex, reconciliation is still a possibility as long as you attend to the emotions that your ex is feeling.

To be honest, at the moment you are in a better position than if the situation was reversed. After all you are in a crude position of power. It was you who ended the relationship so your ex may not have been expecting the relationship to have come to such a sudden end. This fact may allow for you to get back together with an ex. This is because your ex may still be willing to get back together since they were happy with the way things were going. However you may need to be careful here as your ex may be feeling bitter and hurtful about what had actually happened. After all they may have been really emotionally invested in you and then when you decided to end the relationship it left them feeling hurt and upset. Therefore it may be the case that you need to give them some time to work things out and get their life back on track. Remember to take their emotions into account also at all times as this will show your ex that you are not just concerned about yourself.

It is also a key point to look at your relationship in hindsight and work out what went wrong. This is an important thing for you do as it will show you what you did wrong and what you should not be doing if you do get back together with an ex. Not taking these factors into account will mean that you will probably get into a viscous circle and end up in the same position that you are in right now.

You will need to apologise in a meaningful manner to your ex in order for them to take you seriously when you are talking to them about getting back together. You need to acknowledge that what you did was wrong and that you are aware of this. Doing so will show your ex that you are serious. It is important however that you show your ex you are trustful also as they may not trust you as much as they did once before. The only way to get over this is to be honest and to give it some time.

Another Chance To Get Your Ex Back

Breaking up is painful. Realizing why you broke up is harder than it may seem. Really thinking of ways to repair the damage and get the ex back needs a lot of guts. As they say--- no guts, no glory. It was all so wonderful and perfect once, wasn't it? Ahh... those were great days. Everything was smooth and sparkly. Then what happened? Why did he suddenly slip away from your loving arms? Why did you overreact to his sudden coldness?

Only couples actually in such a situation would know how awful this feels. No one else would know the truth of what you are going through right now. And how you need to swallow your pride to move forward and get it all working once again. Getting back an ex-love requires courage. Facing your mistakes and learning to accept them (and learn from them!) is one important factor of starting over. Rarely would one of the parties say, "Yes, it was all my fault". And even less often would one say, "I am sorry".

We are just programmed in our society to find it hard to do these things. However, you both need to realize that it takes two to tango. Each one needs to say and accept that they are part and parcel of the problem (and, ultimately, the solution), and that both are apologetic and willing to begin anew. Make a fresh beginning. Start with pure love and sincerity in your hearts. Apologies are meant to be sincere, and in fact they MUST be. They must be said clearly and directly, to clear the air and prepare for a fresh start.

Apologizing for past bad behavior also means, implicitly, that you are promising never to do it again. Do not forget that, for that is what your partner hears when you do apologize. This is an essential step along the road to get the ex back, so be sure you do it right, and mean it in your heart. After you do it, that clink! you will hear is another link in the bond between you falling into place. It will feel good, I promise!

We are all human, and it is normal that we make mistakes from time to time. But with apologies done and with good intentions and renewed integrity, you will now avoid falling into the same mishaps and misbehavior again, right? You bet. By just having a single goal in mind and heart, of loving and cherishing the other partner, nothing is impossible. Everything else will fall into place, and follow from that.

Many would say that it is the woman who drives the relationship in the right direction. But then again, a driver would only reach his destination comfortably and with ease if the passenger cooperates and does not dash off in new directions, or suddenly seek new adventures. When you set out to get the ex back, it is (or should be) because you want to travel down the same road of life, hand in hand with your lover.

It sure needs a lot of patience and understanding to take back an ex. Knowing now what lurking land mines lie hidden in your pasts might help avoid or reduce any spats in the future. This is a big plus-- IF you talk about them all now and get them out of the way. Then you will not be shocked and surprised because you never knew about his old love or her secret passion for an ex boyfriend. No one likes these kinds of surprises, because they strike at the very foundation of our feelings for the other person.

Whatever reasons you might have for patching things up with the ex, make sure to start with an open mind and an open heart. Always make it a point to keep that burning desire and passion alive, every single day. Try to the fullest to forget about the past flaws. Be aware of what you must do and avoid, to keep things running smoothly. We call this the give and take of a relationship.

Make every day a new day and make your partner feel that it is special - because you are together and in love. Remember that time is passing, and that it will eventually run out. The feelings of wanting more and not getting enough will simply cause you unhappiness and pain. Really look at your partner, and be content with what you have. Make those sparks fly between you, and it will fuel the eternal flame that keeps your love and passion alive!

Do You Truly Wish You Can Get Back Together with Your Ex?

Relationship is a fragile bond that when it's broken, the process of mending can be much more difficult than creating it in the first place. Sometimes it's an extremely difficult task to sort out all the problems and get back together with your ex. No matter how many times you come up with different reasons and approaches, your ex does not seem to change the decision to leave you. If you’d like to get your hands on a step-by-step method for changing your ex's decision about the breakup, click here!

Let me show you exactly what to do to salvage your relationship and rekindle the lost love one more time…even if you're the only one trying…and even if the situation seems hopeless. Head over now to Get Your Ex Back Secrets

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