How to Thrive in Your Next Committed Relationship After Divorce

Divorce can be rough, and your next committed relationship might seem out of reach at first.

It's hard to imagine being in love again after going through something as painful as divorce, but you can do it with the right support system and be patient with yourself.

This article will discuss how to thrive in your next committed relationship after divorce, some of the most common reasons that relationships fail after a divorce, and how to avoid them.

Start by learning your worth

As a person who has been divorced, you may feel that your worth is at an all-time low.

It's understandable to want to go into your next relationship with a sense of assurance that you can offer your partner something better than what they had before.

But don't forget that other people's opinions don't determine your value. The only idea that matters is yours.

If you start dating someone new, remember that your ex was not right for you because of who they were—your ex just wasn't suitable for you!

You control how much—or how little—you let other people influence how worthy you feel about yourself.

Know what you're looking for

Often, many people stick around in miserable relationships because they're afraid of being alone.

The fact is, you don't have to be partnered up all of your life.

That said, it's also good not to dive into another relationship too quickly after you split from your ex.

If you find yourself serious with someone new within a few months or even years after a divorce or a breakup, ask yourself why that might be—and if there are other reasons besides not wanting to be alone.

If so, keep those extra factors in mind and make sure it doesn't negatively impact your new relationship—which brings us to our next point: dating smart.

It's essential to avoid repeating past mistakes. Think about what went wrong in your past relationship(s) and what you can do differently moving forward.

Perhaps consider taking some course on communication skills, healthy conflict resolution, or even just something as simple as learning how to flirt (we all could use a refresher!).

And remember, finding love isn't limited to online dating—it's out there! You need to put yourself out there (in more ways than one).

Love yourself before giving love to someone else

The key to thriving in your next committed relationship after divorce is learning to love yourself.

There's no expert way of doing it, but I know some things that have helped me on my journey.

I recommend learning how to be alone with yourself and truly enjoy it.

In a society where being single has more stigma than ever before, it can be difficult for those who are not single by choice or circumstance.

But if you can learn to be happy when you're alone, you will make room for someone else in your life.

It doesn't mean you don't want someone else; you're ready to share space with another person because they add value to your life. And that's what makes all relationships better!

Take care of yourself emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually

Yes, it's important to take care of yourself when going through a divorce, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't also be able to enjoy life.

Make sure you're taking time for things you love: Spend time with friends and family, reconnect with hobbies, read a good book or watch a movie.

And remember that self-care isn't selfish; it can make you feel more confident and happier—qualities any potential partner will appreciate!

You don't have to rush into another relationship right away, either.

Take your time and give yourself some space to focus on healing before getting back out there.

Find support from friends, family, and professionals

It can be very helpful to have a community of people around you that have experienced what you're going through.

Look for support groups near you, or ask family and friends if they can lend an ear.

It's also important to be honest with yourself about your actions.

Be upfront with your children about any plans for remarriage and seek professional help if necessary.

If you suspect that you may harm someone else, get help from a therapist as soon as possible before things get out of hand.

Reclaim your power

It's easy to feel powerless whether you're separating from a loved one or ending your marriage.

The person you thought would be there for you forever is leaving, and you might feel as if your safety net is suddenly gone.

But that doesn't mean your power disappears with them. Even if a breakup is inevitable—perhaps your spouse cheated on you and won't go through counseling—you have more control over your future than you think.

Finding out who you are outside of a relationship will help ensure that you enter into an honest and loving partnership next time around, not one where boundaries are crossed again and again.

The truth is: You can survive divorce.

Reconnect with yourself through activities that bring you joy

Many of us go through life doing what we have to do without paying much attention to our needs or desires.

As a result, we may become disconnected from who we are.

Try reconnecting with yourself by spending time on activities that bring you joy, whether going for a long walk, catching up with an old friend, playing with your children, or taking up an art class at your local community college.

These activities help put you back in touch with your authentic self and remind you what makes you happy (or unhappy).

Don't worry about where things stand with your divorce.

Instead, enjoy these moments of reflection as they help take some pressure off and get you back into being mode instead of doing way.

Final words

It's going to be okay.

You will find love again, and you will overcome your divorce.

Take it one day at a time and try not to make any decisions that you aren't 100% positive about because divorce is not something that should ever happen unless you have no other option.

And even then, it takes a lot of courage and strength, just like anything else in life worth having. You can do it!