10 People Who Fall for Romance Myths!

The best thing about the love you have with your partner is that it's real.

However, many myths can lead people astray and cause them to be unhappy in their relationships, so make sure you are not one of these 10 people who fall for romance myths!

Myth #1: Knowing what you want means you won't get hurt

Let's get one thing straight – if you go into a relationship without opening yourself up, there's not much chance of getting hurt.

You may have had bad experiences in past relationships, but chances are those problems were with people who weren't your type – i.e., they didn't fit with what you wanted and needed in a partner (or how you wanted to be treated).

This time around, listen to your instincts and note what works for you and what doesn't when it comes to emotional connections.

If a potential suitor isn't respecting or communicating with you as well as they should be, cut them loose before it goes any further.

Myth #2: If it's meant to be, it will happen

Our cultural rom-com brainwashing has also trained us to believe that love is a magical force in our lives.

If you're meant to be with someone, all you have to do is sit back, and it will fall into your lap. The real world doesn't work like that, though.

If you want to find love, you have to put yourself out there and ask people out—lots of people.

Make it your life goal to ask at least one person on a date every month (which is only 12 dates total—that's not too hard).

And remember: You are allowed to say no as well as yes.

Myth #3: Life is about taking risks

Taking risks can help you become better at what you do, both in your career and in relationships.

However, taking too many risks can also ruin your relationship when it comes to romance.

Think about it: Can you be happy if your partner is always second-guessing whether or not they're being true to themselves?

No relationship is perfect, but when you know each other well enough, it doesn't feel like a risk to tell them how much they mean to you; true love starts.

Myth #4: Relationships are all about finding your soulmate

If you're only looking for your soulmate and nothing else, it could be that you'll get a bit pickier than you would otherwise.

This can cause people to hold out on finding someone new until they find that perfect person, which never happens.

Keep an open mind and remember there's plenty of good stuff to be had; don't miss out on anything by being too focused on finding the one.

Instead, appreciate what you have now, whether one night with a sexy stranger or two decades of marriage.

If more love comes along down the road, then great, but if not, at least you enjoyed yourself.

The former is called settling, while the latter is just living life.

Myth #5: Love is all there is

We love to think that we're all so special, but most of us are pretty run-of-the-mill.

It's common to hear people say that they couldn't possibly fall in love with someone unless they find them irresistibly beautiful or unique in some other way.

Don't be one of these people who only look at a person's outward beauty before deciding if they have any romantic connection; you could miss out on meeting your perfect match just because she doesn't fit into your carefully constructed standards.

Instead, focus on building a solid relationship based on shared values and interests, and don't forget that physical attraction is something you can develop over time.

Myth #6: The best relationships start with chemistry

Chemistry doesn't make a relationship.

Chemistry fuels it and can set things in motion, but you can have chemistry with someone and never go on another date.

Chemistry alone isn't enough to sustain a relationship.

If two people have it, that's great, but if you aren't compatible in other ways, it won't matter. Chemistry shouldn't be your only criterion when choosing your partner.

Compatibility counts for more.

The best relationships are between two people who bring out different strengths, so they complement each other instead of competing.

The person who compliments you will be around longer than someone who sets off fireworks inside you.

Myth #7: If a relationship isn't working, you must be doing something wrong

You should be able to fix any relationship with some effort.

No, no, no. If it's not working, you can try and try and try to fix it, but if your partner is just not on board with working at it — or worse, doesn't want to work on it — nothing is going to change that.

You have to accept that there are things you might be able to change about yourself (more on that later), but there are other things that are a deal-breaker in any relationship.

That's a sad truth...but also one you should remember if things aren't exactly ideal in your current or past relationships: It could be you.

Myth #8. Guys are from Mars, and girls are from Venus

We've all heard about how men and women are from different planets. And while that's a funny little saying, it also oversimplifies what we can learn from each other.

Men and women want very similar things—we want someone who values our personal growth as much as we do.

So don't assume your idea of love is better than theirs or ignore their ideas because they aren't what you think you should have.

Each person brings unique experiences to a relationship that can help us grow together.

And if you keep learning, growing, and evolving together, your love will last long past both Mars and Venus being hot rocks in space!

Myth #9. Love conquers all

Love has proven to be very real for many people, but that doesn't mean you should sacrifice your goals and dreams to make a relationship work.

You may not be able to accomplish everything you want in life while maintaining a long-distance relationship or while working odd hours.

If it's your dream to open up a bakery, you need to stay focused on making that happen—don't get sidetracked by a fantastic boyfriend who is moving to another country in six months!

Figure out what is most important to you and do everything in your power to pursue those goals and ensure that they come before any potential partners.

Your dreams will keep you going when you experience tough times.

Myth #10. True love can last forever

This myth is entirely false. If you're looking for something more lasting than a one-night stand, focus on how to find a partner who has mutual interests with you and is willing to take care of both your needs.

There are also many good books about finding a long-term partner that can offer insight into what kind of person will suit you.

However, it is important to understand that no one lasts forever, and even marriages don't last as long as they used to because people live longer these days, which means they end up spending more time together.

It's important to remember that compatibility is more important than longevity when considering someone for marriage, so make sure your partner supports and challenges you.