How to stop getting raked or getting ghosted?

All in our life, at least once, we have caught wind or a rake. Worse, you may have been ghosted by someone you had already started to bond with. Why does this happen? Why did I take wind or a rake? Why did I get ghosted? How can this not happen again? The Modern Gentleman supports you in your pain, and to help you prevent it from happening again, has written a guide for you to stop getting caught in the wind!

The difference between taking a wind, getting a rake, and getting ghosted

You have to start by knowing what type of rejection you have taken in the face to be able to identify the causes. So, let's do a definition point:

The expression "take a wind" comes from a situation where one person would try to kiss another, the other turning his head away, it is the wind that will kiss the lonely person. More commonly used to say that someone has not responded the same way as you to an action: for example, someone not responding to a message, when you call them on the street or more!

The expression “to take a rake” corresponds to the fact of missing your shot with someone by taking a pure and explicit rejection. For example, you confess your feelings to someone, and this person informs you that they are not interested. This is a rake!

The expression “to be ghosted” is a very new term compared to the other two. This is a brutal way to break the bond with someone, through silence. If you started chatting with someone who no longer reads or responds to your messages, or if you haven't heard from your loved one for 10 days, you have certainly been ghosted.

The reasons that may explain that you take wind or a rake

the reasons for a rake or wind

What you need to know, is that the possible reasons why you could have caught wind or a rake are numerous. They depend above all on the person who put it on you, and if you want to know you can, do not hesitate to ask him for an explanation on the pretext that it will help you grow.

It doesn't match physically and you took a wind!

One of the most common reasons, if you don't know the person and they don't know you, is that it doesn't match physically.

It's not always easy to hear, but you can't please everyone. And you can have a very beautiful physique, tastes and colors are not discussed. You may be charming and kind, but if you are blond with blue eyes and your sweetheart's type of man is dark-haired with black eyes, you are simply not to her taste.

Remember that the physical is not only the features of your face, or even your morphology. Your physique is also your attitude, the way you hold yourself and how you interact with others, the way you dress, or even everything related to personal (and oral) hygiene. Many physical love killers can, on their own, keep you from closing.

The person is not open to dating

One of the reasons you may have taken a stab at it is because the person you're trying to seduce isn't open to dating. For example :

A person who is already in a relationship

A woman who is in love with another man (without being with)

A person who is not in love with your edge

A woman who is coming out of a complicated relationship and needs to rebuild herself

A person for whom the couple does not miss, and who is focused on other goals

There are many reasons why someone might not be open to dating, and those reasons are not up to you at all, but that person alone.

You got it wrong in the request and you took a wind

You may have taken a rake or a wind also for factual reasons, based on logical or emotional factors. You may have gone about the wrong way in how you approach the person and the person has turned away. It may also be that the refusal was a matter of pride, defense mechanism, or other if the person experienced your flirting attempt as an attack. Avoid attempts that are too direct, rude, invasive, and/or disrespectful.