How to schedule a date for the first time?

1. If it's up to you, it's best to choose a place you know well and like. You may be excited and nervous on a first date, and if you're in a new place, the new environment will make it harder for you to relax or focus. In general, the best first date is one that is relaxed and comfortable. Explore strange and wild new things, and wait until you're more familiar with them. 2. Keep two key words in mind when planning your first date: "short" and "malleable". Short, because if you don't talk, you don't have to stay together. Half an hour for coffee is better than two hours for a six-course meal. But at the same time, we should have a plan for the next step. In case we have a happy coffee conversation and wish to have further conversation, we can propose a plan for further contact. After work, try making an appointment with a dessert shop after dinner. 3. Don't forget the basics of social etiquette: be on time, give advance notice when you're late, put your phone on vibrate (if you're really busy, change your date; Try not to play with your phone), don't eat too loudly, don't Wolf down your food, ask for nice (e.g. waiters, taxi drivers), say thank you and hold the door for them. Details make you more tasteful and attractive, and make the atmosphere more comfortable. For men and women. 4. The easiest, best and most infallible first date is the coffee shop. Starbucks, Costa and other chain stores are easy to find and suit the preferences of most people. Private coffee shops can be explored together after getting familiar with them. Coffee shops are relatively economical but tasteful. You can leave after half an hour. If you are happy, you can continue the next activity. Avoid people in many hours, sensitive to caffeine drink high. 5. Go to a restaurant or bar on a date. If possible, choose a place with something to watch (night view, street scene, garden, or a less noisy show). Something to watch allows you to advance or retreat. When you are tired of talking or running out of things to say, you can look at the scenery and perhaps generate some conversation from the scenery (memories, travel experiences, an interesting place or event). 6. A slightly rare but memorable first date idea: a picnic in the park on a sunny day, a little more preparation, sandwiches, wine, dessert can be bought ready-made in the supermarket, of course, make your own more thoughtful; A blanket or tablecloth on the floor, a wine glass, or something for each of you. Don't bring Chinese food. Picnics are bad. Don't be afraid of losing face, romantic things must be unique. 7. A rare but memorable first date idea: The zoo is full of children's fun, and the novelty of various animals can be a temporary break from the mood of white-collar life. Make full use of the character of different animals to adjust the atmosphere, for example, monkey mountain, hippopotamus, grass mud horse in front of most will have a lot of laughter, bird hall is suitable for quietly listening to the birds, butterfly hall can be more two people gather together very close to appreciate. 8. A rare but memorable first date idea: Go bowling. Don't worry, it's fun to make a fool of yourself. The point is that if two people are at the same level, a little bit of competition goes a long way in building chemistry. Similarly, billiards, video games what is also good, but to see whether the other party is happy. 9. A slightly unusual but memorable first date idea: The aquarium is one of my favorite places. The sea creatures are beautiful, peaceful, and the strange shapes create a fun atmosphere. Aquariums tend to be quiet, too. Two people leaning over the glass looking at beautiful creatures is romantic in itself, and it's nice to slow down and talk while walking. It's worth going on any date, if not the first. 10. A rare but memorable first date idea: a museum, where the quiet, focused atmosphere will make your partner try to suppress excitement, but at the same time focus on you. Modern art exhibits will make for a lot of laughs or curious conversations between two people, and classical paintings are the best subjects to enjoy together. If you meet a small number of people, two people standing in the empty exhibition hall, you may suddenly have a very strong chemistry oh! 11. A slightly rare but memorable first date idea: a bookstore. A quiet and gorgeous bookstore is relaxing and enjoyable, but with a bookstore + cafe feeling similar to Eslite Bookstore. There's a lot you can say about books between two people, but only if you're a relative book-lover yourself. Avoid noisy, crowded places, especially the children's book section, and all kinds of kids. 12. A slightly unusual but romantic first date idea: A one-hour class. Cake making, painting, pottery, etc. This is a natural way to start a first date. You'll focus on what you're doing, and you'll relax as you get used to it. It's also a good memory carrier. 13. A slightly unusual but memorable first date idea: Pretend to be a tourist. We often take the city we live in for granted. If two people put on the "hat" of tourists and go to rediscover the city together, you can take the bus around the city together, or you can go to the attractions of those rotten streets like outsiders, you will have a different discovery. Take lots of pictures, just for fun! 14. Always pay attention to your date's comfort level. If you're going to a place that's too noisy, too crowded, too long, too boring, you can tell, at least you can tell, is the other person happier and more relaxed, or more uncomfortable and impatient than when they first got here? When you feel nervous and uncomfortable, you focus on yourself first, but making the other person feel good about yourself is not that important. 15. Unless you are confident that you can handle the other person, try to have a plan B. In case the coffee shop isn't to your liking, or the bar is noisier than you thought, is there another place you can go where you won't have the same problems? "Where do you want to go?" "I can do it all." . Two people aimlessly looking for a place on the street is not romantic and can make each other feel polite and hesitant. 16. Remember why you're dating. The short-term goal of dating is to attract each other and bring two people closer together. The long-term goal is to find a partner or marry someone. Never forget that to achieve long-term goals, short-term goals must be done well first. Does what you're doing interest your partner? Does it make you seem attractive? Does it bring the relationship closer? Please feel free to ask yourself these questions instead of guessing if they love me or not. 17. A movie is not recommended on a first date because you may not be used to each other yet. And the lack of communication, it is difficult to establish a preliminary understanding and trust. If you must watch movies, don't recommend romantic films, because the relationship is not familiar, it will be difficult to resonate with the mood in the film. Horror movies have a drawbridge effect, but they're not good for first dates. Action movies with comedy are the best choice, light and happy. 18. At the end of a first date, create some alone time. No matter what fun things you did earlier, at the end of the day you need some time to calm down and talk. This is a good time to assess the other person and the future of the relationship, but don't use this moment to express your feelings unfavorably. No one believes a confession on a first date. 19. If your first date is a movie, don't say goodbye right after the movie. Remember what rule 18 says? Have some alone time before you say goodbye, talk about the movie, collect your emotions, everyone needs time to digest after the ups and downs. At this time to drink a cup of milk tea, eat some midnight snack, or simply press the road for a while are good. If we don't discuss it after the movie, most of the meaning of the matter will be lost. 20. At the end of a first date, don't be coy and wonder if your partner hasn't had enough and should be doing something else somewhere. Politely thank the person for their company, say good night, and if it feels good, make plans for another date with at most one more hug. A short, clear finish is safest and least distracting. 21. Don't know what to say? So nervous? Worried you won't look good? Can't read the other person's mind? No matter what problems you encounter on a date, please remember that when in doubt, smile. Any time in doubt what to do, the safest thing to do is smile. Smiling won't answer your questions or solve your partner's confusion, but it will make them think you're cute. A lot of times it doesn't feel like the thing itself. 22. Pay attention to your body movements at all times. This includes: You are talking to the volume of the pitch speech, facial expressions, especially the eyes and mouth, body posture, direction and position of the limbs, whether there are too many habitual little affectations, whether there are too many distractions painstakingly, also suggested that let the other side to see your hands, both hands ChaDou or in each other's sight may let a person feel a little nervous. 23. When on a date, avoid dominating the conversation and ask questions. A man who talks too much is no use. Both men and women love attention. Asking questions is the best way to show your attention, and it's not casual or polite. And please try to remember the other person's answer, dating, sometimes like a test, test your sincerity, attention, focus. 24. Compliment the other person appropriately. Not to suck up, but if you're not sure how to avoid it, start with the objective and obvious: the watch looks good, the hair looks good on you, the dress looks good. The person needs to be specific: great eyes, great neck, great shoulders, great height. The more abstract the compliment, the more likely it is to be flattering, but it's okay if the other person likes it. 25. On a first date, you can compliment other people as well, including the middleman who introduced you to each other, your mutual friend, the waiter who served you food, the taxi driver who drove you, the stranger who held the elevator door for you. Kindness to others and positive energy are attractive traits in anyone's eyes. It has been my experience that men make an especially good impression on women when they have friendly conversations with strangers. 26. Don't be too quick to express your unique aspects. Unique might mean you're a little neurotic, or you're crazy about a Lithuanian underground band, or some quirk. When you first meet someone, no matter how cool or individual you are, it's hard to be attractive, and most of the time it's going to hurt your score. Please shut up the little monster inside and start with a good, normal person. 27. OK, it's considered attractive to be nice to others, so let me just say a few more: hold the door for others when you get out of the elevator, wait until all the ladies are out. Open all doors for your date, including the cab door; Talk about yourself or other related people and people, language in a kind, do not easily criticize scold; Don't get angry if the restaurant is too slow or the wrong dish is served, but politely but firmly make your request; Ladies first!! 28. What women do when they're nervous on a date: They answer every question in a few words (cold, cool, competent, but not cute or attractive); Everything is "whatever" and "I can do it" (which makes men assume all the decisions and appear to be indecisive); Always check your phone, even if there is no message or call, or always check your watch (make people nervous, it's better to say so); Pretend to be interested in everything (which is usually obvious). 29. The initial appointment should probably last no more than three hours. An hour and a half is usually enough for a meal. No matter how attractive you are, there will be periods of mental burnout. In fact, on a first date, when you two are having a great time, that's when the excitement starts to drop. Finding an excuse to end a first date with both of you feeling slightly less than satisfied can actually create a lot of excitement between now and the next time you meet. 30. Never ask "What do you want to do next?" . Dating is fun, making plans is not, so don't make them do things with you that aren't fun. You can either give them a choice, or you can just decide. It's a good idea for both men and women to go on a date with some plans in mind, including where you might go on the second date if you feel good. 31. Decide on your signature drink. If you're at a bar or in a restaurant and you're going to have a drink, "I'll have a bottle of Qingdao/Budweiser/whiskey on the rocks/Long Island iced tea /Mojito" is better than "What do you have?" For the better. People who know what they want are always better than people who are uncertain and confused. Another hint: Mojito's J is actually pronounced as an H (Spanish). 32. Who pays for the first date? In China most people would say the man buys it. Well, it's a matter of opinion, but if a man wants to pay, try using the bathroom to buy the bill instead of waiting for it to arrive. Paying the bill is an awkward thing to do, just let the two of you skip this, absolutely smooth! The girl must sincerely thank the other person and is perfectly free to suggest that I pay for the next event/activity. 33. Don't push your partner to make a decision after the first date. No matter what they think of you, this is a detractor. No matter how much you like each other, or how much you need company or how much you need to get married, don't show that you're horny or lonely after the first date, especially a guy (I'm not good with girls, but I really like you). Don't ask, "Do you like me?" Such a silly question. 34. If the other person pushes you for a conclusion, politely say, "I wish I had more time to get to know you." If you are forced to meet again but don't want to see again, please don't say this, otherwise the other person will insist on asking you to meet again. If pressed on a first date, there's nothing wrong with saying "Thanks for the dinner/coffee/listening, but I'm not attracted to you. Good luck!"