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How to get over a Breakup

Tips for someone who is going through tough time

By Emma WilliamsPublished 2 years ago 6 min read
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A couple struggling and thinking about a breakup

Most people have been through a breakup at some point in their lives. And for many of us, the experience can be pretty tough to handle. We may feel like we're never going to find someone new or that we're destined to be alone forever. When you're fresh out of a relationship, the last thing you want to do is think about your ex. But unfortunately, they seem to be all you can think about. You replay all of your happy memories together and wonder what went wrong. But there are ways to get through a breakup and come out the other side feeling better than ever before.

Change your Environment

After spending so much time with someone, it can be tough to imagine life without them. If you find yourself feeling stuck after a break-up, one thing you can do is change your environment. This doesn't necessarily mean moving to a new city or anything drastic like that. Sometimes, simply rearranging your furniture or taking a different route to work can help to clear your mind and give you a fresh start. Even something as small as buying a new plant for your apartment can help you to feel more optimistic about the future. It sounds clichéd, but sometimes a change of scenery is all you need. So, if you're struggling to get over your ex, try shaking things up and changing your environment. Who knows, it might be just what you need.

Stop Any Kind of Communication

If you are struggling to move on from a break-up, one of the best things you can do is to cut off all communication with your ex. We always want to remove someone from messenger after the breakup and that is probably the best thing for us. This helps to ensure that you don't have any communication with them and that you won't be tempted to talk to them. This also includes unfriending or blocking them on other social media channels, as well as avoiding any places that you know they frequent. Additionally, you may want to delete any text messages or photos that remind you of them. By taking these steps, you can help to prevent yourself from dwelling on the past and instead focus on your own happiness. Additionally, it gives you time to process the breakup and to move on without having to see them every day. Of course, there are other ways to break up with someone, but removing them from messenger and other social media platforms is a good way to start.

Invest in Self Care

There are always going to be residual feelings of sadness, anger, and betrayal after the breakup - even if it was the best thing for both parties. So, what can you do to help yourself recover and move on? The answer is self-care. This doesn't mean wallowing in your pain or trying to forget the person you were with. Instead, it means investing in yourself and making sure you're taking care of your needs. It's important to take some time for yourself and invest in your own happiness. Do things that make you feel good and surround yourself with people who love and support you. This isn't a selfish act - it's an act of self-preservation. When you take care of yourself, you're better equipped to deal with whatever life throws your way - including break-ups. So don't be afraid to put your needs first during this difficult time. Your self-care regime will see you through to the other side.

Don’t Stay Alone At Home

After a breakup, you may feel the inclination to hole yourself up at home and never come out. While it’s important to spend some time alone to process your thoughts and feelings, too much time alone can actually lead to depression. When you’re constantly thinking about your ex or the happy times you had together, it’s easy to wallow in self-pity and sink into a negative mindset. If you find yourself in this situation, it’s important to reach out to your friends and family for support. Don’t be afraid to lean on them during this difficult time. They can help you get out of the house and distract you from your thoughts. In addition, there are many activities that can take your mind off of your ex, such as going for a walk, reading a book, or taking up a new hobby. If you find yourself spending too much time alone after a breakup, make an effort to get out of the house and engage in activities that make you happy. Doing so will help you move on from your relationship and avoid depression.

Get a Hobby

As mentioned in the previous paragraph, one of the best things you can do is to get a hobby. Hobbies help take your mind off of your ex and give you something else to focus on. Doing something that you're passionate about will help take your mind off of your ex and give you a sense of purpose. Whether it's painting custom portraits, hiking a mountain, or playing video games, having something to focus on can help you take your mind off of your ex and start to move on with your life. Or, if you really want to get out there and meet new people, you could join a club or take up a new sport. Whatever you choose, make sure it's something that makes you happy. After a while, you'll find that your ex is nothing more than a distant memory.

See a Therapist

Going through a breakup is tough, no matter how strong you are. It's natural to feel hurt, confused, and even angry. But just because you're feeling those things doesn't mean you're weak. In fact, seeking out therapy can be an incredibly brave thing to do. It shows that you're committed to self-improvement and want to learn from your experience. By going into therapy, you'll be able to talk about your feelings in a safe, judgment-free environment. You'll also gain valuable insights into yourself and your relationship. And armed with that knowledge, you'll be able to start the next chapter of your life wiser and more prepared for whatever comes your way. So even if you're not struggling with your breakup, therapy can still be a helpful tool for growth.

Conclusion

No one said breakups are easy. They are often messy, complicated and can leave you feeling heartbroken, alone and unsure of how to pick up the pieces and move on. Breakups are never easy but by following these steps you can begin to rebuild your life and find happiness again.

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