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How To Change My Selfish Husband (Living With A Self Centered Husband)

Are you worried and wondering how to change my selfish husband! I have been through a terrible marriage and come out the other side happy again, and living with a self centered husband. Duh! Who better to ask right?

By Charles BillPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
How To Change My Selfish Husband (Living With A Self Centered Husband)
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Are you living with a Narcissist? If not, can you imagine living with one?

A narcissist is someone who always THINKS he is of great importance, he thinks only of himself; he is preoccupied with thoughts of only HIMSELF; a self-absorbed individual; conceited OR simply SELFISH.

To live with someone who has this personality disorder is indeed an absolute disaster. If you have to deal with a narcissist, then look at his positive side. If you did not find out earlier that your spouse is one of them, then you have to know exactly how to deal with them. It may be such a devastating experience to find out that you have married a man so exaggeratedly in love with himself BUT there are ways on how to make life better.

How to Deal with a Narcissist

Be realistic- if you have been waiting for him to nurture you, stop it right now because what you've been waiting for will never happen. You have to understand that people who are narcissistic spend most of their time loving only themselves that they overlook the feelings of other people around them. Thinking how better they are than the rest is the only way they feel good about themselves.

Focus on your own self-esteem by focusing on your self-worth; you will never feel so down. Since you know that you are with a self-centered person, you have to train yourself to handle the feeling of being push behind. Stay positive and do not take it personally since you already know there is nothing wrong with you.

These 2 things mentioned above may seem to be so impossible to do especially if you have allowed yourself to be drained emotionally. Fortunately, there is still a way out of this situation. HOW?

Do not entertain his behavior. YES, if he starts talking about himself again, try getting away with it by changing the topic. This will now be a challenge to you; to become the INFLUENCER instead of you being influenced. The moment he starts talking about how great he is, knock it off by being straightforward. But, you have to do it the right way, and that's saying it without arrogance. By doing this, you will notice that he would be talking about himself less....eventually. So, the bottom-line is still PATIENCE. That is of course ONLY IF you want to stay, live and deal with narcissist.

How to Stay Happily Married

Stress takes a toll on every marriage; and public safety marriages - with inordinately high levels of stress - offer an excellent proving ground for advanced studies in marital harmony. Over one-half of all marriages end in divorce; and public safety marriages are notorious for having an even higher failure rate. Here are five fire-proof methods for keeping your relationship hot and healthy in even the most difficult conditions.

1. Remember why you got married in the first place. While it is true that most people get married for the wrong reasons (looks, money, fear, opportunity, etc...), people who want to save their relationships are often those who truly loved each other at one point in their relationship. By focusing your mind on the reasons you got married and the things you love about the other person, you can dramatically reduce the size and importance of most marital problems. Remembering why you are in this relationship is an excellent way to rekindle that old flame.

2. Think positive and loving thoughts. By diligently thinking happy thoughts, you will restore your own happiness - a critical step to creating a happy relationship. You can only think of one thing at a time; and, if you are constantly focusing on stressful thoughts, you are creating unwanted stress in your life and relationship. Furthermore, stress is the cause of most health problems; so do yourself a favor and lighten-up!

3. Do the things you did to "win" your partner in the first place. Remember when you were trying to capture the attention and heart of your partner? Well, the game isn't over until you're dead. Keep working on "winning" your partner's affections and your marriage will never lose that ever so important spark. It may take heroic efforts to save your relationship; if that's what it takes, be a hero.

4. Keep it fresh and exciting. Falling into routines, or "ruts," is the beginning of the end for most relationships. Keep learning about life and each other. Try new and different things with each other. Be adventurous. Go exploring. Don't be a stick in the mud - play in the mud! Have fun together and your marriage will provide you with joy rather than stress. Don't be afraid to be creative when it comes to building something special.

5. Spend time together. After a while, couples start avoiding each other because all they seem to do when they are together is argue, fight, or talk about stressful issues. Pay attention to the first four suggestions I offered you and spending time together will be a joy and a pleasure. Think back to the beginning of your relationship and how much you wanted to be together and spend time together - so much so, in fact, that you got married. You can have your own space and time; but, if you're in a relationship, your partner should be your number one priority - and the person you spend the most time with. Start doing fun things together. Go for walks, spend time in nature, sit in a swing, go to a ball game or something else you both enjoy doing.

If you truly want to keep your marriage healthy and fun, do whatever you can to incorporate these suggestions into your life and marriage. In the beginning, you may have to make compromises; but that is a natural part of any relationship whether you like it or not. Learn to give, learn to compromise, and spend your time thinking about what's really important to you. If you decide that your relationship is what is most important to you, start investing time and energy in your partner and your relationship and try these five suggestions for keeping the home fires burning.

Do you want to reawaken a committed and loving relationship in your marriage? There are proven steps that are amazingly powerful that will help you overcome conflicts and breathe life back into your marriage. This is a plan you do not want to pass by. Click here to see the proven steps on how to save your marriage.

Divorce does not have to be your only option. Even if it feels as though your relationship can't be saved because of the ongoing conflicts between you and your spouse, it can be. There are techniques that you can begin using today that will not only stop a divorce, but will help also you build a stronger and more loving marriage. To learn more visit: Steps to Save Your Marriage


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