How to Calm Your Partner’s Jealousy

It is widely believed that jealousy only characterizes unbelievers. But in fact, the causes of jealousy are much more diverse and do not always come down to phobias and psychological complexes. If you are the jealous partner of the couple, I also recommend that you read this article and analyze your thoughts and actions self-critically. You may need to consult a psychologist before starting work on you.

But if you are the target of jealousy, then you need to determine what kind of partner you have with you.

Negatively experienced partner

In the life of the partner in the first category, there was already an episode of painful betrayal or his parents suffered family crises for this reason. This creates a defensive reaction - if I prevent betrayal, I can save the relationship.

Or when the fact of betrayal comes to light, questions like this always arise - how could you not notice something like this? When did things take another turn? How to avoid this mistake in the future? Thus arises the paranoid jealousy, which squeezes all those involved in the situation, without exception. Total control begins: questions like, why did you stay at work for 15 minutes, why was your phone unloaded, etc.

The partner no longer feels safe and is inevitably tense for fear of taking the wrong step. This is how the relationship lies. If you happen to meet an acquaintance on the way home and the conversation lasted exactly 20 minutes, you avoid provoking your loved one and you prefer to keep quiet about it because it seems like a trifle.

Later the truth comes to the surface. If not now, another time you're going to mess it up. And the suffering begins. Rather, the torment continues, because it's a chore to always be suspected.

What to do?

Start telling the truth, don't lie, and don't justify yourself. Explain that you are ready to tell everything openly and that you have nothing to hide. If, over time, this worsens the situation, ask your partner to consult a psychologist to dispel the demons of the past, which are the focus of your problems today. If he refuses, then you choose if you are ready to continue a neurotic relationship.

The partner who perceives you as a sexual object

This person can be extremely jealous of their partner's sexual attraction decreases. It is often a vicious circle: a woman only needs sex. Once he gets what he wants, he makes his property his partner, but at the same time, he is not ready to dedicate himself spiritually, emotionally, and sometimes not even financially.

Feeling this, the woman begins to avoid the relationships in which she is used, without receiving anything in return. The man, in turn, perceives this as a betrayal - "because he has someone else".

What to do?

An experiment can be used - exclude sex for a week or two. You will have to talk, look for other ways to spend your free time apart from sex, then more important issues will remain - the real attitude towards each other. If something valuable comes out, then develop it, multiply it, build the relationship from scratch, but on a different foundation.

If the man does not accept the experiment, you will win anyway and that will tell you a lot.

According to statistics, men are often jealous and commit crimes out of jealousy. But jealousy also characterizes women (it is an equally unpleasant manifestation for men), so the article is useful for both sexes.

The partner is focused on lower vibrations

Some people live in lower vibrations, they do not know how to enjoy life and receive satisfaction from any process, but they also pull others to the bottom. At least try.

There are situations when a gloomy young man (or young woman) meets a cheerful, smiling, open girl (boy) who radiates joy. One can fall in love with this smile and the light that the girl exudes. But in time he is jealous of all those with whom the young woman communicates amicably.

She begins to limit her communication with friends, colleagues, tries to rule out possible situations when she can smile at others. Isn't the man self-confident? Yes, that's one of the reasons. But instead of working on it so that your partner doesn't focus on others, he starts pulling her down.

What to do?

Continue to smile innocently at those around you, life, and people of the opposite sex. Don't lose that spark in you, don't let it extinguish you. You may also be able to infect your partner with a positive attitude toward life. If your partner does not match your temperament and communication style, look for someone else who will be happy to see a happy and radiant man with you. Leave the gloomy ones to the gloomy ones.

Here are two more general recommendations for both types of jealousy.

talk to your partner about sincerity in the relationship, let him know that he is unique,

tell him why you don't need someone else, maybe you haven't told him that in a long time and he doubts himself,

find out what behavior is causing them jealousy and either remove these causes or argue why your behavior is harmless.

Jealousy is an unpleasant phenomenon for both partners if it is serious and lasts more than five minutes - we are not talking now about the innocent flirtation between two lovers. Don't let jealousy overshadow your life.