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How To Be the Best Girlfriend

by Erika Potap 4 years ago in advice

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To be the best at anything, one must find a balance. Too much or too little of something can be the deciding factor between being the best and being the worst. First and foremost, it is important to be whole in regards to yourself: do not look unto your boyfriend to fill a void within yourself or somehow “complete” you, as it will only strain your relationship by putting unnecessary pressure on both of you. It's important that you have your own group of friends, hobbies, likes and dislikes. Once you have those things in place, it's important to keep up with them once you are in a relationship as well; don't all of a sudden forget about your life while living your partner's life. Knowing the correct balance is a key factor in any relationship, and by taking out the time to nurture your own likes you will actually make your bond stronger, giving each other time to miss one another. Although it sounds quite obvious, many of us forget that real love is not selfish. So just to remind ourselves: we should always love from the heart and love unselfishly, even if it is not in our favor at that moment. It's what real love is all about. Of course, our egos' may resist, but we must always be in control of our mind and our emotions, we must strive to be rational and of sound mind. As I am sure many of you already know, jealousy is the worst human quality to possess and it can break even the strongest of relationships. To be the best girlfriend your boyfriends could ever ask for, it is super important that you always trust your boyfriend whether it be his words or his actions. Otherwise, do him the favor of walking away, because without trust there is no relationship. And if you can't trust the person closest to you, who can you really trust ? Even if there have been times in the past that have led to you be skeptical or question his actions or words, the fact that you decided to stay means you have to leave everything in the past, and start fresh. You can't use the past as an excuse for you to question every word coming out of his mouth. You will only drive yourself crazy with the countless "what ifs" and make him feel like he constantly has to explain himself, even when he is doing nothing wrong. Try to be understanding as opposed to demanding, and give without expecting something in return. It is important that you be genuine in your actions, whatever you do, because he will sense the level of sincerity in your actions. Be patient and kind: someone your boyfriend can turn to without feeling judged. Be someone you, yourself, would want to be around. Have things in common: hobbies and interests to share and discuss, just as either of you would have with your own friends. Don't complain: if you don't like something, do something about it. Don't just talk about it endlessly: change can only happen when you take action. Be confident in the love you share. Don't make waves in hopes of getting a reaction to prove your boyfriend loves you, like making him jealous. Many times we want something from our boyfriend and instead of just coming out and saying what is that we want, we prefer to drop little hints here and there: hints that, more often than not, go unnoticed or, even worse, are completely misunderstood. Communication is key in any relationship, romantic or otherwise. It is important to be able to be straight up with your significant other and speak up when something bothers you. Dropping hints that they may or may not pick up is immature and only wastes time you could have spent together cuddling or laughing and enjoying each others company. Instead you're upset, and he's busy trying to figure out what made you upset when he could use that time to hash it out and move forward, leaving it in the past. Be confident in yourself and the kind of girlfriend you are, and he will have no choice but to do the same.

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Erika Potap

I know a thing about a thing or two. Believe in the power of the universe. hope my words can somehow make you smile, even if only on the inside. Questions, thoughts or comments? Email me: [email protected]

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