Here’s How to Put One Together for Use With Your Marriage

You met on a beautiful day and you immediately fell in love! It was like a stone hit you in the head! You were only able to see him, to dream of him, to think only of where he is and what he is doing - and at some point, he gave you a ring - and you became a married couple!

A wonderful time comes after the wedding: you moved in together, you decorated the house together, you now have your own nest and everything is pink. But as if at some point, the pink turns a little gray… What happened? Has he changed or have you changed? So many things you found adorable now have gotten out of the watermelon… Make a list?

Well, first of all, you used to love to cook for them… you dreamed how happy you would be as a married couple and you were delighted when he enjoyed your dishes and told you that you are the most talented cook! When he told you that you cook better than his mother, he made you happy for three days!

But now… what happened? Suddenly, you are no longer the most talented, as if suddenly you don't make enough food, you always make only snacks and potatoes, they are a bit too salty, they are a bit too dry… where did the compliments disappear? Don't think that he can barely make an eye! Maybe if he put his hand to help you, you would gladly cook again but noooooooooo!

And his "original" way of eating and jaw-dropping now seems to make you leave the room! The roar at the end of the meal, which you once considered a compliment to your mastery, now makes you cringe… what has changed?

Before he was a married couple, he found his careless way of throwing a sock in one corner and another in another corner cute and amused you as you found his panties under the pillow! Now you can't stand it, how can such a messy human being be?

Does he do this on purpose? Doesn't he ever get his hands on dust because he doesn't know how? Doesn't he wash because he doesn't know how to use a washing machine?

It is a memorable scene in a comedy series: "Everybody loves Raymond", in which the wife realizes after 10 years of marriage (!) That her husband does not wash clothes, does not vacuum, does not change children's diapers not because he didn't know how, but because he didn't want to! It was his strategy to "make a fool of himself" and to convince him that he did not know how to do a job, to make her take on all the household chores!

Watch the series, it is a parody and at the same time a realistic representation of the married couple!

Now the question is: does he not know how to do housework or does he pretend to manipulate you? The good news is that he doesn't lie to you - usually, and the bad news is that he doesn't even know how to use the washing machine, the stove, the mop…

Did you find it adorable how long ago he was able to leave the house with his shirt undone, his socks untidy, his slit unbuttoned? Now you are responsible for its appearance and there is nothing adorable about it!

You just don't understand why you have to stop him at the door so many times and tell him to change his shirt because he has a ketchup stain on his chest or his pants because they are torn in a certain place!

Moreover, in the evening when you get home tired and you have to start preparing your meal - he's not a magician, he boils water with salt in which to put pasta! he greets you with "that expression"!

That expression, "Honey, I made a fool of myself," which came to terrorize you? You wonder what could be this time: he broke your favorite plates, stepped on the cat, set fire to the bed with a cigarette… what happened?

And on the weekend, just when you are planning to go out somewhere just the two of you to relax, get rid of stress and fatigue, he announces with a grin on his face that tonight he is going out with the boys! It's only been over a week since he last saw them! So you plan another evening at home to do what you do not have time with him in the house: a hot bath, an exfoliation, an epilation… Great!

Returning to the lait-motive question of the article: what happened? Well, you're a married couple! And these little changes are normal, as long as I don't send you straight to the psychiatric emergency department! Gone are the days of love hormones.

At that time, you idealized him, you transformed him, the real ones into the prince of stories that takes you out of your parents' house. You were blind to all the small - or big - defects. But now you see the man! With all his flaws. But also with all the qualities, real this time.

You are a married couple and now you face reality, which is neither pink nor gray. And if you can still look him in the eye and honestly say "I love you!", Everything will be fine. It annoys you, it annoys you… but love yourself!