Girl Code

Intro

Guys have the “bro code." Us ladies, have “girl code.” There have been years of these unwritten unspoken rules that have been followed. I have noticed they are not being followed anymore girl code is dying. This article is especially important to me because I have come to realize these unspoken rules seem to need some speaking on to clear the air. Basic girl code rules are as follows...

Rule 1

It is not ok to ditch someone you care about for your own selfish desires EVER! When I say ditch, I mean to leave them at an event alone to go off with a different group of friends or even a guy. This is especially unsafe due to the extensive history of men secretly drugging drinks, kidnapping, and raping women who are alone. Go to the bathroom with your girl in public. You don't got to go in the stall with her or wipe her booty sis. Just hold her clutch and look in the mirror, apply lipgloss, finger comb your hair, talk to her while she twinkles, you know the usual.

Rule 2

It is not ok to stand up your girl. When I say stand up I mean making plans with her and then cancelling. At least cancel a week in advance so if sis wants to still get active on her weekend she can plan with another friend. Don't do that last minute flake nonsense. The only time that is acceptable is if you have to help a loved one. Haven't you heard, "girls just want to have fun?" Don't nobody want to be stuck in the house all weekend unless you got a newborn and have no choice.

Rule 3

It is not ok to stand idly while anyone talks about your friend negatively and not defend them. Gossip and trolling is for miserable losers. Misery loves company. I wonder... if you can sit with a ring of girls and entertain gossip or join gossip what does that make you? That was a rhetorical question my deer you are indeed the definition of a “hater."

Rule 4

It is not ok to date, kiss, flirt with or have sexual relations with a friend’s past lover. Your friend may say and play really cool like they are ok with this. They are not. If they truly are ok with it those feelings usually change quickly after seeing the two of you together several times.

Rule 5

It is not ok to neglect your friend’s interests. If your girl loves to go to the movies and read but you love doing exciting things like sky diving, meet them half way. One time you guys hang out and watch a movie another time you hang out and go sky diving. A relationship is give give no one person should be doing all of the giving. No one person should be doing all of the taking.

Rule 6

It is not ok to lie. Lies always come to light. If you are not ready to talk about something just say that. No relationship can last on a continuous pile of lies. One lie might have been a mistake because you felt ashamed of it and we all have our faults. After two and three it breaks the trust that once existed when your friend discovers you have been lying.

Rule 7

It is not ok to let your girl look crazy. If you go out and you know your friend does not know how to do makeup and you do, get ready together so you both SLAY. Even if your girl started gaining weight and her clothes are looking a little snug. Don’t eat junk food in her face and be lazy with her. Go to a Queens N Lettos, Afro dance or Pole class with her. Motivate her and get her going. She should do the same for you when she sees you slipping. Friends are your cheerleaders and your support system. They show you the things your parents won’t. They tell you the things an enemy won’t.

Rule 8

It is not ok to be a blabber. If one of your friends tells you something and most of the time it is in confidence if it is just the two of you. Don’t go telling other people. You never know if she wants to keep that between the two of you.

Rule 9

It is not ok to forget your friend’s birthday and gift them as well as telling them, “Happy Valentine’s Day, Happy Easter, Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas, Happy New Year.” Even if you can’t spend time with them on these big holidays you can always do a make-up event at a later day and text or call on the day to let them know you have not forgot them. It may seem petty but these little things mean a lot.

Rule 10

It is not ok to abandon or ignore. Ignoring calls or messages and blocking someone for hurting you is hurtful. These things are for the douche bags who break your heart not a friend who has been there for you. If you choose to do one of these you should be sure you don’t want any point of contact with this person anymore.

Conclusion

These are the top ten unwritten unspoken rules to show you are a “true friend.” Follow this girl code and I swear there should be no departure for your friendship. If you have broken one of these, chances are you are just an associate now. Unless your friend has a high tolerance for nonsense or you performed some magical grand gesture that will make up for it according to your friend.