Emotional q&A: Break up to recover

After understanding the whole emotional development process of the client, the teacher suggested that zhang jing should first improve her own spirit while repairing the trauma, and then evaluate whether the relationship is worth recovering. Six months ago, Zhang met her now-divorced boyfriend, and during the relationship with her ex-boyfriend, she got along well with her mother and friends and family. The relationship developed very smoothly, half a year later began to talk about marriage, but the problem is near the marriage at the critical point. When discussing betrothal gifts, Zhang lost control of her emotions and had a heated argument with her boyfriend. At that time, her boyfriend proposed to break up with her, but Zhang said she could not accept it. After that, they got along intermittently for more than a month. In the last month, the former boyfriend became a little cold and coping, and Zhang Jing also became a little humble and flattering from the original mentality of equal communication. However, her former boyfriend, who still failed to keep her, decided to break up with her. After the second and third behavioral cognitive therapy and hypnosis therapy, I learned that Zhang jing had experienced the psychological trauma of the death of her mother several years ago. When talking about her mother's death, her voice always choked up, her eyes turned red and tears flowed from her eyes unconsciously. After assessment and scale test, it was confirmed that Zhang Jing not only suffered from emotional trauma, but also suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder. In the later one-to-one emotional counseling and spiritual improvement, Zhang Jing was very savvy and quickly got out of the most haze of emotional trauma event, and repeatedly thanked her teacher. Just yesterday, when the teacher was making a return visit, Zhang Jing said that she suddenly stopped thinking about it and opened the wechat of the other party, instead of avoiding and escaping. Last night, after my teacher came home from work, I received a phone call from Zhang Jing. The following is the whole conversation last night. Zhang Jing: Hello! Miss Yang, I'm sorry to disturb you again after drinking a little. I want to call him tonight, and before I call him, I want to ask you if I can do that? Having been separated from him for months, I know I haven't completely moved on from him. I still have flashbacks of our time together in my mind, and I still occasionally pay attention to things related to him, but rarely. Teacher: Hello, dear! Before I answer your question, what is your psychological motivation for making this call? Is it because you can't put it down, or just want to show your partner that you can live without them, regain a little face, and maintain your self-esteem? Zhang Jing: Teacher, it is true that there is still some can not put down, but now, I do not want to redeem, also do not want to declare what to the other side. Miss Yang: Ok, dear! If you don't want to make amends or make a statement, what's the point of calling him? Once, the other side in your attempt to save the time, but also decisively told you that there is no turning back. And, since the separation of several months, has not shown any care and miss to you, is it? Zhang Jing: Ok, Sir, I see what you mean. Then there is no need to make this phone call. Live my own life first, and thank him for his company, and refused to leave when brought me pain and growth, thank you teacher! The consultant thought: In the whole relationship, Zhang Jing's behavior pattern and emotional interaction pattern were excellent in getting along with her boyfriend, and their emotional concentration increased rapidly. Later, Zhang Jing concluded by herself that the development was too fast. Yang said: "Zhang Jing is sensible, gentle, considerate, considerate and understanding of etiquette, and knows how to advance and fall. She has been a perfect ideal wife image in her boyfriend's mind." Can be in that fierce quarrel, zhang Jing due to excessive emotional control, boyfriend heart perfect wife image instantly collapse, put forward to break up, instinctively said that sentence, you or I know that Zhang Jing? Wasn't that the real you?" In the end, they had to break up. Teacher Yang suggested that Zhang jing should not only adjust her positive attitude and manage her positive emotions and sort out her negative emotions in the future emotional relationship. More according to the stage of emotional development, gradually and appropriately exposed a bit of real self personality weakness. After doing more than a dozen emotional q&a sessions, I wanted to put together a brief booklet documenting some of the insights I gained from my emotional Q&A sessions and previous experiences. It can effectively influence some female friends and establish the correct view of marriage and love and the harmonious mode of getting along with both sexes. Pay attention to your partner's psychological demands from the bottom of your heart and constantly adjust the right way to get along. Respect that they, like us, are creatures with souls, not a purse or a son in need of discipline, believe and forgive that they, like us, have a strong and powerful side, but also have a weak side, and different people think that men should be a rich and powerful man who can not be immoral, powerful and military can not be surrendered...

We also believe that the beginning of a paragraph of affection needs predestined relationship also needs to manage, the end of a paragraph of affection needs introspection also needs self-confidence, we believe that no matter men and women, we have the ability to be together sentient beings have righteousness, have to separate when xiaoxiao ssa.