Don’t Normalize Making More Friends

Ever felt like no one's there for you although there are 1000 names in your contact list?

If yes, then rest assured it is normal to feel this way

Don’t worry about making friends; don't worry about making enemies. Worry about winning, because if you win, your enemies can’t hurt, and if you lose, your friends can’t stand you — Bear Bryant.

Once upon a Time in Childhood…!

Since childhood, I have been chasing for friends to have some fun, be it a next-door neighbour or a total stranger asked to join by.

More than an adrenaline rush to hear a friend saying “Come on, Lets go Play”

There are unforgettable moments for everyone of us during our early days, from fighting with best friend to a picnic with them. But why do I talk about old days in life which are over, it’s because that’s the only quality time we experienced.

To be particular without ego, jealousy, and revenge in our minds.

Rumble in the Teen days

This is when the real-life lessons begin. Fooling around when things get weirder due to some hormonal imbalance.

Life hits hard when you got to see buddies isolate coz of your background, superior & inferiority complex. Not only others, even we tend to have some minor factors hidden to left with few.

Times that teach us the value of friendship, yet the hardships that happened along.

Innocent X Curious — Bye Bye!

The two traits that led us throughout the youth days of our life.

The innocence driven before teen days and the Curious mindset that took us too many after hitting puberty.

Here are the few points that had taught us:

• To Love all despite anything (Gender, money, and background)
• To let go of things, to not really make a fuss with
• To share and care
• Actions with good intentions
• When “A friend in need is a friend indeed” actually worked.

After life of youth — the 20s

When assignments and projects matter that you miss time to notice kith.

When insecurities come inside without knocking.

When friends walk out without a trace.

As a victim of this 20s, I have experienced what it feels like to be left out and how to stop chasing after a while.

“Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you” — Dan Carnegie.

This statement should get 1k claps cause this is what it is. I would prolong this sentence by ending it with “but don't get fallen”

Losing someone you’ve been friends with for years, who may have known you and who has been there through all of your romantic breakups, can be even more painful than losing a partner.

Whether it’s a toxic friendship, you’ve grown apart, or you just aren’t compatible anymore. You may have accepted that it’s time to move on and have already come up with a strategy to leave out your friend as amicably as possible.

From looking out for more friends to seeking just one to stay close by, life changed.

Here are the Top 5 lessons from the twenties

1. People Change

People change their interests, jobs, and style all the time, so it’s no surprise that these changes can alter people's personalities. Unfortunately, your friend’s personality may have just changed in a way that’s not compatible with your personality anymore. Don’t sadden that they are no longer who you thought they once were — they may even be happier the way they are now.

2. Companionship varies from one

While some people need a lot of social time, others don’t.

If you’re more introverted, you probably feel most comfortable with a few close friends. The effects of friendship can’t be denied, but those benefits don’t outweigh your personal needs. You know your needs better than anyone else, and by prioritizing them, you’re doing yourself a big favor.

3. Know the difference — Friends & Well-wishers

People misunderstand between them.

Well-wishers are someone who greets or wishes you for your achievements or for things you do, not the friend type.

For example: with some well-wishers, a casual lunch or coffee break might happen, but that not necessarily means to offer more than that.

4. Less social commitment — More self-work

What do you look forward to most at the end of a long day?

Some people want nothing more than to gather a circle of friends and enjoy their company. Perhaps your ideal evening may be well spent with close kith n kin or some arts to work on.

5. Nothing Lasts Forever

Accepting the fact that nothing lasts forever.

Because subconsciously we all want certain things to last forever. We all want to hold on to the things that we love, cherish, are comfortable with.

Life is Life!

Takeaway

Having friends is good. But as they say,

“Too much of anything is good for nothing” which applies to all streams of our life.

Normalizing having a small circle is to be more practiced than having abundance, which drains our time and energy.

Fewer friends mean you are prioritizing more of yourself than others.

More for you to brag about!

“One best book is equal to hundred good friends but one good friend is equal to a library” — Dr. Abdul kalam.