Don't be "too generous" in these three areas even if you have a good relationship

Whether in life or the workplace, people who are calculating always stick in the throat and consciously choose to "stay away". Generous people, on the other hand, can always make people feel good.

So, many young people who are new to the workplace are not stingy with their generosity and will give a hand where they can. They expect to integrate into their new circle as soon as possible in this way and earn themselves a good reputation.

If you have a good relationship, don't be too generous in lending money.

If you have a good relationship, you can talk about anything and help each other with anything, but you have to be careful about lending money. When borrowing money, both sides are happy, after all, deep friendship, and trustworthiness, but also can not wipe the face, it is better to lend it out generously.

However, there is no guarantee that the money will be returned as readily as when it was first borrowed, and there is no need to "call" it. Whether you are a relative, a friend, or a colleague, you should not be too generous with your money, no matter how good your relationship is.

Very often, what you lend is money, but what you get back is a debt.

Fang Cheng my colleague Qiu Ping's husband, has the most complete range of furniture shops in the county, with and an annual income of at least a million. This, Qiu Ping work in the company, know the details of the people, does not feel to her impressed, canand works not help but have a little more respect.

Qiu Ping also never claimed to be a wealthy wife, she dressed in a very normal way, and everyone's relationship was also very cordial, and the group went out to dinner together, if not part of the company to pay for, Qiu Ping will most often quietly check out.

This generosity and warmth naturally won Qiu Ping a lot of praise. But there are others, too, who want to make the most of it. A colleague, Chi, is one of them. He is a good-looking man who works as an accountant for the company. To give his wife, who has no stable source of income, something to do, he joined a milk tea shop, but his hands were too tight, and his family could not help, so he naturally thought of asking Qiu Ping to borrow money.

Without saying a word, Qiu Ping lent Ah Zhi 50,000 yuan and praised him for his courage to think and act. Chi was naturally very happy, soon, the milk tea shop was opened, due to the choice of location, business was actually surprisingly good, and soon returned to the capital, which made Chi and his wife doubly pleased, they opened a second branch without stopping.

Due to the expansion of the shop, although there was a profit, the cash flow was always low, and the repayment of the money was delayed again and again. Qiu Ping didn't ask questions, so Zhi played dumb. Three years have passed and Chi still hasn't paid back the money. But now he is even more luxurious than before, with a new car, a new house, and a new class of life.

Once, at a party, Qiu Ping encouraged everyone to get up in arms and asked Chi to treat him to a dinner to celebrate his success in business. He had no choice but to accept the offer, knowing full well that this was his way of paying back the money.

After the dinner, Qiu Ping received a transfer of money from Zhi, but she also understood that her relationship with him could no longer be as casual and comfortable as before. Although she had helped Chi, in Chi's opinion, it was just a handful of money and not something worthy of anyone's gratitude anymore.

Borrowing money has to be within one's means. If you can't even take care of yourself, don't make a big deal out of it. Once you borrow money, it's like taking money out of the pot and getting yourself into trouble. Luckily, Qiu Ping has strong backing. Otherwise, when it comes to people like Ah Zhi who don't pay back even if they have money, it is estimated that they will have to tear their faces off.

No matter how good the relationship is, don't bother too much when faced with others' family conflicts.

As the saying goes, it is difficult for a clear official to settle family matters. The fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on the subject.

Between women, especially between girlfriends, the topic is always inseparable from the husband, children, and family, there is any wind blowing, are one by one to spill, although this reflects the trust of each other, and also inadvertently gives each other a certain pressure.

Between husband and wife, there is no such thing as peace at the end of the bed. There is no overnight feud, there is just a moment of gambling and heartfelt resentment. If you do not grasp this point, always follow the "blind", in the end, there may be a conflict between them to create.

Xiao Yu was a former colleague of mine, and at that time, we were both teaching at a junior high school. Because Xiaoyu and I were class teachers in adjacent classes, we would discuss everything together and gradually became good friends who could talk to each other.

At first, Xiaoyu lived alone with her children and mother-in-law, but after a term, her husband was transferred from the village school to the urban school. She was happy that the family was finally complete.

But to her surprise, her husband took time out of his week to go back to his old school to meet up with his old friends. After inquiring, she learns that her husband is having an affair with a female teacher and that she is the one he can't let go of.

She is at a loss as to whether she should expose her husband or pretend not to know and wait for him to change his mind. She always told me about this anxiety and anxiety, and I hated her husband for what he had done, imagining that if it had happened to me, I would have cut him off.

But Xiaoyu was originally a very dependent person, and although she was displeased with her husband, she was still very attached to him in her heart. In response, I could only take the approach of "persuading her to make peace but not to leave" and slowly comforted her.

It was a torturous time for Xiao Yu and an even more stressful one for me. Keeping this a secret and pretending that nothing was wrong was indeed devastating.

Sometimes I can't help but want to blurt out the secret about Xiao Yu's husband. But considering how young their children were, I held back and didn't say anything.

The good news is that after a few years of bonding, Xiao Yu and her husband have finally returned to the state of their first love, and are as in love as ever. I was glad that I didn't have any "bad ideas" and that everything went smoothly.

The relationship is good, but you can't reveal your little secrets.

There are some things you would rather keep in your stomach than tell others, even if they are very close.

This day, my neighbor Ah Ching came to my house to borrow some oyster sauce, saying that he wanted to make a cold beef dish. I was curious as to why Ah Ching, who doesn't even cook regularly, was going to show off her skills.

She couldn't hide her happiness and excitedly told me that her sister had found a boyfriend, a rich, second-generation man. The first time she came to the house, the family was very nervous, busy cleaning and preparing the lunchtime meal. Even if there is a huge difference in status, it is important to appear unassuming.

Sure enough, as noon approached, Ah Qing's house was bustling with activity. I couldn't help but look out and saw Ah Qing's sister, holding her boyfriend's hand, happily going into the house. The man looked much older than Ah Qing's sister, and he looked about the same age as Ah Qing's father.

I couldn't help but wonder about this marriage. Later, during a conversation, I inadvertently asked Qing if she was happy with her brother-in-law, and she shook her head helplessly. She said that my sister was actually his lover and that she had only agreed to come to the house this time because she had tried so hard to give her mother and father an explanation.

I regret very much, why I have to ask one more question, there are some things, it is much better not to know than to know. It's better to let these private matters, or secrets that cannot be made public, remain hidden in the back of your mind. If you reveal them, you will not only scare yourself, but you will also give others a "hot potato", and if the news leaks, both sides will feel very embarrassed.

If you have a good relationship, don't be "generous" with everything. Because you have each other's trust, it is important to maintain a sense of boundaries! It is important to have a sense of what you should and should not say. It is important to be clear about what you should help and what you should avoid.

Stick to being yourself, while always standing as a bystander and neutral, offering impartial advice and suggestions. Even if the other party finds it unacceptable and incomprehensible for a while, time will give the most genuine answer. By then, it will be clear which is right and which is wrong.