Do You Waste Time Admiring Other’s Success?

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

We are part of a society that is drunk on success.

From the rank cards in school to salary, spouse, a beautiful house (did I just rhyme there) the parameters differ but the pressure only gets worse.Social media has put a maginifying lens on success. The impact is guilt when we fail to achieve what we wanted. We are only humans - we cannot resist the urge to compare ourselves against the unattainable benchmarks.

So what do we do?

How do still admire Steve Jobs, our boss , the lcollege friend who just got a job in google and also posing with her picture perfect family , yet manage to stay true to ourselves?

There are three ways and here they are:

1. Choose your tribe

Everybody isn't your friend. Just because they hang around you and laugh with you doesn't mean they're for you. Just because they say they got got your back, doesn't mean they won't stab you in it. People pretend well. Jealousy sometimes doesn't live far. So know your circle. At the end of the day real situations expose fake people so pay attention - Trent Shelton

There are people who have a list of everyone doing well in life and try to join them in their pity party of how you just missed the bus. They are lazy to move, they are wasting your time. Do not let them drag you along.

Choose to spend your time wisely. Remember every time you have a choice.

2. Introspect

Are you sure of what means success to you?

Is that what you want or what you were told is good to have?

Ask yourself before starting if investing your lifetime savings, all nighters, take always and achieving that dream is an answer to your definition of success just because your mentor did so. Maybe and may not.

Too many people measure how successful they are by how much money they make or the people that they associate with. In my opinion, true success should be measured by how happy you are.- Richard Branson

It may also be something as simple as learning to accept yourself. Living up to a societal definition of success is not an answer to our inward lacking. Choose your battles wisely.

Will the end result make you happy?

3. Work for work sake

"Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves."- Dale Carnegie

You might be blessed with a encouraging work environment, an understanding family, the genetic lottery, skills yet, real success happens when you start doing work because you love doing it and can keep doing it. For a really long time.

True success happens when we stop waiting for it.

We can start doing things for someone else's sake, to keep the firm happy but not for very long.

Give your very best in what you do and success will follow along.

Closing Thoughts

There is always going to be someone worth admiring. There is always going to be someone better than us when we compare on a high level. The trick is to acknowledge comparing ourselves to others is what makes us human and take the pressure off it. We are here to live and let’s not forget to be grateful for our gifts and work to give it back to the world.

There are wonderful people out there for us to learn from. They are our teachers.

Let us take the lesson, clap for them and keep moving forward.