Disasters That Are Inevitable When Investing in a Relationship

We all know the principle that says that: "love makes you blind". This is true in a certain sense because many fall into fatal disillusions during a relationship that causes a breakup, pain, or acceptance of a disrespectful or unkind attitude from the partner that breaks us inside and makes us suffer.

And above all emotional dependence, which weakens us from the inside, jeopardizes your couple, and plunges many people into anxiety, depression, and feelings of bitterness. All this causes serious damage to the health and well-being of your body. This is far more dangerous than mere physical injury. They accentuate the symptoms of the onset of disease, in particular cardiovascular.

These are states that are inevitable in a relationship, simply because you are not aware of the wealth of information that will be delivered to you to identify your problem and prevent you from suffering definitively. love. Not to mention that it will help you to have a hand in your relationship and your life in all aspects. Hang on because the elements that are going to be discussed, you won't be able to find them anywhere else.

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Many have asked us the question, what will cause my emotional ruin, especially in the context of my romantic relationship? Because all people have realized that they will end up among the 98% of people who will inevitably encounter a breakup or emotional pain sooner or later. Here is the reason why we decided to deliver these secrets about love.

Why do we say that love makes you blind?

Before that, I invite you to read the other topic, which deals with the notion of love and explains what true love is. The title of this article is The 2 big myths in love that will always make you suffer .

Today for a relationship to emerge, there is this phase of seduction and flirtation. The root is at this specific level. Let me explain: During this phase of seduction and flirtation of exchanges via speech, games, and physical contact, we anchor in the brain of the person certain images and thoughts which bring your mind to a state that the 'we call  “state of fantasy ”. In this state of fantasy, you will begin to create films for yourself based on the promises and desires that the partner or potential partner provokes in you.

Our primary instinct is to reproduce. We are designed this way to be able to procreate, but this works against us. That is, we have sexual desires, but his desires are created by lack. Simply because you cannot desire what you got, we always desire what is not within our reach or what we do not have.

In other words, if you desire, it is because you need and want this thing. So you have sexual needs that need to be fulfilled perpetually and constantly. The fact of being in this phase of seduction feeds this need, which creates in you the envy towards the person who provokes in you this state of fantasy. So here love makes you blind simply because you idealize at the root the notion of love as you wish according to what is said by the partner or potential partner in front of you.

So other people have asked themselves the question how is it that I can go from this simple disillusion to a state of suffering in my relational life?

The real reason for our impotence in the couple

A famous proverb says:

"THE HUMAN BEING CONSTANTLY ACTS BY EMOTIONS AND HE JUSTIFIES EVERYTHING BY REASON".

Because of this state of fantasy, you don't just stop at idealizing potential love. In the majority of cases, you end up committing to a relationship. And sometimes the fact of committing further accentuates this fantasy that was created because the evolution of this fantasy gives way to new things. Many psychologists call this the state of passionate love.

This state can be beneficial in that it produces hormones that promote your personal and physical well-being. Unfortunately, there is the other side of the coin if it is not properly controlled afterward. That is to say that you end up falling into a state where passion has become a deep illusion both in the context of the relationship and in your vision of the partner, not to mention the inner turmoil that this causes in your mind. and your emotions.