Dependency or Importance of Balance in a Relationship

Mutuality is one of the most important aspects of a successful relationship.

Complementing each other in a relationship becomes an important aspect when the purpose of the energy invested is to maintain balance, not to tip the balance in one direction or another, becoming either dependent or too distant from the partner.

Although in theory things seem quite simple, in practice it often happens that the relationships we have present along the way (sometimes, even from the beginning) an imbalance that affects us both at the couple level, but especially at the individual level.

It is often said that you have to wait for the right moment to start a relationship. What does this thing mean?

It is assumed that the right time for a new relationship is when there are no regrets or remorse about past or previous relationships and we are independent enough to consider a new involvement as something that crowns a very physical and emotional state. Hi.

However, when someone tells you that your partner showed up at the right time, this often means "when I needed it most." How do we manage the needs in a relationship and how do we manage to keep the intensity of feelings at the same time for as long as possible, without becoming dependent on the person next to us?

An important aspect of the couple's dependence is the fact that the intensive involvement and the exclusive attention given to the partner are not felt as negative aspects in the beginning phases. On the contrary, spending time together, adopting the same lifestyle until adopting the same clothing style are perceived as habits of perfect relationships.

However, spending most of your time as a couple means giving up spending time with family or old friends. It also means giving up passions that are not common to both partners and, last but not least, giving up the moments when we want to be alone.

Under the beautiful mask of discovering the other and as an impact of the passage of time, the addiction in the relationship is often realized late, when it becomes increasingly difficult to try to get out of the comfort zone that our relationship already offers. Addiction leads to the fear of losing your loved one, and fear in most cases alters the feelings that brought the two together.

Addiction and fear lead over time to a growing need for control, which, paradoxically, only affects first and foremost the person and then the partner and long-term relationship. How can we still avoid addiction and what can we do to grow in a relationship?

Don't give up on friends and family

Try to make more time for friends and family. Old friends are the ones who will remind you that you are appreciated by someone other than your boyfriend or girlfriend.

Along with them, you will rediscover the set of common values ​​that brought you together and that you may have forgotten in the meantime. Also, around them, you will have the opportunity to enjoy the old passions and you will focus more on your own person.

Remember that friends and family are the ones who will always be with you unconditionally, but being away from them will make it difficult for them and they will not know how or if to react if you do not involve them in your life. At the same time, try to meet new people and make new friends.

This will help you regain your confidence and pay more attention to interacting with another person. Learn to socialize and get out of your comfort zone! Regaining the feeling of independence is very pleasant.

Always make time for your passions

Whether it's a sport, reading, or some other activity, try to set certain days to dedicate to your passions. It is even better if this involves seeing your group of friends because in this way you manage to socialize and maybe share opinions on the weekend, which you usually did only with your partner.

Thus, you will be able to approach topics independently that you can avoid discussing with your loved one, and the fact that you ask for someone else's opinion on certain issues is a step forward in gaining the independence you enjoyed at the beginning of the relationship.

Another extremely important thing to consider is that, following your passion, you should set some goals and try to achieve them, not just to be happy that you are making time for something else. You will understand at the same time the difference between being ready to do something and being prepared.

Being ready involves making the emotional decision that you want to do something no matter how prepared you are or not. In this way, you will get the satisfaction of the work done by yourself, following a process that involves work and perseverance. You will not need the opinion of your partner in making decisions, nor his help to complete a thing. On the contrary, in any healthy relationship, the partner appreciates when the person next to him is active, involved in various activities, especially when he is successful in what he aims for.

Remember that all these things that made you special at the beginning of the relationship made your partner fall in love with you!

Spend time alone

You will realize over time that no matter how much you love your partner and how well you feel in the presence of him or other people, there will be times when you will want to be alone.

This is not only because you are in a relationship, but usually, the need is greater in this situation just because you spend most of your time in someone else's presence. It is a natural need and it is healthy to give yourself regular time to be alone. It is an essential habit if you want to regain your confidence.

Don't try too complicated things, be yourself and think seriously and sincerely about yourself for a few moments. The time you spend alone can also be used to think about the relationship you have and the perspectives it can offer you, only this time you will learn to appreciate things from your perspective, not yours.

Allow yourself to get bored and think that there are people who have developed a phobia of being alone, for fear of their thoughts, not with their partner or friends. You don't want to end up in such a situation!

Reconsider your relationship with your partner

A habit that is hard to learn, but worthwhile, is not to tell your partner any details during the day. It is an important thing for three reasons: a little mystery has never hurt, on the contrary, only good, at least when we talk about relationships.

On the other hand, it is not beneficial for anyone to load it with small things that they listen to or not, and you will be able to overcome in time the need to receive his confirmation when you have to make a decision. It is not an easy thing to do. It is a habit that develops over time and requires perseverance to get rid of it. But don't think about it, because it's worth it!

It is equally important to learn to say "no" when the situation demands it. If you don't enjoy accompanying your partner to the gym or the movies, don't go. Your lack of interest will make him uncomfortable, and you will lose the time you could spend alone or with friends, or doing what you love. Also, you don't have to make a habit of asking permission when you want to do something on your own.

As you persist in doing this, your self-confidence decreases greatly, and the effects will be seen in the communication between you. You are an adult and you are responsible for what you do. A healthy relationship does not mean doing everything together but giving yourself the freedom to manifest according to your desires and needs. At the same time, a relaxed attitude in this regard is proof of trust and respect for the other.