Dating Foreign Women in Their Hometown vs. Dating Them in Yours

If you’re a Western guy dating a foreign woman, then you’re probably somewhat well-versed in what you’re doing. We have to admit, especially for first timers, dating someone from another culture is a pretty bold move to make. You’re stepping into unknown waters - the realm of unfamiliarity.

That is, unless, you’ve already done it before. Western men in general tend to enjoy the company of women from other countries sometimes, as do many other men from different cultures as well. Some could argue that it’s a universal staple across the world - the desire to experience what is foreign.

But what constitutes foreign?

The idea of someone or something being foreign is a subjective matter depending on who or what is being referred to, as well as who’s doing the referring. You could be a foreigner in the eyes of someone else if you’re in their country, while that same person could be a foreigner to you in yours.

That brings us to the topic of foreign women, as well as the prospect of dating them - a relationship dynamic that many Western men all over the world share in common. It’s highly likely that being in that particular situation is what brought you here in the first place.

For all intents and purposes, we’ll be assuming that you’re a Western man going about this specific dating endeavor. If that’s the case, you probably might have an on-and-off desire to date foreign women, if you weren’t already doing so to begin with.

Either that or they’re the only type of woman you exclusively date. In any case, let’s conjure up some hypothetical situations to provide context to this dynamic.

Let’s say you’re the average American guy living in a mid-Western city in the United States. You’ve toured around Asia and Europe in the past, and you’ve had your fair share of relationships throughout your time abroad.

You’ve probably also noticed how different the game is when you’re the one in their country as a foreigner, but has your love interest ever been the foreigner in yours? To be clear, have you ever dated a foreign woman in your own hometown and noticed the difference?

We’ll elaborate on the slight differences in dating a foreign woman in your hometown as compared to being the foreigner in her country when dating her.

We can start with the fact that:

The person dating the foreigner has the element of surprise.

Let’s say you’re the foreigner in her country - the Philippines or somewhere in Eastern Europe, for example. By virtue of dating a guy from a Western country, your partner (who is a local) has the opportunity to bring you on great adventures.

She’s the expert in this situation - she’ll be your tour guide, your travel buddy, and your passageway to fresh, new experiences. She’ll show you what’s fun to do and what’s good to eat around town, and if you haven’t explored the city that much yet, you’re in for a vividly profound ride ahead of you.

There’s nothing like being led through an adventure of surprises with your foreign love interest. Being a foreign man in a different country is already fun as it is, but it’s even better when the woman you love is the one showing you a good time around town. That’s something to cherish and appreciate.

Likewise, when the roles are switched and she is the foreign woman in your Western town, it’s just as fun for her as well. One thing that’s just as fun as being taken on an adventure in a foreign town is being the guide yourself.

It’s a give and take kind of thing. If you like being shown a good time in a foreign place with your foreign lover, she’d most likely enjoy it just as much when you’re bringing her on an adventure in your own hometown.

Western men in Asian countries tend to stick out more than Asian women in Western ones.

In the Western world, it's not uncommon to see an American man dating an Asian woman. The Western nations of the world are just so diverse and full of multicultural folk that every person from each minority tends to be seen dating others.

It’s a vast melting pot of different races and cultures, so people don’t often take a second look at an interracial couple when they see one. That’s because they’re everywhere in the US.

However, it’s a lot different if you’re a white guy dating a local woman in Southeast Asia - much more different than in Europe or in the US.

Although it’s prevalent in those countries too, it’s a lot more eye-catching and noticeable when Western men date local women in third world Asian countries. You’ll notice a lot more people looking at you in public, like when you two are in the mall or at a street food market.

But it shouldn’t be anything to worry about. That’s just the way it is.

And lastly,

Both are fun either way.

Whether you’re in her country or she’s in yours, dating a foreign woman (or being a foreign man dating a local woman) is full of fun adventures and fulfilling moments. Time and place are irrelevant if you two get along well enough. Either way, it works if you make it work.

In conclusion, these are just a handful of the differences between dating foreign women in your hometown versus dating them in theirs, but the possibilities are endless, since we all perceive things differently.

One thing that’s for sure, however, is that dating foreign women is a pleasure that many people share, and the genuine experience of doing so is a uniquely satisfying thing to behold - regardless of where it happens.

Happy dating, everyone!