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Communication With Both Heart and Mind Must Be Woven With Wisdom

The Secrets of Love

By Ritchie MillerPublished 2 years ago 4 min read
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Communication With Both Heart and Mind Must Be Woven With Wisdom
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The "secrets of love" are the key to personal happiness, to the fulfillment of life. We all have our vision of love. The woman's vision is a little different from the man's vision.

The beginning of the relationship, the butterfly, the emotions, the floating before the meeting… But just as a plant that withers is not withered, so is love. Any non-powered fire will eventually go out.

Do you remember the moments when you couldn't wait to meet the half when you felt like you were floating when everything you asked didn't seem difficult to achieve when his / her voice was the softest song?

Most often it happens that after a certain time to intervene routine, boredom, the slightest gesture of the partner/partner annoys us, we turn the mosquito into a stallion.

Then we begin to wonder: where did love disappear, when and where did everything become a burden. Of course, in such situations, it would be easier to give up, but most of the time with a little effort any obstacle can be overcome. So what is the secret of love or, rather, what are the secrets of love?

As I said before, love is like a fire that is not extinguished. In order not to die out, it is essential to have a relationship based on a solid foundation, communication, respect, and especially love, but not declarative love, but factual love.

The solid foundation is built over time and is based on a true friendship, in which there is openness to each other. Secrets grind us on the inside and gradually decrease our self-esteem. Unfortunately, most people, whether we are talking about women or men when they make a mistake and lie to their partner, it trigger real bullying of lies.

Most of the time, to cover up a lie, you have to say another and then another, until you get to the point where the Bulgarian is so big that it becomes difficult to control. The healthiest thing in a love affair is, to tell the truth, even if the truth hurts. It is the greatest secret of love. Even if the truth hurts at first, remember that a recognized truth is half forgiven.

Why can we say that a solid foundation based on sincerity is one of the secrets of love? Because it brings us closer, it helps us open up and have more and more trust in each other. It is a great achievement when the partners come to have full trust in each other and thus the two become a whole.

Another secret of love is communication. Communicating does not simply mean talking and then "the words flew". Communication is a process in which both the heart and the mind are involved.

To communicate with the heart means empathy, to feel what the other feels, the heartbeats in unison.

To communicate with the mind means to get involved in the discussion, to listen actively and not passively, to ask questions, not to insist when it is not the case, to have discernment when to speak, how to speak, and especially when to be silent.

Most of the time you help your partner by not saying anything, understanding him, and leaving him personal space. Even if we see our partner upset and we sincerely want to help him if he asks us to give him space, give him space.

Communication with both heart and mind must be intertwined with wisdom.

Another secret of communication is not to talk about rage, not to forget that tone does everything. Let's not forget that instead of reproach, if we talk gently and without trying to humiliate our partner can help him open up. Nobody wants to be around someone who always has something to complain about, who is always trying to stand out.

The secret of a love relationship is to never forget that in a relationship we are not in competition, but we are a unitary whole. In a relationship based on love, it doesn't matter who is smarter, with the answer always ready, more boss. For a relationship to work, both partners must communicate openly, honestly and not be embarrassed to address any topic.

Love is the bond that binds two people together. The secret of love is sincere, unadulterated love between two people. Sincere love is proved by deeds, not just words. A hug in a difficult time is more precious than a thousand words. A look full of love thrown at the loved one, both in sad and happy moments, is more valuable than all the gold in the world.

Another secret of love is physical love. Many say that true love does not need physical proof. But if two people love each other sincerely, the chemistry between them is the basis of a satisfying sexual relationship. No matter how many Puritans we try to be, a lot of problems arise, not necessarily due to sexual mismatch, but due to lack of communication and involvement to meet their own physical needs, but also that of their partner.

Another secret for the couple in love is to spend quality time together. It doesn't matter the quantity, but the quality of the time. Instead of wasting time with TV, computer, etc., they would better choose those activities that help them get to know each other better and weld as a couple.

The truth is simple. There is no single secret of love. It takes a lot of work to keep the passion, the love, the love alive. But considering the results, we can say without mistake that the effort is well worth it!

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