Dating: Do's & Don'ts
Dating is complicated. So we simplified it for you. What to do and what not to do - the Dating edition.
How to Keep Love Around
So you think you’re in love. It’s that feeling in your chest, right? Those sparks that fly whenever you look at your partner? The need to be with them every single day? Perhaps this is correct. After all, this infatuation is what romance novels describe as love. It’s when you see someone and instantly know that they are the one for you. That’s what we’re taught anyways. Then those feelings begin to fade and you realize that their cute laugh is obnoxious and their messy tendencies are actually slobbish. Everything that made them beautiful is now, well, annoying.
Will JacksonPublished 6 years ago in HumansThe Autistic Dude's Guide to Getting a Girlfriend or Boyfriend (Pt. 2)
This is Part 2 of my "The Autistic Dude's Guide to Getting a Girlfriend or Boyfriend" series. One challenge that autistic guys face when looking for a significant other is that there may not appear to be many "fish in the sea," or possibilities.
Angel MannPublished 6 years ago in HumansThe Autistic Dude's Guide to Getting a Girlfriend or Boyfriend
While I was at autism camp, I noticed a common theme among many of the guys between the ages of 15 and 50. They were hoping to find a girlfriend. They weren't particularly picky about potential girlfriends. Basically, there qualifications were, the person had to be female and somewhat in their own age group. I also noticed that they seemed to be going about it all wrong. I decided to write a a guide to help autistic guys find a girlfriend, or boyfriend. This will be the first part of a series.
Angel MannPublished 6 years ago in HumansWhy Being Honest Is Crucial to Finding LOVE
I’m sure you’ve all heard the saying: “Honesty is the best policy.” This statement is especially true when it comes to dating and relationships. How can you truly get to know someone if they’re not speaking the truth? The answer is: you can’t. If you're dating and looking to find real love and an equal partner, it's absolutely crucial to always tell the truth.
Heart Centered UniversePublished 6 years ago in HumansHow I Got Over My Breakup
It was really hard in the beginning. I didn’t have a respectful type of breakup where we both spoke honestly. I was cheated on, and I still don’t even know how long it was going on. It was unexpected. It felt like a nightmare and I would wake up, or that it was the end of the world.
Erina KimuraPublished 6 years ago in Humans15 Healthy Marriage Tips
Never go to sleep mad at your spouse. If you do, always sleep in the same bed. You want your spouse to know that even though you're mad at them, you still want to be the person they sleep with every night, and the person they wake up to every morning. Always share your income or earnings with your spouse. I have met several married couples who tell me that they get "Allowance" from which ever partner makes the most money. It's a trust issue if you don't share your earnings with your spouse. Never take sides with your family when it comes to your spouse. And what I mean by that is you should always stick up for your spouse in any situation where either side of the family is talking bad about them. Always stand up for them. Shower together. Not in like a sexual way. Just do it. I find that it can sometimes be a great time to talk about your day, feelings, or just to have a good conversation, because a shower is a good time without the kids or anyone else except your spouse. Make dinner together. It's usually always fun when my husband and I cook together. That's another good moment to goof off together and talk about our day. It's also good to work together doing something. Go to new places. I have found that nothing makes me feel closer to my spouse than taking a road trip somewhere and having all that time in the car to talk and sing together. Then when you get to where you're going, you can just hang out with your spouse. It's a great moment and time to reconnect with each other. My husband and I did this right before we had our first child. Make every decision you make by thinking about the other person first. Make sure they don't have anything else planned, or that they are up for doing whatever you want to plan. Both parties need to be up for doing it, because nobody likes being dragged along, doing something they didn't really want to do. Work together. And I don't mean that literally. I mean, figure things out together. Don't let the stress of bills and life pile up on only one persons shoulders. Help each other through it and talk through it. Make a plan together, if you need to pay some things off. All that matters is that you both are on the same page. Have date nights! And I think I can speak for all the ladies when I say that no women doesn't love a good date night every once in awhile. Gives us women a chance to dress up and look our best. Especially if you're a stay at home mom like me, you really love getting out of those sweatpants and t-shirts. Nothing wrong with a little adult time fun every once in awhile. Communication. That is my biggest one yet. Talk about everything, share everything. Keep no secret or lies. Always tell them everything that bothers you, or even if you just need to vent. This has always been my husband and I's biggest problem because we aren't very good at sharing our feelings with each other. And I'm sure most couples are like this as well. But it's very healthy if you can work on doing so with your spouse. Watch a movie together. Make a huge comfy blanket pallet in your living room floor, with pillows and lots of blankets. And don't forget to order a pizza or Chinese food to eat while watching the movie. Then you can snuggle up and enjoy your little floor picnic. Take a walk. Get out of the house and walk around a shopping center or take a hike. Hold hands and walk around talking. Get some fresh air. And sometimes you've got to do what the husband likes to do. Play some video games with him. He will LOVE it, I promise. Or if your man is more into sports, go outside and toss a football with him, or kick around a soccer ball. It will be fun for both of you. And husbands don't forget to do things that your wife wants to do too. Take her to get her nails done, or her hair. Or if you want to make her really happy, do a house chore with her even asking you to. I promise you, it will make her day. Go out for drinks. Sit at a bar together and talk. Or you can play a fun game where you both hang out in the same bar/club and see how many numbers each of you can get, and by the end of the night whoever has the most numbers wins. And whoever wins gets a back massage later.
Faith PorterPublished 6 years ago in HumansHow to Cope with a Breakup
It happens to all or at least most of us once. Maybe more often, but each time it hurts regardless, especially deeply committed relationships that are long term, sometimes with kids. Even short term flings or affairs can bite if we think of them as special. Rejection is very unpleasant, but there are ways to cope and plan for better times ahead.
How to Get Over a Break Up... Fast
Many people were truly shocked at how well I handled a break up of mine earlier this year. Over the last few months, friends of mine have been in similar situations and turned to me for advice. That is why I have decided to write this piece.
Carla ClarkPublished 6 years ago in HumansUndeserving Love
When we’re little we foresee our adult life being quite picture perfect. You know someday you’ll fall in love and meet the person you are just destined to be with. There may or may not be a white horse sort of speak. However, when we grow to be older and start maneuvering through the wonderful world of dating, we soon figure that there are different kinds of love. Practical, head over heels, predictable, deep, undeniable, and well... toxic. We were never prepared for toxic love. We were prepared for flowers, feelings of butterflies and connecting with someone on a level only the two of you are aware of. The tricky thing with toxic love is that it in fact begins that exact way.
Hillary KeenPublished 6 years ago in Humans3 Things That Lead to Heartbreak
One of my most important functions as a dating and relationship coach is to help people get over heartbreak. Before I can help anyone find the love of their life, it’s crucial that they truly let go of their past. If you’re currently struggling with a broken heart, check out this video I made about how to get over heartbreak here.
Heart Centered UniversePublished 6 years ago in HumansAbuse in Teen Relationships
In today’s age, being in a relationship while you're a teenager is perfectly normal. After being in a relationship myself for a VERY long time, I have met nearly every issue a teen relationship could have. Gas money, where you’ll go on your next date, other girls/boys, stress with grades or sports, neediness , and just plain out disrespect are just some examples. But those aren't as big as what others go through. Abusive relationships don't exactly need to be physically abusive. There are different kinds of abuse.
Julieann AlexanderPublished 6 years ago in HumansHow to Be Romantic With an Introvert
I am an extremely introverted and just flat out awkward person. And my poor husband learned early on that I am not a romantic person… at least not outwardly so. I am adamant that I do not like to be touched (but I do, just only in certain ways and at certain times and by very certain people), I claim that I don’t like cliché romantic gestures, and I’ve just always been difficult at receiving love.
Jessica RowePublished 6 years ago in Humans