Busting Sex Myths

## Myth #1: A Broken Hymen Equals Loss of Virginity

First up, let’s talk about the myth that a broken hymen indicates someone has had sex before. This notion is not scientifically proven. Some women have hymens, and some don’t—it's not a reliable measure of virginity. It’s also worth noting that this misconception unfairly targets people with vaginas, while ignoring those with penises.

One particularly disturbing trend involves rappers like T.I. who request annual gynecological exams for their daughters to check if their hymens are "intact." This practice exacerbates violence against those with vaginas and can create unnecessary health issues. An intact hymen can lead to complications, like obstructing menstrual flow, necessitating surgery. It seems much like a vestigial organ—akin to an appendix, it's not essential for health or function.

## Myth #2: Abstaining from Sex Improves Athletic Performance

Another prevalent myth is that abstaining from sex enhances sports performance. This idea stems from a sex-negative culture, suggesting that energy should be reserved for sports instead of sexual activities. However, there are no studies indicating that abstention leads to improved athleticism.

In fact, more than 450,000 condoms were distributed at the 2016 Rio Olympics, implying that athletes enjoy a healthy sexual life while also excelling in their respective sports.

## Myth #3: Old Condoms Are Still Good

We've all heard someone say, “I found a condom in my wallet from years ago.” Let’s clear this up: condoms expire and can degrade over time. Always check the expiration date and avoid storing them in places where they might be damaged—tight spaces or next to sharp objects.

## Myth #4: Sex Burns a Significant Number of Calories

Many people believe that sex is a hardcore workout, but let’s set the record straight. While sex can certainly burn calories, it does not equate to rigorous exercise. A recent Time article noted that a session of sex doesn’t typically burn more than 100 calories, demonstrating that while it's fun, it's not a substitute for a gym workout.

## Myth #5: There Are Only Two Sexes

One of the most damaging myths is that there are only two sexes. In reality, many organisms, including flowers, possess both male and female characteristics. This binary view can be particularly harmful for intersex individuals, as it often leads to unnecessary surgeries and psychological issues. We must recognize and embrace the complexity of gender and sex.

## Myth #6: STIs Are Contracted from Toilet Seats

Let’s not forget the myth that you can contract STIs from a toilet seat. Scientifically speaking, STIs require specific warm and moist mucous membranes that only exist in the human body. The bacteria responsible for STIs cannot survive long on a toilet seat, rendering this fear unfounded.

## Myth #7: Lubrication is Only for Older Individuals

All individuals can benefit from lubrication—it's not just reserved for older adults. Many people, especially those with uteruses who go through menopause, may experience reduced natural lubrication, making lubrication essential for comfort during sex. It's vital to choose appropriate, body-safe lubes to enhance the experience.

## Myth #8: Sex Equals Penetration

Equating sex solely with penetration is reductive. Many dimensions of intimacy exist beyond that narrow definition. We engage our entire bodies in sexual experiences, connecting deeply with our partners in ways that aren't limited to penetration.

## Myth #9: You Can't Get an STI Again

It’s important to clarify that just because you’ve had an STI doesn’t mean you can’t get it again. Some STIs are not curable, and it is possible to contract different strains of the same infection. Regular testing is vital for sexually active individuals.

## Myth #10: There’s No Treatment for HIV

Contrary to popular belief, while there isn’t a definitive cure for HIV, effective treatments exist. Antiretroviral therapy allows individuals to lead long, healthy lives. Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is available for those at risk, highlighting that strides are being made in HIV treatment.

## Myth #11: Blue Balls Are a Medical Condition

The term "blue balls" implies that sexual arousal without orgasm causes physical harm, which is a myth