People! Understand this…if you can’t love your partner, I mean really love all of them. Lay them down and make love to every inch that is them. Hold that person in your arms and be grateful that they are in your life, put them on that proverbial pedestal that they so richly belong on, see and feel all the scars and flaws and imperfections they may have and look past them. If you have to ask them what they want or need or if they have to ask you for things you should already know…well maybe you don’t know them like you thought. If you have been together for more than a year, you should already know what they need. You should never have to guess and they should never have to ask. If you can’t look at them naked down to the soul and not think that before you stands the most beautiful creature ever created, you don’t deserve them. If you know their back stories, all the horrors and sadness, the joys and happiness and can’t see them as anything less than amazing, they need to move on. They deserve better. If you can’t handle them at their worst you don’t deserve them at their best. and always remember...if you can’t love them as they are or the way they need to be loved, they will find someone who will.
Maybe they don’t have the perfect body and maybe at times they are hard to understand but that’s what makes them THEM. Unique, one of a kind, not the one your mother warned you about but the one she said to wait for. Maybe they don’t look like a model, a little rough around the edges and slightly worn, but they are real and that should mean more than what your eyes see. Maybe they talk a lot or are sometimes very quiet but they are honest and truthful with their words or lack of them. That part of them is worth your patience and understanding.
When making love to them, love all of them. Let them see all sides of you. The body can be a wonderland. Intimacy shared between two people is sacred. It is uplifting and breathtaking. One of the most beautiful acts known to man. Just the skin touching the skin awakens all the senses. Use those senses. Touch, sight, smell, taste. To deprive them of these which you have, is to also deprive yourself of the beauty and art of being intimate. Touch them, smell their scent, taste them and gaze at the beauty before you. They chose you, appreciate that. Acknowledge and respect how difficult it can be for them to totally open up to you and with you. Love being in love.
Use your words people. No one is a mind reader. We all need to hear that we are loved, that we are desired, that we are beautiful and worthy of the best you have to offer. Being intimate isn’t a mystery, it’s not a puzzle to solve. It is natural and it is a two way street. Treat them the way you wish to be treated. Everyone has different preferences but don’t be so shy that you miss out on something very passionate. Put every ounce of your heart into theirs. Love them so deep and so hard that there’s no way they could ever walk away or let go. Show them, tell them, what and how you feel. Let them see that you too are real. Stay honest and true. Make them believe in fairy-tales and dreams.
When the feast is laid before you at the table, taste the delicacy that is theirs. See the beauty that was prepared for just you. Let the scent of them surround you, take that scent in deep and know that it is there for you and you alone. Let your fingers trace every inch as if touching a priceless artifact. Fragile at times but strong enough for your touch. Open your mind and your heart to all that you see. The love flows back and forth from skin to skin. Feel the energy and sensations move between you both. Fall in love with them over and over. Give them all that is you and they will return it back. Love and loving is not difficult but how we approach it can be. Be kind and thoughtful and love being in love.
Love always G