8 Tips on Celebrating New Years After a Divorce
You don't have to feel alone when celebrating New Year's after a divorce. Here are ways you can make New Year's Day and Eve enjoyable.
New Year’s Eve can be the occasion of celebration for divorced couples. Many people wonder why this is, and the first holiday where the transition of marriage is occurring is during the holiday season. The short answer is that the seasons change, and at some point, even those who are happily married may need to take a break. The reasons for this can be myriad, but the most common complaints seem to be lack of communication and inability to solve problems together.
Some couples may need to return to work for a few days in order to celebrate their anniversary with their family. While this is sometimes a necessary action for a difficult cheap divorce, it can also be a reminder of how things used to be before. What was required in the early years of my family’s existence was to have a normal routine, and this is exactly what most couples require in their first holiday marriages. It was important then, that we not only be thankful for the present, but also be able to recognize the good in our relationship.
Returning to Work
It’s important to understand and appreciate how far apart our lives are becoming if we return to work on January 1st after a divorce. Our daily routines are completely different and this can be felt both physically and emotionally. The constant stress and stress reactions of moving around, adjusting to the changes, and dealing with legal proceedings can create a strong emotional pull. While a divorce is not necessarily a healthy choice for most to begin with, in the end, the ability to manage the aspects of our daily lives that are beneficial for our health and well-being is vital.
It’s refreshing to return to work with a sense of purpose and empowerment. Having been through so much, with so many changes, it is important to have some control over how these changes are impacting your life. The exhaustion and stress of trying to manage everything becomes a drag, but in reaching out for answers and solutions, can be helpful in finding the proper way to help you through this difficult time.
What Role do Divorce Coaches Play During the Divorce Process?
The divorce process is a challenging time in your life. You are likely feeling stressed and frustrated with the amount of work that needs to be done and the lack of time that your children are getting to know their other parent. On top of that, parents are likely getting weaker under the strain of trying to do the same for their kids.
All of these factors are factors that play into how your children will process the divorce. There are, however, some roles that divorce coaches have to play in order to serve the best interests of their children.
Divorce Coaches Play an Important Role in the Divorce Process
As a divorce coach, I can tell you one thing is for sure, you will feel differently when working with a divorce coach than when working with an attorney.
A divorce coach will help you look at each aspect of your situation from every angle. From the past year’s results to the future predictors of your future results, the coach will explore the underlying reasons for your divorce and help you make the best decision possible.
Divorce coaching has many benefits. In addition to being a safe place to explore those reasons for divorce, the sessions also provide the opportunity to listen to your side of the story and form your own conclusions.
One of the biggest benefits of divorce coaching is the individual component. Individual therapy helps to develop a holistic view of the past and present. A coach works with each client to arrive at their best post-divorce. The coach develops a mindset that results in the best outcome for each client.
Another benefit of divorce coaching is the camaraderie. With almost all clients sharing a common goal, the coach and the client develop a shared perspective that allows each client to ask the right questions to get the needed information. Most clients don’t realize how much they are helping their divorce process.
Divorce coaching has many bonuses. Most importantly, the coach and client develop a working communication style. This often takes the form of handholding sessions where the client stays in the room with their coach for a period of time.
Another benefit of divorce coaching is the strength of the client’s self-esteem. A client’s self-esteem is very vulnerable. Most women and men see divorce as a failure on their part. In the coaching context, a client’s self-esteem can be a major factor in their belief system of how they will ultimately be treated.