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6 Ways to Know You're About to be Ghosted

How to Tell When You're Being Ghosted

By Liana HewittPublished 6 years ago 3 min read

The vanishing act that is known as ghosting is one of the downfalls of modern dating. What is ghosting? Ghosting is when you suddenly don't want to date the person that you are dating anymore and simply end all communications with them rather than have to break up with them or talk to them. Some ghosters say that they ghost their dates to spare their feelings of the break up but really, in the end, it causes more heartbreak and confusion from not having a reason of why the relationship has ended. Basically, it's the cowards way out of the relationship. Ghosting can be emotionally exhausting for the person that is being ghosted. This is becoming a more and more common occurrence as a way to end a relationship. Below is a list of signs to look for when you're about to be ghosted.

1. You're initiating all of the conversations

In the beginning the texting was mutual and constant. You'd spend the day texting each other, calling each other, snap chatting. All of a sudden there's radio silence. You are the one that's starting every conversation and when you do get a hold of them, the other party has stopped putting effort into their messages. The messages can often take hours to be responded to. Those cute good morning/good nights texts that used to be sent aren't coming anymore, unless you send it first. Their responses are very short and not the paragraphs that they used to be. You start receiving the dreaded "K" reply.

2. They're always busy.

They used to fit you into their schedule all of the time but now when you finally get a hold of them they are often too busy to talk. They claim the reason that they haven't been responding to your messages or calls is that they are busy. Yes, someone can truthfully be busy, but it is now happening all of the time. At all hours of the day.

3. They're always cancelling plans.

When you can get them, and on the rare chance that they are not busy, they will schedule a date with you. This date is almost just to settle you down and buy them some time. Something will come up last minute and they will cancel, sometimes they will even cancel after the date is already supposed to have started. They also often won't try to reschedule the date. They will instead make a vague plan such as "We'll get together soon."

4. You make excuses for them.

Being in a relationship is comforting, so when pressured by your friend to break up with them as they aren't there for you, inevitably, you start making excuses as to how busy your partner is. Not only are you making excuses to your friends and family but you are making them to yourself. They cancel plans not because they want to but because they have to. They aren't replying to messages because they are busy. These excuses for your partner are an excuse for yourself to not look at the red flags, almost as if you are in denial.

5. Everything Moved Fast

From the moment you met it seemed like you've known them forever, you've been inseparable ever since. Things started off as hot and heavy and now seem to be slowing down. Often when we are wrapped up in the beginnings of love we miss all of the warning signs and red flags that have always been there but as the initial love goggles wear off you see some of those flags popping up.

6. You have a feeling that something isn't right.

You have a feeling that something is wrong. The relationship isn't the way it used to be, and yes while relationships do change and evolve as they grow, you have a feeling that this change is for the worse. No one knows a relationship like the people that are in it. If you have a feeling that something is wrong take a step back and look at what has been going on.


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Liana Hewitt

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