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5 valuable lessons I've learned from being married at a young age

Being married at a youthful age has been a comber coaster of feelings, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I have learned that marriage isn't just about the big moments, but also about the little moments. It's about the small gestures of love and the everyday moments that make our relationship special. It's about learning to love someone in a way that is deeper than words can express. It's about growing and evolving together, and I am agitated to see where this trip takes us. I have learned the power of communication, concession, remission, support, and having fun. I have also learned the significance of tone- care, setting boundaries, and maintaining my own identity within the marriage. I encourage others to flash back that marriage isn't always easy, but it's worth the trouble. And to always keep the love alive.

By Courtanae HeslopPublished about a year ago 5 min read
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5 valuable lessons I've learned from being married at a young age
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As a 21- time-old newlywed, I've learned a lot about myself and my relationship with my hubby Daniel in the once time. Being married at such a youthful age has come with its own set of challenges, but it has also tutored me precious assignments that I'll carry with me for the rest of my life. 

One of the most important effects I've learned from being married is the power of communication. Before getting wedded, I allowed  that my hubby Daniel and I communicated well, but I snappily realized that there was still so much further to learn. We've had to learn how to express our passions and requirements in a way that the other person can understand and respond to. We've had to learn to hear laboriously and to be patient with each other when the other person is floundering to find the right words. It's not always easy, but it has made our relationship stronger and further flexible. 

For illustration, one time when Daniel and I dissented on commodity, I could not express my passions in a way that he could understand and it caused a big fight. But also, we decided to take a break, calm down and talk about it calmly and we were suitable to come to a concession that made us both happy. I've also learned the significance of concession.

 In any relationship, there will be times when two people will differ on the commodity. But being married has tutored me that it's not about always getting my way, but about chancing a result that works for both of us. It's about being willing to put the requirements of the relationship before my own requirements. It's about being willing to give a little to get a little. It's not always easy, but it's worth it. According to Dr. John Gottman, a famed relationship expert, "concession is the cement that holds connections together." 

Another thing I have learned is the power of remission. In a marriage, it's ineluctable that there will be times when one person will hurt the other. But being married has tutored me that remission isn't only possible, but it's essential for a healthy relationship. It's about feting that we're all mortal and that we all make miscalculations. It's about letting go of wrathfulness and resentment, and choosing to see the good in the other person. It's about giving the other person another chance and moving forward together. As Dr. Brené Brown, a experimenter and author in the field of vulnerability, shame and empathy, countries, "remission is giving up the stopgap that the history could have been any different. It's accepting the history for what it was and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward." I have also learned the significance of being probative and encouraging. 

My hubby Daniel and I've different interests and pretensions, but being married has tutored me that it's important to support each other in those effects. It's about being there for each other when effects are going well, but also when effects aren't going well. It's about being each other's biggest cheerleader, and lifting each other up when we need it. For case, Daniel is an artist and I am more into business, but I always try to support him in his creative trials and I am so happy to see him thriving in his passion. 

Incipiently, I have learned the significance of horselaugh and having fun. Being married can be serious business, and it's easy to get caught up in the diurnal routine of life. But being married has tutored me the significance of chancing joy and horselaugh in the little effects. It's about taking the time to enjoy each other's company and to make recollections together. It's about not taking life too seriously, and flashing back to have fun together.

 Being married at a youthful age has been a comber coaster of feelings, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I have learned that marriage isn't just about the big moments, but also about the little moments. It's about the small gestures of love and the everyday moments that make our relationship special. It's about learning to love someone in a way that is deeper than words can express. It's about growing and evolving together, and I am agitated to see where this trip takes us. In addition to the assignments I have participated, I have also learned the significance of tone- care and maintaining my own identity within the marriage. It's important to flash back that you're your own person and to take care of yourself emotionally and physically. I have also learned the significance of setting boundaries and standing up for yourself within the relationship. likewise, I have learned that marriage isn't always a bed of roses, it has its ups and campo. still, it's important to flash back that when times are tough, you can always lean on your mate Daniel for support and that you'll come out stronger as a couple. 

In conclusion, being married at a youthful age has been a precious literacy experience that has tutored me numerous important assignments. I have learned the power of communication, concession, remission, support, and having fun. I have also learned the significance of tone- care, setting boundaries and maintaining my own identity within the marriage. I encourage others to flash back that marriage isn't always easy, but it's worth the trouble. And to always keep the love alive. It's important to note that my hubby Daniel has also learned a lot from being married to me. We've grown and evolved together, and I'm thankful for the love and support he provides me. Together, we've faced the challenges that come with being youthful and recently married, but we've also endured the joy and excitement of erecting a life together. I would also like to emphasize that marriage isn't one- size- fits- all, and what works for one couple may not work for another. But the key is to always communicate, compromise, forgive and support each other. And that is what I have learned from my marriage to Daniel, that it's each about erecting a strong foundation of trust, love and understanding. In conclusion, being married at a youthful age has been a precious literacy experience that has tutored me numerous important assignments. It's not always easy, but with the right person by your side, it's worth the trouble. And I'm thankful to have my hubby Daniel by my side as we navigate through this trip called marriage.

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Courtanae Heslop

Courtanae Heslop is a multi-genre writer and business owner.

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