5 Reasons Why Love is a Fallacy...

I don't believe in love. Why? Well, because if we really think about it, there's no such thing. There are many personal reasons that you may feel like there is no such thing as love, but there are also several logical ones and that is what I'm here for. I don't like going through my own personal experiences purely because I don't think I've ever loved anyone. I also don't think you have either. You probably think you have but you haven't and I'm not sorry to say it.

Let me show you why...

5 Reasons Why I Don't Believe in Love

1. Nobody can ever decide what it is

Is love forever, is love fleeting, is love here or there? For some reason everyone seems to have a different explanation, most of which is based on their own situation of commonly 'romantic' love (which technically is the most non-existent form of all of the modes of love but we'll come on to it soon). Therefore, the meaning of the word becomes diluted and changed. If we don't know what it actually is and whether it is actually lasting or not, how can we know whether we are experiencing it? We can't. Thus, the people who think they are experiencing it could possibly be very wrong and now that brings you on to the reason why it may not exist at all.

2. There's certainly no such thing as romantic love

Romantic love is one of those that when people tell me about theirs, I laugh. It's mainly because romantic love is just the euphoria experience by attraction mixed with extreme 'liking'.

A dopamine rush to the brain which is pretty much a similar thing that happens when you look at your favourite food when you're hungry or a cute pet. Chemically speaking, people who go off 'I'm in love with X, Y and Z' for their existence are submitting to an emotion which is very likely to start dying the moment that you pay attention to it. It's like a dangerous sense of irony that I can't help but giggle at.

Would you like the chemical experience of being in love? Eat a piece of very dark chocolate really quickly and wait about two minutes. It's far easier and cheaper and it makes you look like less of the fool.

3. People claim and then claim that they aren't...

When it comes to an intense emotion (as it is called), we are more likely to feel it nearly all the time. For example: being depressed, being paranoid, being upset etc. All of these are socially known to be very powerful emotions that can't get simply 'switched off'. But obviously, these rules don't apply to what has been socialised to be the strongest of all the feelings: 'love'. This one, especially romantic love and platonic love, can be turned off and on at will for some reason and people can claim and claim that they aren't in love from day to day. Personally, I love to see this because you have all proved my point for me.

It cannot exist because nobody seems to be ever feeling it. Or they are feeling something and they don't feel it the next day and they've accepted that this must be 'love'. I find that very hard to believe. It is a fallacy.

4. If you wanted to lower your inhibitions, there are easier ways of doing it without doing the damage to your mind...

Alcohol is known for lowering social inhibitions, it heightens certain chemicals in the brain whilst you are feeling 'tipsy' - a similar thing to what the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship does. However, if you are in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship - this doesn't wear off for a while. On the other hand, alcohol can wear off within the next day or so. Getting tipsy once here and there won't do irrepairable damage to your character if you simply stop doing it. Whereas, when the honeymoon stage is over, the vast majority of romantic couples realise they don't actually love each other. What happened to 'love' here?

It is a fallacy, that's what happened.

A series of chemicals being heightened and lowered in the brain for a short period of time can be a good thing here and there, but in terms of 'romantic love' it is dangerous and can destroy a person's wellbeing because of the long term effects. Plus, the 'downer' afterwards is far bigger emotionally than the short come-down from tipsiness. My question is: why don't you just have a drink? One drink can do less damage than what you're doing to yourself at the moment.

5. Some people desperately want it to exist for the better...

Now we know that love is a fallacy, we have to see why certain people base their entire existence on it. I don't just mean romantic love, I'm talking about every kind of love you can think of. If we know that we cannot be stuck with one person, or a group of people, forever (mainly because we are social creatures who seek out others - proven by human biology and genetics), then how can we possibly think that staying with one person or group of people for the rest of our lives is an important aspect to our being? It isn't. We have just conditioned ourselves to believe so because our society decided that this was the best way to get us to eventually shut up and sit down. It does not exist for the better if it exists at all.

Conclusion

Yes, it's a fallacy. The whole thing is a scam of society upon the human mind. An attack of long term damage in which we are forced to 'remain' rather than 'explore'.

Some people tell me 'well, you just haven't found the right man...' And I don't think they get it. It really has nothing to do with me, or men, or even just romance. Romance is probably the easiest to make fun of but even platonic love has a honeymoon phase. Familial love has extreme boundaries and conditions which makes you question whether this is actually love or just a meticulous chess game by the people who hold all the cards.

All in all, love is a fallacy.