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13 Signs Your Ex Will Come Back to You Soon

Wondering if it's over for good? Not sure what your ex is thinking? These signs your ex will come back suggest you might still have a chance with him.

By Iggy PaulsenPublished 5 years ago 8 min read
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Breakups suck. Breakups are not always permanent. In fact, there are plenty of happily married couples who have broken up prior to tying the knot. Seeing couples reunite is rather common, often to the point that it becomes cliche.

That being said, it's not always a given. Some people split and are done for good. It can really hurt, too, since it's not uncommon for people to break up with those who they saw a future with.

Even if your relationship wasn't healthy, chances are that you still think of your most recent ex. It's normal to think, "What if?" Everyone who has ever gone through a breakup has wondered whether their most recent ex will ask for them back.

Wondering if your ex is thinking of you? Curious to see if he wants to get back together? Here are some signs your ex will come back sooner than you think.

He's talking to his friends about you.

Generally speaking, people talk about what they care about. If he's got your name stuck in his mouth, he still cares about you in some way, shape, or form. If you've heard that there's an uptick in the number of times he mentions you, then it's safe to say that he's thinking about hitting you up once more.

That being said, this alone isn't one of the surefire signs your ex will come back to you. If he's doing little other than talking about how awful you were to him, chances are that he's actually just working through trauma more than anything else.

You've seen him hanging around your haunts, or caught him Facebook stalking you.

Exes don't just randomly show up in places for no reason. If you're seeing him suddenly showing up on your feeds, trying out your favorite bar, or doing similar stunts, chances are that he has been missing you pretty badly.

Generally speaking, "accidentally" running into people you know or going to places that are more "your" thing, it's a good indicator that he wants to get back with you.

He's tried to come up with excuses to meet you.

Did he all of a sudden "need" his contact lens case with his daily disposable lenses? Did he just remember that he left a pair of socks at your apartment? Let's be real. Unless he's starving out on the streets, he really won't miss out on a pair of lousy socks.

Accept these signs as what they are: an excuse to talk to you. If he's trying to talk to you, then it's pretty safe to say that he's looking for another chance with you.

He's gone "no contact" after you officially broke up with him.

This is a tricky signal to understand, but it's one that is very much worth examining in its entirety. Most men will go no contact for one of three reasons:

  1. He is seriously hurt. If you seriously hurt his feelings or have really put a damper on his ego, then there's a pretty decent chance that he's licking his wounds a bit. This suggests that there might be a chance to get back together with him, given that he gets over the hurt.
  2. He was already over this relationship, but you didn't notice. Was he the one who broke up with you? Did he seem totally uninterested in even trying to patch things up? Were you blindsided by it? Chances are that the breakup was heavily premeditated and it's done for good.
  3. He's actively trying to get you to miss him. Almost every single site filled with advice on how to get an ex back will suggest not contacting the ex. If you have a hunch that he misses you, his use of "no contact" could be one of the most telling signs your ex will come back to you in due time.

Since you two broke up, your ex hasn't really been doing well.

A lot of people tend to collapse during a really bad breakup, and chances are that you've witnessed this once or twice in your life. Truly devastating losses can easily cause people to go into a downward spiral in every aspect of their lives, which is why seeing an ex become troubled is often a sign that they regret leaving you.

Things like suddenly being unable to keep a job, gaining weight, new addictions, and even things like being unable to keep a partner all suggest that your ex is trying to bury the hole that was left in their hearts once you two split. All things considered, this is one of the more telling signs your ex will come back to you eventually.

His friends have approached you asking you to talk to your ex.

While a lot of signs your ex will come back to you are pretty vague, this one isn't. If it's gotten to the point that he's starting to use his friends as a way to talk to you, it's pretty safe to say that he's missing you pretty badly. In fact, it's also safe to say that he's pretty desperate for you to take him back.

When he sees you, his eyes light up—or he gives you a "sad puppy" face.

Guys who don't care about their exes will not have a major reaction when they see them in public. Seeing you won't matter enough to them to actually get a reaction like that. The only time you'll notice that kind of reaction will be when they miss you, or when they want you back.

As far as facial expressions go, giving you a sorrowful look is one of the best signs your ex will come back to you relatively quickly.

He's started to reach out to you as a friend.

Though it's very possible for exes to remain friends, most exes who reach out to others don't do this as a way to keep a friendship alive. Rather, it's their way of trying to wheedle their way back into your life—and hopefully convince you to give them a second chance.

The happier your ex is to keep you as a friend, the more likely it is that they will eventually ask if the two of you could try to make things right once more.

He's been sleeping with everything that has a pulse.

Counterintuitive as it may be, a man who is sleeping around and going nuts at the clubs isn't a happy guy. The same can be said for women who go wild with guys post-breakup; they're looking for a rebound because they need to cover up the pain they feel.

People who do this also tend to be the ones who will rebound with someone to make a point of showing how "happy" they feel without you in their lives. From personal experience, I can tell you that the people who do this almost always end up returning and begging for a new beginning.

He tried to get a booty call from you.

All guys tend to want to have sex, but even with that yearning for nookie, most guys still will think twice before hitting up an ex. If a guy was really over you, chances are that he would not be too keen on trying to sleep with you again.

If you notice that he's trying to get you interested in sleeping with him, it's pretty likely that you've noticed other signs your ex will come back to you alongside it. At this point, you can probably get him to agree to be yours once more.

He won't stop calling you, texting you, or trying to reach out to you.

In the majority of breakups, people will do what they can to try to distance themselves from their ex. It's their way of showing that they are "stronger" than to grieve over you, and it's their way of trying to take control of the way people perceive them.

An ex who can't bear to be apart from you will just not be able to keep that stiff upper lip. This is doubly true with macho men. He's hurting so badly, he needs to talk to you just to try to make things better!

His being unable to stay away from you is pretty darned telling, and tends to be one of the biggest signs that your ex will ask you for forgiveness.

His Facebook is filled with statuses related to you, or reminiscing about the years you two dated.

Oh, this is kind of cringey. We know it's painful to look at, but let's be real. Both men and women have a tendency of having their true feelings leak out on social media, particularly after a very bad breakup.

That being said, most people dealing with a rough separation are able to control themselves when it comes to their social media profiles. We all know it's not attractive to see mopey profiles, so we do what we can to resist the urge to get mopey.

If your ex has started to post statuses dealing with you, it's safe to say he's probably going to come back to you. But, would you really want to be with someone who did something that cringe-inducing?

Objectively speaking, you treated him damned well.

Speaking from personal experience, this is one of the best signs your ex will come back to you eventually. It's also one of the most rational reasons why people will want to come back, since realizing what you lost can seriously hurt.

The dating scene isn't easy to navigate. Most of the people who are looking for love really aren't going to treat their partners well, and once your ex realizes that, chances are that they'll start knocking on your door once more.

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About the Creator

Iggy Paulsen

Iggy Paulsen is a fan of anything and everything wholesome. He loves his two dogs, hiking in the woods, traveling to Aruba, building DIY projects that better humanity, and listening to motivational speakers. He hopes to eventually become a motivational speaker himself.

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