Loving You by Loving Me: October 2019's Full Moon in Aries
On Sunday, October 13th at 5:07 PM EST, there will be a Full Moon at 20'13 degrees Aries, teaching us how to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship with ourselves.
What is a Full Moon?
A Full Moon occurs when the sun is opposite the moon, representing the peak, or climax of the lunar cycle. Throughout history, Full Moons have been known to cause unexpected events, and strange behavior. Because the two luminaries are in opposition to one another, Full Moons are known to highlight any opposing forces or polarities in your life, such as the balance between self and the other, the balance between the masculine and feminine, and the balance between work and home.
Full Moons are also good times to reflect on where you are in life, and where you are headed. While the period between the new moon and the Full Moon is a time for setting (and achieving) goals, the period between the Full Moon and the next new moon is a time for letting go. Full Moons can also bring about climactic events, and awaken us to powerful truths and realizations. The effects of a Full Moon usually last about two weeks, until the new moon comes along and starts a new cycle.
The Full Moon in Aries (opposite the Sun in Libra) highlights the balance between self and other, confrontation and diplomacy, war and peace.
It may help to think back to whatever intentions you set around the New Moon in Libra, for they should be coming into fruition at this time, as well as six months back to the New Moon in Aries on April 5th. Certain themes may be repeating themselves. Whatever thoughts or intentions you plant now should come into fruition by the New Moon in Scorpio, on October 27th.
Check your natal chart to see which houses Aries & Libra fall into. This will tell you more about how the Full Moon will affect you personally.
Those with personal planets or angles between 15 and 25 degrees of the cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn) will most especially be affected by this Full Moon.
Full Moon in Aries
The Full Moon's themes will usually be related to the New Moon before it, and September 28th's New Moon in Libra was all about love and romance. It only brought me loneliness, so I'm hoping that, by the time of the Aries Full Moon, my wishes will come true and my intentions become manifest. Will they?
The polarity of the Moon in Aries versus the Sun in Libra is about relationships, just not necessarily of the romantic kind. It's more about our instinctual needs, our selfish feelings and desires, and how we cope with them, knowing we exist in this world interdependent on others, knowing we live in a society where we're expected to adhere to a certain code, a code put in place to keep us all safe and happy and prevent us from hurting each other. Our feelings are valid, and healthy to have, but it can be hard sometimes, figuring out the difference between healthy concern for yourself and your well-being, and pure assholery. It can be hard, figuring out the difference between a necessary consideration for others and pure doormatism. We don't want people to walk all over us, but we want to maintain healthy connections too; we want to love ourselves and give ourselves the necessary self-care to function, but we don't want to be bad people. This Full Moon is all about learning how to properly strike that balance, something many of us struggle with at one point or another.
The energies of this Full Moon are magnified by an almost exact square to Pluto at 20'39 degrees Capricorn. This brings power struggles to the forefront of our relationships. We might encounter underhandedness, and manipulation behavior, on the part of others; or we might be tempted to stoop to that level ourselves. We might feel the need to cut people off, or we ourselves might find ourselves the ones ghosted and abandoned. How do we deal with this? How do we deal with the intense emotions relationships (of any kind) often bring, in a healthy and productive manner? How do we determine what's healthy and what's not? The difference between healthy conflict and outright toxicity? It's true that true love is not always what you see in fairy-tales. You can't expect your partner to be a prince charming, catering to your every whim; true love is about accepting a person as they are, even when disagreement and argument arises. It's normal, even healthy, in a relationship, for there to be a few occasional bumps in the road, but with patience and communication from both parties, these bumps are eventually smoothed over. A relationship should never, ever, ever, however, be a rollercoaster.
The Full Moon is also, however, aided by an even closer to exact trine to the great benefic Jupiter at 20'07 degrees Sagittarius. Any conflict we may encounter will likely be educational, and/or quickly and easily resolved. Any losses will actually become gains. It helps to look at any challenges we encounter as opportunities for growth. Other people are often mirrors to ourselves, reflecting back at us what we need to work on.
The Full Moon trine Jupiter shows that this is a positive time overall. Many of us may find ourselves taking the time this weekend to do things that we enjoy, whether that be something active and athletic, something artistic and creative, or something more relaxing in nature. We are learning how to properly care for and nurture ourselves; how to channel our sometimes negative emotions into a healthy container. We're learning how to say "no," and stand up for ourselves when needed. We're learning that it's OK to disagree, that not everyone is going to like us nor are we going to like everyone, and some connections just aren't meant to be—but that doesn't mean we can't be civil or respectful either. We're learning to set boundaries from a place of purity and love. Jupiter, by necessity, is also almost exactly sextile the Sun in Libra, reminding us that yes relationships are important, very important, but in order to nurture those relationships, and maintain healthy and fulfilling connections with others, we need to take time to care for ourselves as well, because whatever we feel is going to be reflected right back at our partners and friends. Whatever baggage we carry, we're taking with us. It's best we unload the baggage first, so we can bring with us our very best selves to the relationships we value.
Some other aspects include a one-degree opposition between Uranus Rx in Taurus and Venus in Scorpio. This could bring some instability to our relationships but also excitement. In relation to the other elements of this Full Moon, I think this opposition could highlight our need for individuality and freedom in relationships. That is not to say freedom from relationships—I think an important distinction to be made—but the freedom to truly be ourselves with people. Relationships benefit from our own unique qualities that we bring to the table. This is one reason why losing yourself in your partner or relationship is so dangerous, because think about it, most of us don't fall in love with the people that mirror us and kiss up to us, with no distinctive personalities of their own. We fall in love with the individuals who stand out to us. We fall in love with people for who they are, and it's important not to lose that. Venus in Scorpio is currently in mutual reception with Mars in Libra, also, which I think places an important emphasis on relationships overall.
Another aspect to mention is Mercury in Scorpios 1 degree trine to the North Node in Cancer. With everything else in mind, this aspect will likely bring deep and intimate conversations that will facilitate our spiritual growth and evolution to become our best selves.
Overall, to answer my own question, I will say that yes, this Full Moon is about relationships. It is about love, but first and foremost it is about cultivating a healthy, loving relationship with ourselves. Because by cultivating a healthy, loving relationship with ourselves, we can ensure that we fully show up in our other relationships with people we love and care about as the best we can be.